BayNVC Bulletin
October 2009
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"Compassion is a foundation for sharing our aliveness and building a more humane world."

 - Martin Lowenthal  

Hello BayNVC Community,Erica Grevemeyer

I feel so privileged to be part of the BayNVC extended team.  We view BayNVC as an experiment: can we really run an organization without coercion, obligation, or desire for reward?

When I look at the many many people who volunteer their energy and resources to support the dream, I am delighted to venture that the answer is yes.

Lately I have tapped into a deep well of gratitude to all of the many volunteers, donors and other individuals who are the lifeblood of this organization.  Without their ongoing support, we simply could not continue to function.  More than a hundred volunteers and staff members offer time and energy each month.  When I ask people why they bother, they talk of the freedom and connection to choice in their own lives, and of how nurturing it is to serve.  This tells me that our efforts to nourish a sense of choice and interdependence are bearing fruit right here.
As part of a culture of owning our choices, all of us are "volunteering" our time and energies, whether or not we receive financial compensation for what we do.  Having a staff that feels empowered to say "no" to specific tasks can at times be quite challenging, but it is also invigorating, as we trust that whatever is essential will get done, by someone who chooses to do it.
I would love to invite you into this experiment with me.  Can you think of places where you are telling yourself you "have to" do things?  Now consider what it would take to "volunteer" at work, with your family, etc.  Where can you connect more fully with your choices?

Erica Grevemeyer
Celebrator/Interim Director
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
P.S.  I look forward to seeing you all next month at our Speaking Peace fundraiser (more below), whether as a volunteer, table host or honored guest! 

Dominic Barter
Restorative Circles Trainings
with Dominic Barter
October - November, 2009 in Oakland, Albuquerque and Seattle
"Restorative circles open dialogue and healing between Brazilian institutions and gangs
By Molly Slothower
"12 June 2009 [MEDIAGLOBAL]: When Dominic Barter enters the favelas that are home to the gangs that control about 25 percent of Rio de Janeiro, he doesn't do it wearing riot gear and a megaphone. He does it armed with questions.

"Barter introduced restorative justice to the government and the gangs of Brazil in 2004, and the encounter has opened up possibilities for both that once seemed unthinkable...." 
Click here
for the full article. 
You can learn more about Restorative Circles at the following events: 

Nov. 9: An Overview of Restorative Circles - please email for more information.
Dominic Barter is the coordinator of the Restorative Justice Project for the International Center for Nonviolent Communication. This is the third year BayNVC has invited Dominic to hold workshops in the SF Bay Area.
SP05 volunteersJoin us for Speaking Peace! 
Sunday, November 15, 2009
at the California Ballroom in Oakland
Host a Table:
We expect this year's event to be our best ever!  As you may know, it is volunteer table hosts that have primarily been the ones filling the room and contributing to the buzz and energy.  Personal connections are the most effective in inspiring people to come to this and other NVC events.
Do you have NVC friends and colleagues you would like to inspire to get more involved?  Are there people in your life or work you've wanted to introduce to NVC and who could directly or indirectly support BayNVC's work?  Learn more here, email Judith or call the office at (510) 433-0700.
If inviting guests doesn't work for you, there are many other ways to participate, before, during and after the event.  Your time commitment is up to you.  Learn more here, email Judith or call the office at (510) 433-0700.
Share Your NVC Story on Video:
Do you have an inspiring NVC success story that you'd like to share?  A volunteer videographer has offered to document your stories for Speaking Peace.  Please email us if you have a story you'd like to tell.  Include a written summary of your tale, if you can, or provide your phone number in your email so we can give you a call.
Special Series and Workshops
You can often still join after the first session, so please ask!  
Sigal Intro GroupEmpathy in the Workplace
Fridays 12-2pm starting Oct. 16 in Oakland
with Sigal Shoham and Oren Sofer
Want to transform the way people work together?  NVC is a revolutionary way to change to a culture of shared partnership.
Meganwind Eoyang
Integration 1
Mondays 6:45-9:15pm starting Oct. 19 in Oakland
with Meganwind Eoyang
A great way to deepen learning and support community for those who have completed the Foundations 1 and 2 study series (or equivalent).
Oren SoferRequests and the Gift of Receiving - an NVC-Dharma workshop
Saturday, Oct. 24, 9:30am-5:00pm in Berkeley
with Oren Sofer
"NVC has been transformative in my life.  Oren creates a wonderful environment to exercise it."
Tuesdays 6:45-9:15pm starting Oct. 27 in Oakland
with Meganwind Eoyang
In this series, we discover and practice steps we can take to heal and rebuild our connections with others and ourselves.
 Open-Hearted Therapy logo
Open-Hearted Therapy Retreat
and Optional Year-Long Program 
with Miki Kashtan and Roxy Manning 
January 22-26, 2010 in Northern CA

More and more therapists are attracted to the principles of NVC and to its invitation to enter a genuine, human relationship with clients. Would you like to participate in a community of therapists seeking to practice and learn intensively together how to bring NVC most effectively to their practice and personal lives?  CEU's available.  Click here to learn more and join us.
Also coming up with Miki:
NVC Integration and Mentoring
A Year-Long Teleclass Program
starting January 13, 2010
This program is designed for people who don't have easy access to local trainer support, and who are eager to embark on a serious study of NVC.  The course may also be joined quarterly.  Please click here for more information and registration.

Miki Kashtan to be Featured During MaestroMonth
We are excited to announce that Miki Kashtan will be a featured luminary during MaestroMonth, a month of teleconferences addressing societal change, along with Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, and many others.  Miki's FREE telecourse, "Courageous Living Towards the World We Want", will take place on October 23 at 2pm Pacific Time.  If you've always wanted to introduce your friends outside the Bay Area to NVC, let them know about this opportunity. 
Get Involved!
Call In To or Appear Live On the CONFLICT HOTLINE
Send your conflict, hard-to-hear message, or other difficult situation to conflicthotline, or call in live during the show at (510) 433-0700 between 7:30-8:15pm on Thursday, Nov. 12 or Thursday, Dec. 4.  Miki and the Conflict Hotline cast will demonstrate using NVC to transform the situation, and support you and other viewers in creating a world that works for all.
We're also looking for volunteers to appear live on the show and share their conflicts.  You would be asked to arrive at the studio in downtown Berkeley at 5:30 p.m. and stay through the end of the show at 8:30 p.m.  Please email conflicthotline for more information.

Accomodations Needed for Restorative Circle Participants
A number of people will be traveling to the Bay Area to attend Dominic Barter's workshops (late Oct. - early Nov.).  Would you enjoy the opportunity to get to know someone who is passionate about Restorative Circles?  Do you have a guest room or a couch where they could spend a few nights?  If so, please email Becky.
NEW! The Heart of Connection - A CD with Meditations Inspired by NVC
Featuring Miki Kashtan, along with Robert Gonzales and Inessa Love, the CD includes an introduction and 5 guided meditations, each under 15 minutes.  To learn more or to purchase the CD please visit  Note: if you purchase a CD or mp3 file via the link above, BayNVC will get 20% of the proceeds.
Coming in January 2010: An NVC-Inspired Preschool! 
happytogether Preschool is an intimate, part-day program for 3- to 5-year-olds.  The school will be inspired by Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication and infused with the latest scientific research on nurturing happiness and compassion among children. 
Informational Meetings will be held on: Wed., Oct. 7, 11-noon; Wed., Oct. 14, 11-noon; and Sun., Oct. 18, 4-5pm.  Location: 1300 Grand Ave, Piedmont, CA 94610.  RSVP to Monica via email or at (510) 705-2849.
Celebrate Nonviolent Communication Work in Sri Lanka
The Sandhi Institute is hosting a party, information session, and Fundraiser/Friend-Raiser, on Sunday, October 18th from 6:30 to 8:30pm, at a private home in North Berkeley.  Please RSVP to Lucy or call (510)701-1810.  Snacks and light dinner will be provided.  If you'd like to bring something to share, please contact John Porter.

BayNVC is in need of the following:
- Outdoor canopy for event booths - like this
- 2 flat-screen 19-inch monitors
- A heavy-duty manual paper cutter
- Three new desktop computers, PC platform, and latest version of Microsoft Office
- An air purifier for our office space.  Something like this: 160R2 Room Air Purifier.
             - please contact BayNVC.
- A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois.
2010 NVC Leadership Program
LP09 small group 
BayNVC's Leadership Program (LP) aims to nurture the spirit of compassion in people who want to live and teach NVC, to support their leadership development, and to contribute to internal, interpersonal, and social transformation.  We're
now in our 8th year!  Participants have come from around the world.  Next year's program starts in January 2010. Interested applicants are encouraged to contact us immediately. More information is available here.

Conflict Hotline: New Date!
BayNVC's monthly TV show the Conflict Hotline airs live on (or
Channel 28 or 33 in Berkeley) on a NEW DATE: Thursday, November 12 at
7:30pm, and on the REGULAR DATE on Thursday, December 4 at 7:30pm.
It's a great way to introduce friends to NVC!  You can see
past episodes on YouTube.
Scroll down to Get Involved! for more ways to participate.


Other Series
Upcoming Intros
Classes and Workshops
Intensives / Retreats


For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,
click HERE.
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events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  Occasionally, events are canceled due to a low number of registered participants.  If you are planning to attend, pre-registering will help ensure that the event will take place.  If an event is canceled, all pre-registered participants will be notified and you will have the choice of refund or transfer to another event.

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and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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