Hello BayNVC Community,
A student in one of our Foundations classes recently lamented to me about just how hard it is to choose the path of Nonviolent Communication when the path she knows (involving retaliation to "right a wrong") provides such immediate and reliable gratification. Her empathy and self-empathy skills lack speed and confidence, although they are theoretically how she would like to respond, if she could trust that her needs would still be on the table at the end of the day.
I have to admit, the tools we offer at BayNVC are deceptively simple. I can explain the basic principles to you in an elevator ride, yet the only way I've been able to create long-term change in how I choose to interact with others is practice. . .ongoing, dedicated practice. These are not even skills I believe any of us can acquire and then simply "have"; it takes continuous dedicated practice on a daily basis for me to choose connection over disconnection, and to choose vulnerability as a path to real strength.
The good news is that there are lots of ways to get support for your NVC practice. I have heard over and over again from others, and have experienced myself, how powerfully the BayNVC retreat environment transforms the options of empathy, self-empathy or self-expression from merely a "nice idea" to a viable choice. What does the world look like when you know that everyone around you is trying to hold all of our needs with care? Find out at our February Living Peace Retreat, one of several upcoming retreats, or consider joining us for any of our other events to bolster your practice.
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
P.S. I hope you can join us for our Town Hall Meeting
on Saturday, March 6th, and help determine the future of our organization.
Vulnerability as a Spiritual Path
Ask yourself a simple question: What is a good baby? If you have been raised in a Western culture, chances are you know the answer right away (whether or not you agree with it): A good baby is one that doesn't cry! The training against vulnerability starts very early in life....
Click here for the full article, and here for a self-connection worksheet.
The upcoming Living Peace Retreat, led by Kathy Simon and graduates of our Leadership Program, is a perfect place to work on delving into the kind of vulnerability - and power - that is described in this article. Kathy's students especially appreciate her ability to create an atmosphere of safety and trust that allows for exploration of deeper authenticity, for "sitting with" fear and other emotions, and finding new paths for acting with choice and awareness.
|A Reexamination, Renewal and Healing of our
Communication Across Differences
a 10-week series starting March 25 in San Francisco
Join Nancy Kahn in working on a cutting edge process that focuses on the integration of NVC and traditional diversity practices to connect across individual and collective differences.
Nancy's passion is bringing the tools of NVC to diverse settings that include communities of color, youth, and other under-represented groups. Click here
for more information; email
or call Nancy at 415-336-0992 directly to register.
Change Your Job Without Changing Jobs
Bring NVC to Work
Making Collaboration Real with Miki Kashtan
Telecourse starting Monday, February 1; retreat
May 10-14 in Northern California
In this 3-session telecourse you will learn to:
- Bring authenticity and presence to your work without appearing "touchy-feely"
- Support others in seeing the value of relationships and connection for achieving effectiveness
- Distinguish between using NVC in the workplace and talking about NVC in the workplace.
Empathy in the Workplace: A Workshop for Bay Area Non-Profits and Activist Groups with Miki Kashtan
Friday, March 26, 12-2pm in Oakland
Would you like to increase effectiveness and connection in your organization? Are you tired of difficult conversations and strenuous meetings and would like some manageability in your work life? Offered in service to the community, we are particularly hopeful that groups and organizations that may not have a training budget will send some key individuals to this event. Learn more and register here
Living Peace Retreat and NVC Immersion Program
Formerly CNPP - now in its fifth year! Led by Kathy Simon
"My family life has improved so much as a result of my participation in the...Immersion Program. I am grateful for my ability to hear my husband and children from a place of compassion and for the closeness and trust this has built between us."
- Mom, Berkeley, 2009 Participant
Attend the retreat
only, February 12-17 near Santa Cruz, CA, or join our Immersion Program
for 9 months of community- and skill-building and personal transformation.
2010 North America NVC Leadership Program
Limited Space Still Available
Understand NVC - Live NVC - Share NVC
"Participating in the Leadership Program has been one of the most meaningful experiences of my life."
- Jane Connor, LP 2004 and 2005, Binghamton, NY
for information or to apply.
It's Official: NVC Increases Empathy
The Gamble Institute completed a research project to determine the impact of NVC training on male parolees' level of empathy last summer. The results were statistically significant! Read more about the project and Collaborative Trainer Newt Bailey's involvement here.
BayNVC Receives $10,000 Grant!
We'd like to thank the van Loben Sels / RembeRock Foundation for supporting our Safer Communities
project with $10,000 for our 2010 program!
Article by Miki Kashtan Published in Tikkun Magazine
"Wanting Fully Without Attachment" is available online - read it here
Consciousness Transformation Community Launches February 18!
Anyone who is ready to commit to whatever it takes to living an
interdependent, conscious, and compassionate life -- regardless of
level of experiece with NVC -- is invited to the Consciousness Transformation Community
(CTC), led by Miki Kashtan. The program
begins with an opening call on February 18 to explore the meaning of
the core CTC commitments
for each of us.
New NVC Practice Groups to Check Out:
- Restorative Circles Practice Group
Thursdays 7-9pm through March 25, 2010 in Oakland. Led by Gail Claspell and Itzel Damaris. Read more here
- Bay Area Men's NVC Support Group
Every first and third Monday from 7:30-9:15pm in North Oakland. Read more here, or contact Tim Silk at 510-559-3129.
- Nurturing Sustainable Relationships: Self-FULLness
with Cheri Krause and Jared Finkelstein, BayNVC Collaborative Trainer
Fridays, 7:30-9pm in Berkeley. Read more here
, email Cheri
or call 510-545-6846.
Metta Mentors Nonviolence Program
The Metta Center works with a cohort of young adults to explore nonviolence through working in local organizations (including BayNVC last summer). They are looking for hosts for mentees, possible mentees and stipends for mentees. Read more here
BayNVC is in need of the following:
- 2 flat-screen 19-inch monitors - A heavy-duty manual paper cutter
- Three new desktop computers, PC platform, and latest version of Microsoft Office
- please contact BayNVC.
- Set decor for the Conflict Hotline. Ideas? - please contact Susan.
- A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Phoenix.
You're Invited: BayNVC's Town Hall Meeting
Saturday, March 6, 2010, 10am - 4pm in Oakland.
Changes are coming to BayNVC. We invite you to join others in our community who have been touched, educated and served by BayNVC, as together we explore what BayNVC means to us and how it can evolve into a healthy future during challenging times.
We will use a dynamic meeting process called Open Space, which invites you to host or attend conversations on topics that matter to you.
Please click here
for more details.
NVC on TV: Conflict Hotline
Watch the show live on Thursday, 2/11 and 3/4 at 7:30 on Channel 28 or 33 in Berkeley, or at betv.org. See past episodes here.
Call in live during the show, 510-433-0700, or send in your conflict or hard-to-hear message to conflicthotline
For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond, click HERE.
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