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Don't Take Yes for an Answer!  

In This Issue:
Shifting Self-Love from Negative to Necessary (by Kathy Simon)
Don't Take Yes for an Answer! (by Miki Kashtan)
Out and About with BayNVC
Office Happenings





Learn NVC with Kathy Simon! 

In our societKathy Simon headshoty's day-to-day speech, there are many words that seem to denigrate self-love and self-focus. Here are a few: self-absorbed, self-centered, self-satisfied, self-important, selfish . . . NVC suggests the radical possibility that practices that might be called self-centered can in fact serve as the foundation for our ability to love and contribute to others. Read Full Article  by Kathy Simon

LIVING PEACE RETREAT: February 4 - 9       

Santa Cruz RedwoodsThe Living Peace retreat is a perfect way to immerse yourself in the beauty of NVC community. The retreat typically draws participants with considerable NVC experience who want to bring their understanding and proficiency to a new level, and also those who are new to NVC and want to immerse themselves in NVC skills and consciousness. Each day provides plenty of time to work in small groups and to receive one-on-one coaching around the issues that matter most to you. Register



Participants of this retreat may apply to continue their learning in the BayNVC Immersion Program which will meet at BayNVC one weekend per month in 2011, beginning in March. 


NVC FOR COUPLES:   Thursdays 7-9pm, January 20 - March 10


Our intimate relationships are so important to us, and yet sometimes we struggle to connect with our partners, struggle to understand them, and struggle to express ourselves both authentically and lovingly. In this series, you will explore how to use both big and small challenges in your relationship as opportunities to grow both individually and as a couple. Register 



A Workshop for Couples   (with Cathy Bucher)

Sunday, March 6, 9:30am-5:00pm 

HeartOur partners tend to be those with whom we feel most frustrated. Over time, we can lose our sense of easy connection and playfulness as a couple. In this workshop, you will have the opportunity to explore some of the tensions in your relationship and to gain skills for understanding yourself and your partner more deeply. Register


Register Now! Starts Jan 22

Only 2 Days Remaining to Apply for the Leadership Program!


There is still a short time to apply for the 2011 Leadership Program.  Be part of our tenth year of supporting learning, integration, growth, and community for participants who are now sharing NVC all over the world. Apply Now



Flex Your Empathy Muscle: Embodied NVC
with Maja Bengston

Maja Poster Photo

"Flex Your Empathy Muscle" is a body of work for integrating Nonviolent Communication through embodied, regular practice.  In this workshop you will learn hot to add body movements to your NVC learning to make it more concrete.

Last classes with Maja until Summer!

 THE BASICS:  Jan 29th, 1-5pm, Oakland

 INTERMEDIATE:  Jan 30th, 1-5pm, Oakland

"Authenticity and Belonging" by Maja Bengtson:  Becoming more authentic while also remaining in meaningful contact with those around me has been an important part of my own path. With my predisposition  it was easy to believe that it's either "me" or "them", that I had to be either authentic-and-alone, or inauthentic and part of the group...Read full article


Conflict Resolution & Mediation Labs with Lisa Montana

 January 23 and 30, 6-9pm or Confict Resolution Tug of War

February 20 and 27, 6-9 pm 

This 2-evening lab offers the chance to bring conflict scenarios from your life to class and work with them in role-plays. 

  • Role-play your own or someone else's scenario
  • Receive one-on-one coaching and support
  • Learn to express what's true for you so another person can hear
  • Increase your ability to hear views that are different from yours


Beginning NVC Mediation & Conflict Resolution  

with Lisa Montana    Sundays, March 6 - April 24, 6-9 pm

Conflict Resolution Couch


Are you feeling frustrated or overwhelmed because you're engaging the same  arguments-over and over again? If so,this   class is for you!  We'll practice simple techniques to  untangle every-day conflicts at home and at work. Register



Creating Poetry in Empathy

with Meganwind Eoyang and Lynda Smith 

Sunday, March 13, 10:00am-3:00pm

Visual Poetry

Meganwind and Lynda invite you to participate in building grace, ease and beauty in our connecting language -- freeing your heart and mind, learning the process, connecting deeply with yourself and others. (For people with intermediate and advanced NVC skills.) 


In addition to the one-day workshop, there are three 2-hour practice sessions offered after the workshop with dates to be chosen together. Register


Family Agreements  with Jared Finkelstein

Thursday, March 24th, 6:45 - 9:15pm

Family Agreements

Families that make agreements with participation from every member and in the spirit of true partnership are very likely to experience greater connection, ease, and love in daily life.  In this workshop we will learn a process for creating family agreements that foster greater connection, trust, and understanding. Register


Making Collaboration Real 4-day Conference!

Global Collaboration Green

with Miki Kashtan, Martha Lasley and many more!

Discover new practices that enhance partnership, teamwork and productivity at the Making Collaboration Real conference, March 17 - 20, 2011. For more info and to register, visit:



Don't Take Yes for an Answer:  

The Power of Cultivating Collaborative Leadership  

by Miki Kashtan

Miki KashtanNick (not his real name), CEO of a privately owned company, identified listening to others as one key area of learning for him. As we explored this challenge, we soon realized that truly opening to hearing others would require overcoming a habit of distancing and separating himself from people whom he perceived to be different. I offered him one of my personal practices: looking for 3-5 things I have in common with someone I experience as different and separate from me. Nick immediately thought of Dick Cheney as an exception, someone with whom he really didn't have anything in common. I challenged him on this belief, and he succeeded in identifying several qualities they shared, the last of which was this statement: "We both like power." What did power mean to Nick? Without any hesitation he said: "When you have power you rarely hear 'no.' Read Full Article


   Making Collaboration Real: Empowering the Workplace with NVC      A 5-day retreat (May 9-13)  and an optional Year-Long Program


 Do you want to know how you can:  

*  Foster a workplace environment of trust, shared vision, and strength?

*  Bring authenticity to your work without appearing "touchy-feely"?

*  Transform conflict by co-creating strategies based on the needs of all?

If you would like to know more about our new international program, join facilitators Miki Kashtan and Martha Lasley for an informational call including plenty of time for asking questions about both the May 5-day Retreat and the Year Long Program.  



Register for our free informational phone call on:  Wednesday, February 23

(4-5pm PT/7-8pm ET/1-2am CET /+1 day 11pm-midnight ET Australia)

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BayNVC is pleased to announce...

 Two Living Compassion Events with Robert Gonzales 

Robert Gonzales 

 Living Compassion Retreat   May 21-25

Living Compassion 3-day Intensive  May 27-29

Living Compassion is about bringing our full authentic selves into the space of relationships with mutual honesty and compassion.    Robert's work includes deeply transformative inner work as well as intensely practical aspects of inter-personal relationships. These events will include demonstrations of integrating compassionate communication and opportunities to practice in small groups. CEUs are available. 


Tuscon Vigil

BayNVC Connection Project Team at

Candlelight Vigil for Tucson Tragedy   

The entire six-member BayNVC Connection Project Team was present at the candlelight vigil to mourn the tragedy in Tucson. The team was there to translate expressions of judgment and blame into needs met and unmet. One of the team members brought the photo collage and candle that is pictured.


inoutGrowing Our Inner and Outer Expression of Self 

 Thursdays 7-9pm, January 13 - March 31 

Registration remains open through Feb, 3rd.  Sign up now!

Deepen capacity for compassionate self discovery and for stepping into personal power in the service of human needs.  

Nancy Kahn

Join Nancy Kahn for her new 12 week series in the East Bay. Participants will engage with tools and practices that support greater choice and self-awareness related to expressing our truth, and for staying connected to what matters to us as we attend to hearing what is important to others. This series includes a very exciting, body-based session on inner empathy, provided by guest trainer Alex Mercedes.   


To Register: Contact Nancy at or 415-336-0992  $425-$725, sliding scale

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------   Transforming Oppression: Communication Across Differences

with Nancy Kahn,   Thursdays 7-9 pm, April 7 - June 9 

Transforming OppressionWe will provide a supportive container for opening to new experiences in relating across differences with greater authenticity, as well as practice time for deepening our collective learning by grounding ourselves with opportunities to practice leading edge tools in a learning community of diverse participants.


To Register: Contact Nancy at or 415-336-0992

Individual Rate $580 - $780 sliding scale. Organizational Rate $850
Free coaching session with Nancy for participants who pay $780 or $850!


One Big Circle      

Kids  in Circle

with Cathy Bucher, Joshua Hathaway and Lynd Morris

At last! A program designed to support NVC family camp staff and organizers in furthering their own personal learning and growth while honing their NVC skills to serve the children and parents they want to support!  For more information visit the One Big Circle website or email


save the dates!  Grass Valley Family Camp:  June 19th -26th

Grass Valley Family CampBayNVC Collaborative Trainer Jared Finkelstein would like to invite you to save the date for the 2011 Northern California-Grass Valley Family Camp.  Registration will open soon! Click here for more information.



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