BayNVC Bulletin
September 2009
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"Tryin' to make a point, or have the last word.
But most the time people just tryin' to be heard."

 - Michael Franti and Spearhead 
Hello BayNVC Community,Erica Grevemeyer

Focusing on the day-to-day concerns of an organization, I can sometimes forget that BayNVC offers life-changing skills that people can use right away to connect across differences.  When I hear concrete examples of how the work we do has helped to make even one encounter richer and more meaningful, I am moved, and moved to share some of what makes this work so meaningful to me.

We were honored to support the first West Coast NVC & Diversity Retreat, led by BayNVC collaborative trainers Roxanne Manning, Nancy Kahn and Edmundo Norte, and Leadership Program graduate Jane Connor.  Jane inaugurated the retreat in New York in 2007.

Retreat participants, of a variety of backgrounds, used Nonviolent Communication as a tool to explore and share their experiences.  Participants spoke of "profound healing", "deep satisfaction at finally being heard for my experience" and an "eye-opening experience, making [them] 'teachable' in regards to the experiences of people of color."

Another BayNVC training that supported people to connect across differences in their daily lives was offered at the Alameda Point Collaborative, a housing community that provides services and programs so that formerly homeless families and individuals can flourish.  Residents and case managers met daily with BayNVC educators over the course of two weeks.  Under Celebrations (below), you can read Bob Yamtich's inspiring story about the learning that happened when the youth group encountered a police officer.
When I think of this story, and the countless others we here at BayNVC are privileged to hear, I really start to see the possibility for a peaceful world.  Has NVC had an impact on your life?  We'd love to hear your stories!
Erica Grevemeyer
Celebrator/Interim Director
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
P.S.  Come find BayNVC at our Empathic Listening Post at the Power to the Peaceful Festival, featuring Michael Franti and Spearhead, Sept. 12 in Golden Gate Park!

ike and johnA Three Chair Model of NVC Mediation:
Applying the "Enemy Image Process"
By John Kinyon and Ike Lasater, with Julie Stiles

Over the past seven years, we have engaged in experimentation and discovery, developing the mediation model we learned from NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg, and evolving a powerful learning context for people wanting to deepen the skills of transforming enemy images and resolving conflict...
Click here for the full article. 
...we're discovering that every outer conflict can be traced back to an internal conflict that we are having with ourselves. Additionally, even though this model is set up as a "three chair" process, it can be translated into a "two-chair" process, to practice mediating and facilitating when we ourselves are involved in and part of a conflict.

here to access a practice guide sheet for practicing with an empathy partner...

BayNVC co-founder John Kinyon specializes in mediation and NVC as spiritual practice.  Ike Lasater teaches and coaches communication and conflict resolution skills to individuals and organizations.  Upcoming mediation training opportunities include a 3-day workshop, a 5-day retreat (new reduced price!), beginning and intermediate series, and a year-long immersion program.          
Workshops with MikiMiki Kashtan Kashtan 
For IDEA: International Day of Empathic Action
Friday, October 2, 2009 in Oakland
Empathy in the Workplace:
A Workshop for Bay Area Non-Profits and Activist Groups
In this workshop we plan on exploring some basic principles related to empathic communication in the workplace. We are particularly hopeful that groups and organizations that may not have a training budget will send some key individuals to this event.

Be A Resource for Your Community
In this workshop you can learn basic skills in empathic listening that can support you in your:
* capacity to stay present in challenging situations
* ability to reflect your understanding regardless of content
* competence in checking for understanding of deeper meaning of what is shared
* willingness to listen without trying to solve problems

Learn more about IDEA at If you're interested in joining with others in empathic action in the Bay Area on October 2nd, contact Ali Miller.
Sigal Intro GroupSpecial Series and Workshops
You can often still join after the first session, so please ask! 
Tuesdays 7:00-9:15pm starting Sept. 8 in Oakland
with Sigal Shoham
Wednesdays 7:00-9:00pm starting Sept. 9 in Oakland
with Nancy Kahn
Thursdays 7:00-9:00pm starting Sept. 17 in Oakland
with Kathy Simon
Mindfulness in NVC - first of three NVC-Dharma workshops
Saturday, Sept. 19th, 9:30am - 5:00pm in Berkeley
with Oren Sofer

Empathy Poker with a Police Officer
From Bob Yamtich:  "I was present for something amazing during a workshop on Nonviolent Communication led by Nancy Kahn at the Alameda Point Collective, a place of transitional housing for families receiving various social services.

Three people, aged fourteen to sixteen, joined me outside for a small group introduction to guessing needs using NVC-based feelings and needs "Grok" cards.  A man wearing sunglasses in a black uniform with a badge saying "Alameda Police" approached..."
  Read the full story here. 
Get Involved!
Call In To or Appear Live On the CONFLICT HOTLINE
Send your conflict, hard-to-hear message, or other difficult situation to conflicthotline, or call in live during the show at (510) 433-0700 between 7:30 p.m. and 8:15 p.m. on Thursday, September 10.  Miki and the Conflict Hotline cast will demonstrate using NVC to transform the situation, and support you and other viewers in creating a world that works for all.
We're also looking for volunteers to appear live on the show and share their conflicts.  You would be asked to arrive at the studio in downtown Berkeley at 5:30 p.m. and stay through the end of the show at 8:30 p.m.  Please email conflicthotline for more information.
Volunteer or Host a Table for SPEAKING PEACE
Would you like to invite family, friends, or colleagues to this event?  Are you interested in volunteering?  Please call 510-433-0700 or contact Judith.  
Write a Review of BayNVC
Let people know how BayNVC has helped you.  We have a listing on the Great Nonprofits website where you can add your personal review of our organization.  You can also write a review on our Yelp listing, or join us on Facebook.
Sit for Change: 2nd Annual Sit-A-Thon 
BayNVC is partnering with Center for Transformative Change to support social change grounded in inner transformation.  Raise pledges and enjoy a great day of meditation, yoga, live music & spoken word on Sept. 19 at MLK Civic Center Park in Berkeley. (You can offer support from wherever you are, even if you can't join us at the park!)  Click here for more information. 
Meet Sustainability Activist Vicki Robin
Vicki Robin, author of Your Money or Your Life, and friend of NVC, is in the Bay Area for two evenings Sept. 23 and 24. She will also be offering a 4-week teleclass.  From Miki Kashtan: "Vicki...offers a personal practice that is compatible with NVC and is both simple and radical in its implications. I highly recommend her work." Visit Vicki's website for more information. 
Seven Seeds for a New Society - a talk by Sharif Abdullah

If you have been to a training with Miki you may have heard her mention Sharif's book Creating a World that Works for All. Sharif has a new book out, and will be giving a talk on Tuesday, Sept. 29 at 7:30pm, at San Francisco State University.  Sharif's ideas are often deeply aligned with the the BayNVC vision of a world where everyone's needs matter.
For more information, visit Holistic Health Learning Center.
BayNVC is in need of the following:
  • We've outgrown our phone system!  And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.  Please email newphonesystem.
  • 2 flat-screen 19-inch monitors
  • A heavy-duty electric paper shredder
  • A heavy-duty manual paper cutter
  • New or gently used office chairs
  • An air purifier for our office space.  Something like this: 160R2 Room Air Purifier.
    -please contact BayNVC.
  • A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois.
Speaking Peace 2009
SP05 volunteers
We are delighted  to invite you to join us for our 5th annual FREE fundraising event on Sunday, November 15th, 2009, at the California Ballroom in Oakland.  Mark your calendar!
 2 pm: An Introduction to NVC with BayNVC co-founder Miki Kashtan.
3:30-5 pm: A program with stories from the local NVC community; enjoy light refreshments.
5-6 pm: Networking & community time.
For more information, click here, or scroll down to Get Involved! for other ways to participate.
Conflict Hotline: New Date!
BayNVC's monthly TV show the Conflict Hotline airs live on (or
Channel 28 or 33 in Berkeley) on a NEW DATE: Thursday, September 10 at
7:30 p.m. It's a great way to introduce friends to NVC!  You can see
past episodes on YouTube.
Scroll down to Get Involved! for more ways to participate.


Other Series
Upcoming Intros
Classes and Workshops
Intensives / Retreats


For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,
click HERE.
More Information & Registration 
Since many of our
events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  Occasionally, events are canceled due to a low number of registered participants.  If you are planning to attend, pre-registering will help ensure that the event will take place.  If an event is canceled, all pre-registered participants will be notified and you will have the choice of refund or transfer to another event.

  You may
pre-register by clicking the "Register Now" button at the bottom of most event descriptions, or by contacting our office at 510-433-0700 or  You will receive a confirmation email with driving and public transit directions.
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 building near Piedmont Avenue in Oakland.  

HERE for a complete, up-to-date listing of
our retreats, study series, workshops
and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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Thank you.  We look forward to seeing you at some of our events! 
Contact Information

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Phone: 510-433-0700 or toll-free at 1-866-4-BAYNVC (1-866-422-9682)
Address:  55 Santa Clara Ave., Suite 203, Oakland, CA 94610

BayNVC trainers are available for individual, couple and family counseling; mediation and meeting facilitation; full and half-day NVC workshops at your organization (including diversity training); audio/video presentations; and trauma and conflict response.

Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is a non-profit organization and all financial contributions are tax deductible. For more information, or to donate online, click here.
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