Keeping the Love Tank Full
 by Dr. Gary Chapman

The need to feel loved by one's spouse is at the heart of marital desires.  A man said to me recently, "What good is the house, the cars, the place at the beach, or any of the rest of it if your wife doesn't love you?"  Do you understand what he was really saying?  "More than anything, I want to be loved by my wife." 

Material things are no replacement for human, emotional love.  A wife says, "He ignores me all day long and then wants to jump in bed with me.  I hate it."  This is not a wife who hates sex; this is a wife desperately pleading for emotional love.  Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another.

I believe this need can be met in any marriage, if each of them  will discover the primary love language of their spouse and speak it regularly.  There are only five love languages.  Your spouse desperately craves one of them.  Make it your goal to discover it and speak it, and their love tank will be full.  

Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman.  Based on the book, The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishing.  For a complete listing of Dr. Chapman's books and resources, click here.  
 

For Your Husband:

Secretly buy him tickets to a special event.  Plan a lunch/dinner date on the day of the event.  After dessert, give him the tickets.

Have your guy write down on slips of paper his five favorite things to do.  Fold them and place them in a bowl.  Let him draw one out and read it - then do it together.  

For Your Wife:

Take her on a date to a bookstore. Tell her you'd like to find a book you can read together.   

 Find the book your wife is reading and leave some encouraging notes in it every 20 pages or so.