BayNVC Bulletin
December 2009
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"A community is like a ship; everyone ought to be prepared to take the helm."
- Henrik Ibsen
Hello BayNVC Community,Erica Grevemeyer

On November 15th, 300 people gathered to celebrate the work of the past year, and to help BayNVC continue to be a resource in the community (see photo by Pam Hava, above).  For many guests, Speaking Peace 2009 was an introduction to Nonviolent Communication as well as to BayNVC's work.  Despite the tough economic climate, we were able to raise as much in total funds as last year, and are thrilled to note that we have received more than double the amount of monthly pledges.  Thank you all - we are delighted at the steady and ongoing commitment to the community.  And a big thank you to the dozens of volunteers who worked long hours to make this event a success! 
Fundraising season does not end for us with Speaking Peace, and we still need your help to continue to offer our services to everyone who wants them, regardless of ability to pay.  We recently emailed you a separate newsletter focused on NVC and money, with great ideas about how to make joyful and empowered choices about giving.  We hope you find the tools contained in it useful.  
One easy way to support BayNVC during the holidays is simply by gifting yourself or a loved one with one of our classes. We have many new series starting in January, some upcoming retreats, and lots more.  We also have books, CD's, and other great gifts available.  You can even donate to BayNVC at no cost, simply by shopping as you already do  - see below for more information. 
Wishing you a joyful holiday season and New Year.

Erica Grevemeyer
Celebrator/Interim Director
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication

Miki Kashtan headshotLeadership From Below:
On Becoming a Change Agent
by BayNVC Co-Founder Miki Kashtan
As you watch the news, go to your workplace, interact with family, friends, and the community at large, you no doubt encounter events or behaviors that you would like to see change. Maybe your landlord raised your rent; maybe your neighbors have late night parties; maybe relationships in your workplace are strained... 
Click here for the full article. 
...When everyone matters and we cultivate skills for leadership regardless of structural power, not only do we create possibilities for new outcomes; we also lay the foundation for a new way of living together...

One of BayNVC's core missions has been to support and create leaders through our extended study programs such as the Leadership Program, the NVC Immersion Program, the Parent Peer Leadership Program, the NVC Mediation Program, and our new long-distance programs through the NVC Academy: Open-Hearted Therapy and the NVC Integration and Mentoring Program.

We support leaders through cultivating internal resources such as the ones described in this article, which empower individuals to act with skill and care on behalf of the whole. In particular, the Leadership Program trains emerging leaders in the skills and consciousness necessary for supporting change through sharing NVC with others.
Miki Kashtan, certified NVC trainer, is a founder of BayNVC and the North America Leadership Program. Miki conducts organizational trainings and teaches NVC at workshops in the Bay Area and around the country. Miki has also been supporting global social change movements, including coaching the Peace Alliance in their Dept. of Peace campaign, and facilitation of the African Alliance for Peace summit in Ghana and a global peacebuilding and conflict transformation summit in Japan.
Sigal Intro GroupDive Into NVC in 2010 
Join a Series or Retreat
Our 8-week Foundation Series are one of the easiest ways to start getting comfortable with NVC.  In January, Foundation series are starting up in Oakland, San Francisco and Santa Rosa, including a daytime series in Oakland.  Or if you have an ongoing mindfulness practice, you may want to try the 6-week NVC-Dharma series in Berkeley.  Watch our website for a 6-week Exploring Empathy series in Oakland.
Seth & Leah at fireplaceFor a deeper immersion and lasting connections, there's nothing like an NVC retreat.  Integrate NVC mediation skills at John Kinyon and Ike Lasater's East Coast Mediation Retreat in Boston, bring NVC to your life and your therapy practice at the Open-Hearted Therapy Retreat with Miki Kashtan and Roxy Manning in Northern CA, or co-create a world where everyone's needs matter at our Living Peace Intensive Retreat led by Kathy Simon near Santa Cruz, CA.
Reserve your spot and support our organizational efforts by registering early!
ConflictHotlineAug09Give the Gift of NVC 
for yourself, loved ones, co-workers...
NEW at BayNVC:  "What You Say Next Can Change Your World" - Our Conflict Hotline TV Show on DVD!  An easy, entertaining way to introduce anyone to NVC. 
Heart of Connection CD cover"The Heart of Connection" - a CD of guided meditations featuring Miki Kashtan, Inessa Love and Robert Gonzales.
Find more NVC-related materials here, or visit our office (call 510-433-0700) for our large selection of books, giraffe ears, puppets and lots more.
Give to BayNVC Whenever You Shop
by using one of these FREE programs:
Register your credit card with, listing BayNVC as the beneficiary, and we'll get a donation whenever you shop at a participating retailer.
Or shop online at your favorite stores through either (search for "baynvc") or  Either way, BayNVC receives a donation at no cost to you.  If you'd like more details, Matthew Blom created this instructional video about
Get Involved!
Upcoming shows will air live on (or Channel 28 or 33 in Berkeley) on Thursday, January 7 at 7:30 PM and Thursday, February 4 at 7:30 PM.  The show is a great way to introduce friends to NVC!   Previous shows may be seen on YouTube.
Send your conflict, hard-to-hear message, or other difficult situation to conflicthotline, or call in live during the show at (510) 433-0700 between 7:30 - 8:15pm.  Miki and the Conflict Hotline cast will demonstrate using NVC to transform the situation, and support you and other viewers in creating a world that works for all.
We're also looking for volunteers to appear live on the show and share their conflicts.  You would be asked to arrive at the studio in downtown Berkeley at 5:30 p.m. and stay through the end of the show at 8:30 p.m.  Please email conflicthotline for more information.

BayNVC is in need of the following:
- Sturdy shelving unit for heavy items: approximate dimensions - no larger than: 82" tall, 36" wide, 15" deep
- Outdoor canopy for event booths - like this
- 2 flat-screen 19-inch monitors
- A heavy-duty manual paper cutter
- Three new desktop computers, PC platform, and latest version of Microsoft Office
- An air purifier for our office space.  Something like this: 160R2 Room Air Purifier.
             - please contact BayNVC.
- A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois.
Home for the Holidays
Meganwind Eoyang
Now in progress: a 3-week series with Meganwind Eoyang.  Even if you missed the first session, it's not too late to join this series in Oakland or Santa Rosa if you understand the basics of NVC. Begin building the kind of holidays you and your family will enjoy, and will savor later.


Other Series
Upcoming Intros
Classes and Workshops
Intensives / Retreats

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,
click HERE.
More Information & Registration 
Since many of our
events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  Occasionally, events are canceled due to a low number of registered participants.  If you are planning to attend, pre-registering will help ensure that the event will take place.  If an event is canceled, all pre-registered participants will be notified and you will have the choice of refund or transfer to another event.

  You may
pre-register by clicking the "Register Now" button at the bottom of most event descriptions, or by contacting our office at 510-433-0700 or  You will receive a confirmation email with driving and public transit directions.
  Parking is free at BayNVC's wheelchair accessible
 building near Piedmont Avenue in Oakland.  

HERE for a complete, up-to-date listing of
our retreats, study series, workshops
and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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Thank you.  We look forward to seeing you at some of our events! 
Contact Information

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Phone: 510-433-0700 or toll-free at 1-866-4-BAYNVC (1-866-422-9682)
Address:  55 Santa Clara Ave., Suite 203, Oakland, CA 94610

BayNVC trainers are available for individual, couple and family counseling; mediation and meeting facilitation; full and half-day NVC workshops at your organization (including diversity training); audio/video presentations; and trauma and conflict response.

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