Edited Journal Excerpt
I knew a lady who told me that God told her He was going to restore her marriage but the marriage ended in divorce and her ex-husband married another woman. The lady said she stood in faith for years and she had peace that God would bring her husband back home as a godly husband and father to their children. I wanted to understand how reality had clashed with God's promise so I kept asking questions. The woman said that when she was a 'young Christian' she didn't understand that God would not violate a person's free will. She said she didn't realize that her husband had the right to say no, despite her prayers. I tried to explain that I understood that but God is greater than time and if God tells you something will happen, then He doesn't have to guess about another's will. God has already seen that person's choice; He has seen the beginning and ending of all our lives. Why would God tell you your marriage would be restored and give you peace about it if that wasn't really the case?
This godly woman said she even received a prophecy from a visiting minister at a friend's church. The prophet called her out of the crowd and described her husband perfectly in detail. The minister said God was going to restore her family. It was quite amazing. At first I was so hurt and upset. How could God do that to her? But as I listened more and asked questions I understood. What I have gathered is during their separation this woman saw her husband with another woman. 
She prayed and came across the scripture which allows divorce for adultery. I asked directly did her husband marry another woman while she was standing in faith for her marriage. No. She was the one who filed for divorce. I believe it was this woman's will that God would not violate. I think if she'd continued to stand in faith then God would have restored her marriage. God did not lie to her. She gave up. She gave up too soon.
My belief is that God is merciful and will still do His best to give you a happy ending. If He sees you are unwilling to endure what is needed to receive the promise He'll still give you something good. He's always working to make things work out for His children, even when they've said no to His perfect plan.
I feel much better. I feel like I have more clarity and understanding. My God is a good God who loves me. I think that if I'm willing to endure and wait and go through [the process] God will work things out just as He said He would. God wouldn't have promised it or given me peace if it weren't possible. But I have a choice. God's not going to force me to do anything. Thank You so much Goddy. That releases me from feeling like a victim; like an abused child that God would sacrifice for His agenda.
