The Key to Everything
by Dr. Gary Chapman

Want to know the secret to everything?

I think I have it - the key to the whole thing.  Jesus, the greatest leader the world has ever known, on His knees with a basin of water and a towel, washing the feet of his followers.  Rising to explain his actions he said: "I'm your leader and in my kingdom this is the way you lead."  We lead others by serving others.  

Put that principle into your marriage and you will have the key to everything.   

Husbands who ask: "What can I do to help you?  How can I make your life easier?  How can I be a better husband to you?"  are the husbands who are becoming true followers of Jesus.  Their leadership will get a response from their wives.  Very few wives will walk away from a husband who is serving her, seeking to meet her needs, thinking of her interests above his own. 

Gentlemen, if you want a growing marriage.  Nothing is more powerful than becoming a servant leader. 

Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman.  Based on the book,  The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishing.  For a complete listing of Dr. Chapman's books and resources, click here.     

Mediocrity is not what God had in mind when He created woman and man, relationships, and marriage.

We read in the story of creation that God made man in His own image. He created man to be relational. This certainly seems to resonate with our desire to be in a healthy, committed, caring relationship. God decided that for the man to be alone was not good. So He created woman. God had high aspirations for how two people could come together, helping each other to be more complete and satisfied than either could possibly be alone. Yes, our relationships can be so much better than they are.

What is the vision for a successful marriage?

- Marriage is a safe environment in which we can be completely open, be vulnerable, heal and grow.

- Marriage is a relationship in which we can experiment with different aspects of our nature, being playful, creative, spiritual, honest, intellectual, and adventurous.

- Marriage includes joyful, romantic love and physical, emotional, and spiritual union.

- Marriage is a refuge from the stresses and struggles of everyday life.

- Marriage is an opportunity to come home to be with our best friend in loving companionship.

Does this sound impossible for you? If so, I hope that you will dream with me about the day when these possibilities will become your reality. They are possibilities, but only if both people share the vision.

Content taken directly from  How Trying To Change Him Is Hurting You  by Dr. David Hawkins published by Harvest House.