BayNVC Bulletin
April 2009
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"When we change the way we communicate, we change society."

- Clay Shirky, Here Comes Everybody

Dear Friends,

This morning as I write to you I feel somber and thoughtful.  As many of you know, we are located in Oakland, CA, where five men died violently Saturday afternoon. I imagine the desolation of the families and friends of the men who died.  As the mother of a 25-year-old son, I feel the loss of these sons of other mothers.  At the same time, I want to acknowledge how many other deaths happen in our communities - one or two at a time, we have lost far too many people to violence.

Even before the death of Oscar Grant at the Fruitvale BART station in
January, a couple of groups had been meeting to try to envision how BayNVC and our community of skilled NVC practitioners could be of service during times of crisis.  If you have ideas to contribute, please email   We would like to pilot some
"conflict booths" at local farmer's markets to offer people help with their
conflicts.  We intend to start at the Grand Lake Farmer's Market and see what happens.  Anyone want to help coordinate that?

I wish we were further along with all of these ideas to support our local
community!  For me, working on these projects helps to transform worry
and despair into power plants for change.  In the meantime, I am grateful knowing that thousands of you are out there In the community, able to model the skills and consciousness of NVC for your families, friends and neighbors.

In peace and hope,
Kit Miller
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication

PS. We are planning a special Introduction to Restorative Circles on Saturday, April 25 from 9:30-1:00, at a special low sliding scale rate, to encourage participation.  Restorative Circles are an effective strategy for healing and change in groups and communities. Please encourage people you know to attend!

Institute of Noetic Sciences landscapeWomen Saying YES to What Is:
A Retreat for Inner Peace and Transformation

August 14 - 19, 2009 in Petaluma, CA

Are you drawn to being with a group of women to delve into deep work for yourself and others? 
Reserve your spot now to join Miki Kashtan and Anne Bourrit at this retreat for women only, at the beautiful Institute for Noetic Sciences in Petaluma, CA.  Click here to learn more and register.

inbal cd front Give EVERY Mom the Gift of NVC

This Mother's Day -- and every birthday this year -- give the mothers in your life the gift of NVC. Whether it's your own mother, your adult daughter, your friends, neighbors, or co-workers, we invite you to make a gift to them that contributes to their lives.

Here are some ideas:

1.  Bring your mother or adult child to our special NVC for Mother's Day workshop, Sunday, May 3 in Oakland.

2.  "Connected Parenting: Nonviolent Communication in Family Life" -
This CD by Inbal Kashtan has received rave reviews from parents and even people who are not parents!  Buy 10 or more for just $8.50 per CD, making this a gift you can give to everyone you know!  You can also add Inbal's "Parenting from Your Heart" booklet, for a more special package. $20 full price, $14.50 if you buy 10 or more CD's.

3.  An NVC Introductory Evening - just $35 for an evening that can contribute to her life forever!

Looking for more ideas?  Browse the store in our office, or our web page for workshop ideas that may be just the fit for the mothers in your life.

Beyond the Bay Area

john k & ike smallEast Coast Mediation Intensive, New Lebanon, NY, April 30 - May 3
with John Kinyon and Ike Lasater

Integrating NVC and Abundance Consciousness
jeff francois
How to create a successful and sustainable NVC livelihood
near Milwaukee, WI, June 10 - 14
Telecourse starting April 14
with Francois Beausoleil and Jeff Brown

Family HEART Camp: NVC immersion for the whole family
near Washington, D.C., July 10 - 18

Miki Kashtan Workshops and Telecourses
With Miki Kashtan

Inner Space in the Face of Habits, May 9, Oakland.  This daylong workshop will focus on discovering needs underneath habits and consciousness about "shoulds" and other forms of self-talk.  This workshop is Part 4 of the Dancing in the Gap of Uncertainty series.

Ongoing telecourses through NVC Academy may be joined at any time, from anywhere.

FC group under tree22009 Parent Peer Leadership Program (PPLP)

Save the date! Our next Parent Peer Leadership Program kicks off August 7 at Cedar Ridge Retreat Center near Portland, OR.  The program will be led again this year by Ingrid Bauer.  To receive information about this year's program later this spring, email


Quotes From Last Month's Living Peace Retreat with Kathy Simon and Friends:

 - "The retreat makes real the power of connection as a living art form. Tools are simple and the wisdom tapped -- deep!  It is something ALL can access.  Thank you for the gift."

 - "I have never been to a retreat where learning was so well matched with care for my well-being.  The effect of this care is that my learning was deepened tremendously.  Thank you."

 - "Wow!  I've never felt so in touch with others and myself, and this is
coming from someone who isn't a 'touchy feely' person."

BayNVC Joins Online Communities

BayNVC now has pages on LinkedIn, facebook, Wiser Earth and twitter
Check us out!.


Teach for Life!

Announcing this summer's Teach for Life! - 8th Annual NVC Educators

Institute with Sura Hart, Jean Morrison and John Cunningham, in Union, WA, July 21-26.  Each year educators gather for five days to co-create a vibrant, compassionate classroom.  For more information, contact Barbara Larson, or visit



We are excited to offer some new ways to support BayNVC's mission.   We still always need computer savvy office volunteers who can answer phones & register people   In addition to in-office opportunities, we have many new outreach tasks we'd love help with. Many of them require as little as an hour a month of your time and can be done from home. We hope to have a team of volunteers working on these tasks, so your commitment can be as large or as small as you want. These tasks include posting events to our list of online calendars, finding other NVC blogs & web sites we can exchange links with, moderating online discussions and helping BayNVC follow-up with participants who attend introductory trainings. See our Volunteer Opportunities page for more details. 

BayNVC is in need of the following:
  • We've outgrown our phone system!  And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.  If you think you have a potential solution for us, email newphonesystem.   Thank you
  • A heavy-duty shredder
  • Three new desktop computers, PC platform
  • New or gently used office chairs
  • A paper cutter
  • -please contact BayNVC.
  • A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois.
Getting Started With NVC

Maybe you've attended an Intro Night or Parenting event, and are wondering what comes next.  One of the best ways to learn NVC is by taking a Foundations Series.  Classes are starting up this month in Oakland and San Francisco. 
Or try a one-week Lunchtime Foundations 1 series, if that fits your schedule better - starting June 1.
The Empathy Series starting in May is another great way to get right to the heart of NVC practice, no experience required.


Upcoming Intros
Classes and Workshops

4/25 Intro to Restorative Circles - Oakland

5/3 NVC for Mother's Day - Oakland

5/9 Inner Spaciousness in the Face of Habits - Oakland

5/30 Intermediate NVC Mediation

Intensives / Retreats

4/17 NVC Weekend Workshop - Barcelona, Spain

4/30 4-Day East Coast Mediation Intensive - NY

6/10 NVC & Abundance Consciousness - WI

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,

More Information & Registration

 Since many of our
events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  You may
pre-register by clicking the "Register Now" button at the bottom of most event descriptions, or by calling our office at 510-433-0700.  You will receive a confirmation email with driving and public transit directions.
Parking is free on all of the streets around BayNVC's wheelchair accessible
 building in the Piedmont area of Oakland. 

HERE for a complete, up-to-date listing of
our retreats, study series, workshops
and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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