BayNVC Bulletin
March 2009
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"We don't accomplish anything in this world alone...and whatever happens is the result of the whole tapestry of one's life and all the weavings of individual threads from one to another that creates something."

- Sandra Day O'Connor

Dear Friends,

I am writing to let you know of a transition happening in a few months
at BayNVC.  After 5 years as BayNVC's director/celebrator, with deep
love for BayNVC and sadness to go, I am stepping down so I can work
closer to where I live, in New York.  I intend to make this transition around the end of May.  I am not stepping very far! I look forward to participating on BayNVC's board of directors and also helping out at a retreat or two each year.  As I experience it, BayNVC is both an organization and a community.  My family and I won't ever stop being part of the community.

We have begun searching for a new director.  If you are interested and
believe you might have the skills for this position, email and we'll send you a job description and more information.  Or, if you can think of someone in your life who may be interested, share with them this wonderful opportunity to make a
difference in the world.  We're looking for someone who feels
comfortable with having integrated NVC skills and consciousness into
their life (not perfectly!) and who has nonprofit management experience.

Meantime, we are keeping close tabs on ourselves this year financially.
We have trimmed our budget and are tracking expenses closely.  We are determined to ensure that BayNVC's presence as a resource for the Bay Area and beyond will continue far into the exciting, troubling,
unknowable future.   If you want to help, here are some ideas:

1. Continue to speak about Nonviolent Communication.  Word of mouth is our best marketing tool, especially because we don't use our resources to fund major marketing campaigns.
2. Write about NVC and BayNVC in every venue possible: newsletters,
blogs, letters to the editor, magazines.
3. Purchase books and other NVC learning materials from us as gifts
whenever possible.  Buying in larger quantities will reduce your cost and
allow you to give relatively inexpensive gifts to more people!  For example, one parent bought 20 copies of Inbal's Connected Parenting CD to give to every parent in her child's preschool.

Here is one last idea: Thanks to Matthew Blom, BayNVC now has an account with You can make many of your purchases
through this site and BayNVC will receive a percentage of what you spend. With your support, we are hoping this new income stream can
become a significant source of sustenance for our work. Please add to your favorite web sites, and think of us next time you shop!

In loving service,
Kit Miller
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication

P.S.  I can't think of a more powerful way to integrate NVC than through
immersing yourself for a week.  We have open spaces in our Living Peace Retreat, March 13-18.  Won't you join us?  How about getting your old friends from your BayNVC classes to join you?  Join Kathy Simon, Roxy Manning, Cathy Bucher and the rest of the team for
inspiration, learning and nourishment.

ike and john NVC and Mediation:
An Inspired Combination
Series and Intensives

Led by John Kinyon and Ike Lasater, NVC Mediation classes can help you learn to apply NVC skills to mediate conflict in all types of situations, from legal mediation, to business and organizational conflict, to personal relationships.

Foundations of NVC Mediation 8-Week Series, starting March 4, in Oakland.

Foundations of NVC Mediation 3-Day Workshop, March 7-9, in Oakland.  You may attend on 1, 2, or all 3 days.

Intermediate NVC Mediation 8-Week Series, starting April 29, in Oakland.

4-Day East Coast Intensive Retreat in NVC Mediation, April 30 - May 3, in New Lebanon, NY.  Tell your East Coast friends!
Conflict HotlineNVC on TV:  The Conflict Hotline
A monthly TV show with Miki Kashtan
Next show airs March 5; 1st Thursday of every month at 7:30pm (PST)

Have you ever watched TV or movies (or the presidential debates) and wished that you could see people who knew NVC on TV?  Thanks to Berkeley Community Television, the Conflict Hotline is on TV!!  Call in live to share conflicts and difficulties.  Miki guides the show's experienced cast through role-plays in using NVC for resolving conflicts and for healing.Conflict Hotline 2

Watch the program via live video streaming at (click on the television in the left sidebar).  Or watch it on TV if you are in the Bay Area, and can access channel 28 or 33. 

Call us!
Call in with your questions and conflicts.  You will get the support of Miki and her team to work through whatever issue you struggle with. What are your communication challenges?
The phone number is (510) 433-0700. You can call from anywhere! (call charges will apply outside the Bay Area). 

Conflict Hotline 3If possible, let us know ahead of time if you are going to call, to help with planning the show.  We'd also love to have your conflict scenarios sent to us.  Email

Look for previous episodes on YouTube - just search for "Conflict Hotline".

See below for a fun way to help with the show.

We hope MANY people will discover the benefits of NVC through this show!


Conflict Hotline Needs a Volunteer
Our new monthly television show (see above) needs a volunteer to answer phones at the BayNVC office when viewers call in.  This is an opportunity to contribute to the TV show, one of BayNVC's most exciting current projects, even if you have no technical skills.  The job involves talking to callers before they go on the air; determining if the content is relevant; explaining to callers how to participate on the show; and keeping a record of all callers.  You will also be invited, if it's fun for you, to join the cast and crew in viewing and discussing shows and planning changes for future shows. 

Hours needed would be the first Thursday of every month from 6:30-8:30pm - the next show is March 5.  Please contact Lou Zweier, Director of the Conflict Hotline, at, if you are interested.


Miki's Practice Group Ending
After almost 12 years of continuous presence, Miki is retiring her Monday
night group.  The final group meeting will be March 9.  Here are her words:

"This group has been a mainstay of my NVC work, and one of the hubs of the community for so many years. It's almost unimaginable to have it end.  At the same time I am appreciating being able to notice the natural ending and recognize ending as part of the flow of life. I have enormous gratitude to the many people who came over the years, some only once, some for years.  I learned with you all along.  If you are drawn to working with me, consider attending my monthly workshops or teleclasses, and watch for the new practice series that I hope to offer starting in May."


BayNVC is in need of the following:
  • We've outgrown our phone system!  And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.  A new system will cost us over $4000!  If your company or organization is growing and looking for a new phone system, why not get a tax write-off and donate your old system to us?  If you think you have a potential solution for us, email newphonesystem.   Thank you!

  • Three new desktop computers, PC platform
  • New or gently used office chairs
  • A paper cutter
  • -please contact BayNVC.

  • A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois
Don't Miss:

March and April is a great time to start a study series.  Foundations and Integration Series at various levels are being offered in Oakland, San Francisco and Santa Rosa.

Also, Meganwind Eoyang is offering a new series called Connecting with Requests - a great opportunity to practice this challenging aspect of NVC, starting March 10.


Upcoming Intros
Classes and Workshops

3/7 Foundations of NVC Mediation 3-Day - Oakland

3/7 Taking Responsibility in the Face of Guilt and Judgment - Oakland

Intensives / Retreats

3/13 Living Peace - CA

3/16 NVC Daylong Workshop - Geneva, Switzerland

3/18 Leading From The Heart - Poland

4/17 NVC Weekend Workshop - Barcelona, Spain

4/30 4-Day East Coast Mediation Intensive - NY

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,

More Information & Registration

 Since many of our
events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  You may
pre-register by clicking the "Register Now" button at the bottom of most event descriptions, or by calling our office at 510-433-0700.  You will receive a confirmation email with driving and public transit directions.
Parking is free on all of the streets around BayNVC's wheelchair accessible
 building in the Piedmont area of Oakland. 

HERE for a complete, up-to-date listing of
our retreats, study series, workshops
and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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Thank you.  We look forward to seeing you at some of our events! 
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Address:  55 Santa Clara Ave., Suite 203, Oakland, CA 94610

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