The Importance of Positive Attitude 
by Dr. Gary Chapman

A positive attitude can be the salvation of a difficult situation.  A lady said to me: "My husband hasn't had a full-time job in three years.  The good part is that we can't afford cable TV, so we spend a lot more time talking on Monday nights."   

She went on to say, "These three years have been tough, but we have learned a lot.  Our philosophy has been 'Let's see how many things we can do without that everybody else thinks they have to have.'  It's amazing how many things you can do without.  It's been a challenge, but we are going to make the most of it."

There is a wife who has learned the power of a positive attitude.  Do you think it has been easy for her?  For him?  Not at all.  But a negative, critical,  pessimistic attitude would have made things worse.  Why would you want to make things worse?  

We must not yield to our natural tendencies.  We must seek to walk the high road of looking for God's hand in everything.  Even in a troubled marital situation, God is always at work.

Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman.  Based on the book, Desperate Marriages by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishing.  For a complete listing of Dr. Chapman's books and resources, click here.     

Myth #2:   

If you don't look or sound angry, you don't have an anger problem.   

This myth assumes that whenever we experience the emotion of anger we are probably aware of it, and it can't help but reveal itself in some way.     

Myth #3:   

Anger always leads to some form of violence, and therefore it is never good to be angry.   

Denial of anger can serve to obscure and hide true hurts, needs, and concerns.   

Myth #4:   

If I express my anger to someone I love it will destroy our relationship.  Anger and love just don't mix.  

If I am aware of my experience with anger and choose to express it to someone I love in healthy ways, it can be used of God to increase our mutual understanding and help strengthen and enrich our relationship.