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 April 2010 Bulletin

Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.


"Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does."
- William James
Hello BayNVC Community,Erica Grevemeyer
So much has happened in the past week, that it's hard to contain it all in just a few short paragraphs!
Our Town Hall Meeting was attended by about 50 people. It was heartening for me to see the deep and lasting impact BayNVC has had on members of the community and to experience the dedication of so many to the ongoing thriving of this work. Together we held questions about BayNVC's future with curiosity, tenderness and excitement.

Out of the discussions of that day we created and launched the Transition BayNVC Campaign.  As of this writing, we have already received $26,400 of our $60,000 goal, as well as several good organizational leads. We are so deeply grateful to all of you who have offered your good wishes, thoughts and financial contributions.  Many of you had questions about the campaign, which I've answered here. If you have questions not answered there, please let me know and I will readily address them.
In partnership,
Erica Grevemeyer
Celebrator/Interim Director
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
P.S.  Join NVC trainers Newt Bailey and Miki Kashtan at a special BayNVC house party in Concord on Tuesday, April 6 at 6:30 pm. For more details and to RSVP, click here.
Nancy KahnNew Series Just Added! 
And space still available in ongoing series
We've added two Foundations 1 Series:  Thursdays starting April 15 in Santa Rosa, and Mondays starting April 26 in Oakland.
Lisa Montana headshotAnd it's not too late to join Nancy Kahn (through April 15) for Communication Across Differences, on Thursdays in San Francisco, or Lisa Montana for Intro to NVC Mediation, on Thursdays in Oakland or Sundays in Palo Alto (contact Lisa directly for Palo Alto class).

Arnina Kashtan - smallTransforming Painful Patterns 
by Arnina Kashtan
Have you ever tried to change a deeply ingrained pattern of yours without success? Maybe you've decided, for example, that you won't yell at your children only to do it again ten minutes later. Perhaps you had a New Year's Resolution to pay bills the day they arrive and then "forgot" to pay them again?....
John Kinyon"Mediating Your Life"
A letter from John Kinyon
NVC mediation for me is not just about being a professional mediator. I hold it as a life practice, a practice of returning to presence, connection and compassionate giving when we are triggered. It is about learning and practicing over and over again to become present in the face of intensity and to respond with language, skills and a methodology that transforms conflict into connection and compassion.
My colleague Ike Lasater and I are currently in our second year of an NVC mediation immersion program in Northern California and we have begun year-long programs on the East Coast of the U.S., in Poland, and in Australia. Our mediation model and three-chair learning process continue to grow and evolve.
I hope to see you at our trainings and that your life is growing in connection and compassion.
Warm regards,
John Kinyon
Upcoming NVC Mediation trainings include: 
April 1: (registration still open) 8-week Intro Series with Lisa Montana
April 23: FREE Introductory Evening with John Kinyon
April 24: Weekend Workshop with John Kinyon and Lisa Montana
October 28: Mediation Retreat and optional Immersion Program with John Kinyon and Ike Lasater
New NVC book available in April!
NVC mediator and trainer Ike Lasater and co-writer Julie Stiles have a book coming out entitled Words That Work in Business. Available from PuddleDancer Press (and soon at BayNVC) this short book highlights ways to incorporate NVC skills into your work life.
A teleseries and tele-practice group in NVC for people with chronic illnesses or disabilities.  8-week teleseries starts Wed., April 7th from 1:30 - 3pm.  Drop-in tele-practice meets Fridays 1:30 - 3pm for 8 weeks starting April 9.  Sliding scale; no one turned away for lack of funds.  Led by Leadership Program graduate Marlena Willis. Please call 510-306-6234 or email Marlena for information or to register.
Oakland for Peace
BayNVC is a featured organization at this FREE Peace Alliance event on April 11th from 3 to 6 at the First Congregational Church (Harrison at 27th).  Collaborative Trainer Jared Finkelstein will talk about NVC's potential to contribute to a Culture of Peace among our youth, there will be a raffle to support a Foundations 1 series for youth, and the BayNVC Empathic Listening Project will make its 2010 premier appearance.  Come show your support.
Learn About Miki Kashtan's CTC
The Consciousness Transformation Community meets regularly by telephone.  Once a quarter one of the calls is open to the public. The next open call is on Tuesday, May 4th, 9-10:30am Pacific time. Please email CTC to join this call.
NVC at Findhorn
The Fourth Annual Findhorn NVC Retreat with Kit Miller, Dominic Barter and Leo Sofer will be held July 24 - July 30 at the Findhorn Foundation north of Inverness, Scotland.  For more information visit
Join eScrip - an Easy Way to Support BayNVC
We're getting creative with fundraising.  Have you heard of  It's free to be a member, and once you enroll, local merchants will donate a percentage of your bills to BayNVC without you incurring any additional charges.  It's remarkably efficient, easy, and free!  (And it takes less than 10 minutes to register.)
Please help us enroll 200 supporters by 1) registering yourself at today, and 2) telling 3 other family and NVC friends about this astonishingly easy way to earn donations for BayNVC.  Thank you for your support!   For more information, visit, or email Kristen.
BayNVC is in need of the following:
- 2 flat-screen 19-inch monitors
- Three new desktop computers, PC platform, and latest version of Microsoft Office
           - please contact BayNVC.
- Set decor for the Conflict Hotline. Ideas? - please contact Susan.
- A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Phoenix.
Marshall Rosenberg Materials on Sale!

For the month of April, Marshall Rosenberg's books, tapes and DVD's are available at a 25% discount.  Please call us at 510-422-0300 to order or for drop-in times.

This Month on the CONFLICT
Conflict Hotline with Newt, Miki and Itzel
Watch the show live on Thursday, May 6 at 7:30 pm on Channel 28 or 33 in Berkeley, or at  See past episodes here
Call in live during the show, 510-433-0700, or send in your conflict or hard-to-hear message to conflicthotline.
Volunteer cast and crew needed! Email conflicthotline.


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