BayNVC Bulletin
September 2008
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny."

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Dear People,

In these times of global uncertainty and challenge, I sometimes find
sustenance in doing what Tom Atlee calls "imagineering".  I am inviting you to join me for a few minutes.

Here is an article I would like to read in 10 year's time:
Global Interdependence Day Celebration - San Francisco Chronicle, Sept. 10, 2018

This Sept 11, 2018 marks the ten year anniversary of Interdependence
Day. Since this date on 2008, the movement to acknowledge the
interdependence of all living beings has spread from where it first began here in the San Francisco area.  "There's no question in my mind that a shift began to occur in September 2008" says Nobel winner Al Gore and producer of the recent blockbuster  film "The Truth: It's No Longer Inconvenient", a celebration of the successful global effort to contain carbon emissions. "Without the understanding of how linked all life is on this planet, we would not have been able to make the changes we needed to make. The skills underlying this transformation are due in no small part to the legacy of Nonviolent Communication, which has enabled people worldwide to create life-serving systems."

As we mark the 10th anniversary of World Interdependence Day, many
people recall their first reactions.  "I was skeptical at first, that's for sure. Now, looking back, we wouldn't have been able to resolve our issues in the Middle East, or shift away from our dependence on oil, without the consciousness and skills of NVC" states Richard Cheney, Jr., part of the Global Alliance for Energy Descent. "I don't believe that the oil companies would ever have agreed to donate their profits toward the effort of re-tooling the global economy if it wasn't for the people involved having such a broad vision AND the ability to connect across differences."

This year also marks the fifth anniversary of the Westpoint Peace Academy at the Presidio. The cadets we interviewed expressed incredulity about how conflicts were addressed when they were children. Most couldn't believe that a basic understanding of human needs was missing prior to that. "It's just common sense!" exclaimed one young cadet.

Keep reading to help make our dreams come true.

This comes with love,

Kit Miller
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
Miki KashtanEveryone Matters: Peace and Power in Everyday Life
A special workshop on interdependence to celebrate U.N. International Day of Peace
Sunday, September 21, 2008 from 9:30am-5:00pm
in San Francisco.

Join Miki Kashtan, senior Nonviolent Communication (NVC) trainer, in exploring inspiring ideas and concrete tools for turning the idea that everyone matters into a reality in your life and beyond. Discover how you can:
- Increase authenticity, connection and power-sharing in your relationships
- Honor your longing for community, belonging, and love
- Grow your awareness of the effects of your actions, and take more responsibility without guilt or obligation.

This workshop is suitable for people new to NVC, and also introduces new tools to support those more experienced with the process to deepen their practice.  Click here to learn more and register.

Outreach:  Are you willing to help us spread the word and fill the room to create an amazing event?  Print out flyers here.

CEU's:  Continuing Education Units for Marriage and Family Therapists, Licensed Clinical Social Workers and Registered Nurses are available. Application packets will be available at the workshop; more details here.

Volunteers:  We'll need help with set up, registration, sound, book sales, transportation, and more.  Please let us know ASAP if you want to help: email Maja or call the office at (510) 433-0700.
New Series Starting Up!
In Oakland, San Francisco and Santa Rosa

Our calendar is full of choices for the fall, including Foundations and Couples Series, Empathy, NVC as Spiritual Practice, Restorative Circles, Mediation and many more!  See sidebar or visit our website for the complete list.

-Diversity Dialogues start on September 6 in San Francisco.  Each month focuses on a different theme, including race/ethnicity, gender, and sexual orientation.  The dialogues will provide a way for participants to talk about their personal experiences in each of these areas.  Attend the whole series or individual sessions.

-Don't forget to refer your therapist to Open-Hearted Therapy with Miki Kashtan, starting September 28.  This class is intended for therapists in active practice who want support in how to bring the principles of NVC into their psychotherapy practice.

-We're delighted to respond to people's request for a daytime (4-6 p.m.) practice series in Oakland, starting October 7, with Meganwind Eoyang.  We hope this time will work well in people's schedules.  Ongoing practice with real-life issues helps people integrate NVC.

-Miki's NVC Academy telecourse The Twain Shall Meet: Connection and Effectiveness in the Workplace, starting October 19, is an option for those who live outside the Bay Area as well as locals.  Learn what it takes to bring NVC consciousness and skills into an environment that operates on different principles.  The first session is free!

Visiting Trainers This Fall:
Arnina Kashtan and Dian Killian bring different approaches to working with NVC

Arnina Kashtan - smallArnina Kashtan, sister of Miki and Inbal, is coming for her annual visit from Israel. Specializing in consciousness breakthroughs, she has been teaching NVC for 15 years in Israel and the Bay Area, and also teaches "The Work" of Byron Katie and "The Bowen Therapy Technique".  She'll be offering The Finale of Suffering, a special 2-day workshop  - a deep, exciting process towards liberation from blocking patterns which cause us suffering, and From Blast to Blossom - Shifting Family Dynamics, a 2-week series for learning how we might approach our families with more self-connection, power, and compassion.

Dian KillianDian Killian, PhD, is founder and director of Brooklyn NVC and the Facilitate Change program ( and co-author of Connecting Across Differences: A Guide to Compassionate, Nonviolent Communication and Urban Empathy: True Life Adventures of Compassion on the Streets of New York.  As a trainer, her passions include NVC for social change and organizational development/support, NVC and creativity, and a kinesthetic/body-based approach to NVC/empathy.  Dian's offerings include Red State/Blue State: Connecting Across Political - and Other - Divides, and Embracing the Body: A Kinesthetic/Sensation-Based Approach to Practicing Nonviolent Communication.

From Our Living Peace Retreat, March 2008:
"[NVC is] a teaching whose very roots strike at the heart of compassion - its gifts are endless and evolving and will forever live in my conciousness."


Personal Assistant Sought for BayNVC Board Member
Looking for computer-savvy person with NVC skills to help with email
conversations, professional as well as personal.  I support families in reestablishing harmonious ways of functioning together.  My approach is based in NVC and Waldorf education. I value presence and patience, taking time for each task and building relationship as part of the work.
1-2 sessions of 2 hrs/week, $20/hr, in Sebastopol, CA.
Please call Lorene, (707) 829-2745.


Upcoming New Location for Miki's Monday Night Practice Group
Starting Monday, September 15, we'll meet at Anam Cara House, 2915 Martin Luther King at Russell, in Berkeley, from 7 - 9:15 p.m.  We hope this new venue will give us more privacy, comfort and time flexibility.  Questions?  Call BayNVC at (510) 433-0700. 

NVC + InterPlay come together in...FULLY ALIVE,
a performance featuring Leadership Program participant Beandrea Davis. Saturday, September 20, 2008, 7 p.m. at Interplayce, 2273 Telegraph, Oakland, CA. Improv dance, intimate storytelling, and live music.  Audience invited to be seen and heard.  Come celebrate, leave inspired!  To purchase tickets visit or call (510) 219-5264.

The Heartwalker Peace Project

September 21, 2008 in San Francisco, celebrating the U.N. International Day of Peace
A family-friendly celebration and peace walk that is not anti-anything.  The event starts at 11 a.m. in Justin Hermann Plaza with music, performance, and a 3.5-mile walk in the shape of a heart.  For more information: or (510) 495-4988.


BayNVC is in need of the following:
  • We've outgrown our phone system!  And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.  A new system will cost us over $4000!  If your company or organization is growing and looking for a new phone system, why not get a tax write-off and donate your old system to us?  If you think you have a potential solution for us, email newphonesystem.   Thank you!

  • New loveseat for breakout room
  • New or gently used office chairs
  • Extra large doorstops for workshop and breakout room doors
  • Three new desktop computers, PC platform
  • Latest version of Microsoft Office
  • Six 17-inch flat screen monitors
  • Frequent flyer miles
  • DVD player
  • -please contact BayNVC.

  • A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois
Save the Date for Speaking Peace

Please mark your calendars for our 4th annual free fundraising brunch on Saturday, November 15, at
Hotel Nikko in San Francisco.

Would you like to invite friends, colleagues, and community and host a table for 10 at this event? Please contact Judith via email or at


Upcoming Workshops
Upcoming  Intensives

9/5 Living Peace - New York

9/16 NVC Mediation Retreat - California

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,

More Information & Registration

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events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  You may
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