BayNVC Bulletin
August 2008
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

"We are all born dependent. We have a lot of practice and experience in this culture in trying to be independent.  I want to grow in my capacity - and support others' capacity - for interdependence as a conscious practice of peace for sustaining life at all levels."

Miki Kashtan

Dear People,

This past Sunday we met to vision regarding the future, and how BayNVC can continue to serve during the coming months and years, in an environment that could include dramatic changes in economic, political and environmental conditions.  This discussion was vital for me, as so many of the conversations I have and the decisions we make concern guesses regarding the future.  I became clearer that a crucial part of my vision is that BayNVC exists to support people in acquiring a deeper understanding of how to be useful to themselves and others during times of change and transition.

If you wonder about ways to navigate uncertainty and change, consider attending Miki Kashtan's September 21 event (see sidebar) for new and experienced NVC students.  As the quote above indicates, Miki has been thinking a lot lately about interdependence and is looking forward to sharing some new insights regarding that topic on Sept. 21.  In part in response to the issues of gender and race that our current presidential elections have stirred in the nation, BayNVC is sponsoring several dialogues throughout the fall on issues of race, gender, class and sexuality.  These dialogues are open to new and experienced NVC folk,
to provide a forum for support, learning and community.

We also have THREE retreats in September!! (See below.) Our next open retreat is not scheduled until March 2009, so if you have been wondering
about attending a retreat, now is the time!

This comes with love,

Kit Miller
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
2008FamCampCircleImmerse Yourself in NVC!
Sign up for a retreat and soak up the experience of relating to the world in a new way.

"Moment-by-moment practice increases the possibility for me to better connect with others in a way that is authentic at a more profound level...The retreat provided me with tools, peace and healing.  I have more hope and clarity and inspiration in my heart about today and tomorrow." - Alicia Garcia, retreat participant

East Coast:
Sept 5-10 Living Peace: Intensive Residential Retreat with John Kinyon and Francois Beausoleil in New Lebanon, NY.

West Coast:
Sept 12-17 Living Peace: Intensive Residential Retreat with Inbal Kashtan and Roxy Manning in the beautiful Santa Cruz Mountains.

Sept 16-21 NVC Mediation: 5-day Retreat with Ike Lasater & John Kinyon in Calistoga, CA.
ike and john9-Month Program in NVC Conflict Resolution
with Ike Lasater & John Kinyon,
September 2008 - June 2009

Ike and John's program provides a learning context for you to:
* Practice presence, connection, and centeredness in the midst of conflict
* Deepen skills of empathic listening, particularly in challenging situations
* Increase your ability to spontaneously translate judgments into need language with ease and naturalness
* Facilitate the transformative process of people hearing each other's needs
* Develop skills for making clear requests and creating collaborative solutions

5-day Intensive Retreat - September 16-21
The retreat is part of the 9-month program and will also be open to anyone who wants to deepen their NVC practice.

Click here to learn more.
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Arnina Returns This Fall
Arnina Kashtan, sister of Miki and Inbal, is coming for her annual visit from Israel. Specializing in consciousness breakthroughs, she has been teaching NVC for 15 years in Israel and the Bay Area, and also teaches "The Work" of Byron Katie and "The Bowen Therapy Technique".
She'll be offering The Finale of Suffering and From Blast to Blossom - Shifting Family Dynamics.
 NVC at Work: 2 Series with Miki Kashtan

Open-Hearted Therapy: A 6-Week Series on Bringing NVC to Psychotherapy Practice,

September 28 - December 14.

This class is intended for therapists in active practice who want support in how to bring the principles of NVC into their psychotherapy practice.  Together we will explore a framework for understanding all behavior as an expression of basic human needs shared by all, enhance skills for presence and empathic listening, increase our capacity for authentic connection with clients, and focus on specific topics.
Click here for more information.

The Twain Shall Meet: Connection and Effectiveness in the Workplace Using Nonviolent Communication, a 5-week telecourse starting October 19.
In this telecourse you will learn what it takes to bring NVC consciousness and skills into an environment that operates on different principles. You will find out what you can do even when none of your colleagues embrace or even know about NVC. You can benefit from this course whatever your role or title is within the organization where you work.  Learn more and register at NVC Academy.

Restorative Circles Update is on our Website
Click here to learn the latest about restorative circles in the Bay Area and in Brazil!

"Would you like to donate $100 to BayNVC - for FREE?

If you open a new checking account with SunTrust Bank from now through Dec. 31, they will donate $100 to the non-profit organization of your choice. I did this, for a donation to BayNVC, and it was easy, free, and it worked seamlessly. The offer is open to all U.S. residents / businesses (and the bank encourages its use for fundraising). Visit"  - Becky Sparks


Would you enjoy contributing to our Family Camp?
We are looking for two adult volunteers who would enjoy supporting a group of kids while the staff of our Family Camp hold their pre-camp meeting. The anticipated dates and times are: Sunday, 8/10 from about 1:30-6:00 and Monday, 8/11 from 9-12:30, and the location is Mountain Home Ranch Resort in Calistoga.  If you'd like to come for both days and would enjoy spending the night, we'd be happy to explore that  possibility with you.
We are also looking for volunteers who can transport families arriving from various parts of the planet to and from Calistoga.  The dates we need help are Saturday 8/9, Sunday 8/10,  Monday 8/11 and Sunday 8/17.  We'll be happy to reimburse you for costs of driving your vehicle.
To volunteer, and for details, please contact Josefine.

Can you (or someone you know) host an NVC student from Ireland for 3-7 days?
We're looking for a place for Sara Anderson - a participant in the 08-09 Parent Peer Leadership Program - to stay for the week of August 17-24.  She'll be with her mum, Una, and son Jacob (almost 2), and they'd like to be in San Francisco or the East Bay (somewhat close to public transit).  Do you have space in your home for some or all of that time? Or do you know of someone who'll be out of town during that period?  If yes, please contact Josefine.  We'd love to find a way to make Sara's trip here financially sustainable.


Marshall Rosenberg in the Pacific Northwest!
Marshall Rosenberg, creator of Nonviolent Communication, will be leading a number of workshops and trainings in Nonviolent Communication as part of the 2008 Nonviolence as a Way of Life Conference, September 11-14, 2008 in Eugene, Oregon.
The conference website,, contains many details about the conference, including Marshall Rosenberg's training schedule, the full schedule of workshops and panels, information about housing, dining and transportation, and the registration form.

3rd Engaging The Other Conference

September 4 - 7, 2008 in San Mateo, California
An international, multi-cultural, multi-disciplinary conference examining concepts of "The OTHER" from a universal, cross-cultural perspective to promote wider public dialogue about concepts of "Us and Them".
For full details visit or contact Steve Olweean, Director,  12170 S. Pine Ayr Drive, Climax, MI 49034.  Ph/Fax: 269-665-9393.

BayNVC is in need of the following:
  • We've outgrown our phone system!  And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.  A new system will cost us over $4000!  If your company or organization is growing and looking for a new phone system, why not get a tax write-off and donate your old system to us?  If you think you have a potential solution for us, email newphonesystem.   Thank you!

  • New loveseat for small group meeting room
  • Printer/Copier in good condition
  • Airmiles!!
  • New or gently used office chairs
  • -please contact BayNVC.

  • A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois
Daylong Workshop with Miki Kashtan

Everyone Matters: Peace and Power in Everyday Dialogue
A special workshop on interdependence to celebrate the UN International Day of Peace
Sunday, September 21, 2008 from 9:30am-5:00pm

This is a special opportunity for new and experienced students alike.

Join Miki Kashtan, senior Nonviolent Communication (NVC) trainer, in exploring inspiring ideas and concrete tools for turning the idea that everyone matters into a reality in your life and beyond. Discover how you can:
- Increase authenticity, connection and power-sharing in your relationships
- Honor your longing for community, belonging, and love
- Grow your awareness of the effects of your actions, and take more responsibility without guilt or obligation.
There are no prerequisites for this workshop, so it's a great way to introduce friends and family to NVC.
  Click here to learn more and register.


Upcoming Workshops
Upcoming  Intensives

9/5 Living Peace - New York

9/12 Living Peace - California

9/16 NVC Mediation Retreat - California

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,

More Information & Registration

 Since many of our
events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  You may
pre-register by clicking the "Register Now" button at the bottom of most event descriptions, or by calling our office at 510-433-0700.  You will receive a confirmation email with driving and public transit directions.
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our retreats, study series, workshops
and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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