BayNVC Bulletin
February 2009
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people."

- Mohandas K. Gandhi

Dear Friends,

Thanks to all of you who voted for the 'Empathy Gap' initiative earlier
this month on  Although it did not finish in the top ten, another initiative close to BayNVC's heart, to create a U.S. Department of Peace, finished second!!  We're proud to have been supporting this campaign for the last four years by offering free ongoing NVC training to the leaders and campaign activists.  If you want to learn about this initiative consider attending the national conference in Washington, D.C. March 20-23.

BayNVC has recognized the importance of leaders for many years. Close to 300 people have graduated from our North American Leadership Program and gone on to seed Nonviolent Communication around the world.  This year we have 37 students in the program, 14 of them from outside the U.S.: Ghana, Kenya, Japan, Scotland, France, Sri Lanka, Germany, and Canada.  I am delighted that nine participants are under the age of 30!  We are nurturing leaders of all kinds through this intensive, year-long program.

If you're interested in building your leadership capacity by integrating
NVC skills, consider attending our Living Peace intensive retreat (March 13-18) in the beautiful Santa Cruz mountains.  Whether you are new to NVC, or have taken some of our classes, I highly recommend it for learning and integrating your NVC practice.  The retreat will be led by Kathy Simon, who has experience in leadership roles in nonprofit and educational settings.  If you'd like, after the retreat, you can continue learning with Kathy and others in the group through the Committed NVC Practitioners Program.

Please keep in touch!

This comes with love,

Kit Miller
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
Robert GonzalezWorkshops With Robert Gonzalez
For students and teachers of NVC

Robert Gonzales has a PhD in Clinical Psychology and has been offering Nonviolent Communication training for twenty-two years. He leads advanced trainings in NVC throughout the USA, Canada and Europe.

"What inspires me the most with NVC is the beauty in people's eyes as they transform emotional suffering into joy, freedom and compassion."

The Beauty of Needs - Weekend Workshop
Saturday, February 28 - Sunday, March 1, 9:30am - 5:30pm in Oakland.
The focus of this workshop is to develop awareness of "the beauty of needs" as a means to engage in a living practice of NVC everyday, moment to moment.

Daylong Workshop for People Who Teach NVC
Monday, March 2, 9:30am - 5:30pm in Oakland.
Robert will share processes he has developed, including:
Compassionately Embracing the Jackal
Connecting with the Living Energy of Needs and Speaking Giraffe Naturally
Practicing Honesty and Empathy from the Beauty of Needs.

MikiKashtanThe Conflict Hotline: 
A monthly TV show with Miki Kashtan
Starting February 12 at 7:30pm (PST)

The Conflict Hotline goes to TV!!  Berkeley Community Television is giving us access to their studio to have a live monthly television show featuring Miki Kashtan.  The Conflict Hotline invites everyone to call in to the studio in real time to share conflicts from their lives.  Miki will guide the show's experienced cast through role-plays in order to support callers and other viewers in learning about using NVC for resolving conflicts and for healing.  We are extremely excited about this program, and have a lot of hope that many more people will find out about the benefits of NVC through this medium.

You can watch the program via live video streaming at (click on the television in the left sidebar).  Or you can watch it on your TV if you are local to the Bay Area, and can access channel 28 or 33. 

Call us!
We invite you to call in to Conflict Hotline with your questions and conflicts.  You will get the support of Miki and her team to work through whatever issue you are struggling with. What are your communication challenges? Where do you have conflict that you could use some support with?
The phone number is (510) 433-0700. You can call from anywhere in the world (call charges will apply outside the Bay Area). 
Conflict Hotline will air on February 12th at 7:30pm (Pacific Standard Time) and subsequently on the 1st Thursday of every month. Please invite your friends to view and to call the show.

NVC in Europe and by Telephone
Spread the word to far-away friends!

Miki Kashtan will be leading workshops this March and April in Switzerland, Poland and Spain, including a week-long intensive in Poland focused on NVC and leadership.  Click here to learn more.

Roxy ManningTeleclasses through NVC Academy are a Inbal Kashtangreat way to deepen your skills, wherever you live.  Power Relations and Connecting Across Differences in US Society: An NVC Perspective, a teleclass with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning, meets four Thursdays starting February 5.

You can join Miki and her sister Arnina's series, Dancing in the Gap of Uncertainty, at any point - each session is a stand-alone workshop.  2 different dates and times are offered each month to accommodate different time zones.

Also ongoing is Miki's year-long teleclass Open-Hearted Therapy: Bringing NVC to Psychotherapy Practice.  Session 2, Embodying and Using NVC with Clients, meets Sunday, March 1.

Leading from the Heart: A Telecourse for NVC Trainers & Facilitators is a new year-long series with Miki, starting March 1.  In this class you'll learn skills and practices to:
-Maintain and regain self-connection while teaching
-Increase capacity to make clear choices about transparency
-Balance plans with attention to what's alive
-Cultivate empathic connection before teaching.


Rachel MondeStaff Comings and Goings
We said goodbye to Rachel Monde in January (pictured), who was a crucial part of the Dept. of Nerdy Pleasures (AKA finance) at BayNVC these last couple of years. We will miss Rachel's presence in our office very much and wish her well in her next adventure.

Erik Beach-Rehner, who has been volunteering at BayNVC for several months, will be taking on some of Rachel's responsibilities. Welcome Erik!

We are also saying goodbye for now to Karin Morris, who has held our
parenting project over the last several years with so much love and attention.  During Inbal Kashtan's cancer and leave from BayNVC, Karin stepped in to hold things together for the parenting program. Thank you Karin!!

2009 U.S. Family Camps
We are taking a hiatus from organizing a Bay-area Family camp this
summer, and are delighted to let you know of other camps that will happen this summer, on the East Coast
July 10-18 in Northern Virginia, and in the Seattle area July 29-Aug 4.

Do you want to create close
connections with your children, to inspire cooperation instead of power struggle, to take good care of yourself, to support your children in thriving, to have fun and peace of mind, to enjoy parenting? Consider attending Family Camp this summer!


BayNVC is in need of the following:
  • We've outgrown our phone system!  And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.  A new system will cost us over $4000!  If your company or organization is growing and looking for a new phone system, why not get a tax write-off and donate your old system to us?  If you think you have a potential solution for us, email newphonesystem.   Thank you!

  • Three new desktop computers, PC platform
  • New or gently used office chairs
  • A paper cutter
  • -please contact BayNVC.

  • A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois
Don't Miss:

Embodying Compassion: Communication for Dharma Practitioners.  This new series will explore the basics of NVC from the perspective of Buddhist teachings, and is equivalent to our "Foundations I" class.  Wednesdays, in Berkeley, starting February 4.

Choice in the Face of Demands (part 3 of Dancing in the Gap of Uncertainty), with Miki Kashtan, February 21 in Oakland.  Each workshop stands on its own, and together they comprise a journey of self-discovery and inner alignment.


Upcoming Intros
Classes and Workshops

2/21 Choice in the Face of Demands- Oakland

2/28 Weekend Workshop w/Robert Gonzales - Oakland

3/2 Daylong for Teachers of NVC - Oakland

3/7 Foundations of NVC Mediation 3-Day - Oakland

Intensives / Retreats

3/13 Living Peace - CA

3/16 NVC Daylong Workshop - Geneva, Switzerland

3/18 Leading From The Heart - Poland

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,

More Information & Registration

 Since many of our
events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  You may
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and practice
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