BayNVC Bulletin
July 2008
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

Establishing lasting peace is the work of education; all politics can do is keep us out of war.

 Maria Montessori

Dear Friends,
I have just returned from Family Camp, tired and happy from a week of
living in NVC community with 79 others. Among other things a new
superhero was born last week during our daily skits, who appeared to help us learn how to fly our flags (be ourselves fully), and about no-fault
zones, and that everyone's needs matter. What a week!!

I am celebrating that during the past month we have begun to engage with 2 organizations to explore how to integrate NVC into their workplace
systems! The question of how NVC can be integrated into systems seems to us to be at the heart of the possibility of transforming the world. We will keep you posted!

Please mark your calendars and bring yourself, friends and family to a special daylong workshop in San Francisco with Miki Kashtan on Sunday, September 21, called Everyone Matters: Peace and Power in Everyday Dialogue.  This introductory daylong will be a terrific opportunity to introduce others to NVC and contains new material for experienced students as well.

Later this month (July 27) we are holding an open house (see details at right or below, depending on your formatting) for BayNVC's donors and their friends and families, to thank you and to report on our many projects and activities.

We invite all of you to help hold us in whatever ways you can, as this summer feels tight financially. Donations are lower than we have expected thus far. In addition, this is the first year that Marshall's visits haven't happened to contribute to our sustainability. We are making it, but not quite!  Out of our $968,000 budget, we have a shortfall of $50,000. If you have ideas, want to organize a fundraiser (big or small - last year some folks had a garage sale and donated the proceeds!), want to buy materials to share with friends or family, or feel moved to contribute (even if you have already contributed), we would be relieved of stress and grateful to experience the support!

This comes with love,

Kit Miller
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication
NEW!  Diversity Dialogue Series in San Francisco
Starting September 6
Are you able to ask for and receive support when you think someone is holding assumptions about you because of your race or ethnicity?  Do you have opportunities to share your views about the legalization of same-sex marriage in CA?  Are you afraid to talk about your feelings about the ways men and women are treated in the United States?  Do you know how to express your views about diversity with people who might not share those views, while trusting you can be heard?

This fall, BayNVC will host a series of dialogues to help people from diverse backgrounds connect in authentic conversation. The dialogues will focus on race/ethnicity, sexual orientation and gender and include consideration of the impact of class in each of these domains. The dialogues will provide a way for participants to talk about their personal experiences in each of these areas.  Discussion leaders include BayNVC Diversity Project Director Nancy Kahn, Roxy Manning, Edmundo Norte, and others.

To learn more and register, click here.
miki teaching portrait Open-Hearted Therapy: A 6-Week Series on Bringing NVC to Psychotherapy Practice
September 28 - December 14,
led by Miki Kashtan.
This class is intended for therapists in active practice who want support in how to bring the principles of NVC into their psychotherapy practice.  Together we will explore a framework for understanding all behavior as an expression of basic human needs shared by all, enhance skills for presence and empathic listening, increase our capacity for authentic connection with clients, and focus on specific topics.

Click here for more information.
ike and john9-Month Program in NVC Conflict Resolution
with Ike Lasater & John Kinyon,
September 2008 - June 2009

Ike and John's program provides a learning context for you to:
* Practice presence, connection, and centeredness in the midst of conflict
* Deepen skills of empathic listening, particularly in challenging situations
* Increase your ability to spontaneously translate judgments into need language with ease and naturalness
* Facilitate the transformative process of people hearing each other's needs
* Develop skills for making clear requests and creating collaborative solutions

5-day Intensive Retreat - September 16-21
The retreat is part of the 9-month program and will also be open to anyone who wants to deepen their NVC practice.

Click here to learn more.
Bring NVC to Parents in Your Community:
Join our Parent Peer Leadership Program!
The PPLP is a nine-month program aimed at nurturing and developing leaders who are committed to spreading NVC to parents in their communities, especially in those regions where there are no NVC trainers.

Applications for the 2008-2009 program, beginning in August with a Family Camp, will be accepted until the program is full.  For details or to receive an application packet, contact Karin.


From a Parent Peer Leadership Program Applicant:
"I'd also like to pass on how I was impacted by the document about     money.  I was quite apprehensive about finances until about halfway through reading it.  And then a shift happened, from scarcity to abundance.  In reading the document in NVC lingo, I felt uplifted, open and excited.  Somehow my need for being understood was met before I said anything.  It met my need for respect and authenticity.  To such an extent, in fact, that I borrowed some of it to include in the Pay As You Feel explanation that my practice incorporates in the pricing structure." - Garliq


BayNVC Interns/Volunteers Looking for Housing
Three (separate) BayNVC volunteers/Interns are looking for a place to live. These folks dedicate much of their time to making BayNVC 'go' & we'd love to see them happily housed. If you have any leads, please email them directly.  For more information & the email addresses, click here.

Volunteer Video Editor
We have hours of raw material of high quality NVC training, and would
like to find someone with the NVC AND video editing skills (+ software)
to transfer some of this to "bite sized" films that we can post online.
Interested? Please contact Maja to find out more.


Educators for Nonviolence presents Teaching Hope:  The Nonviolent Classroom.
Featuring Dr. Michael Nagler, founder of the Metta Center for Nonviolence Education
July 18-19, 2008 at Bishop O'Dowd High School, Oakland, CA.  What is Nonviolence?  How can it help me have a more peaceful classroom?  How can it improve my teaching and my life?  How can I teach it to my students?  For more information go to, email Deborah Kory or call 510-292-8136.

Calling All Teachers!  Teach for Life!  NVC Educators Institute.

Sura Hart, Jean Morrison & John Cunningham are inviting educators to participate in the 7th Annual Educators Institute in creating compassionate learning communities.  August 3rd-8th at Harmony Hill Retreat Center, Hood Canal, WA.  They'll be covering topics such as The No-Fault Classroom; NVC Games and the Power of Play; and The Inner Life of the Teacher - Forging the Capacity for Empathy.  Check out their website for more information and registration:

Possible Retreat Center/Community in Point Reyes.
Thanks to the efforts of Bob Yamtich, we have recently visited a  property for sale near Point Reyes Station that has been held with  great love.  Though BayNVC is not able to take on a project of building a retreat center at this time, perhaps someone or some collection of you in our community would be? Asking price is approximately $3 million. Email Bob Yamtich if you are interested.

BayNVC is in need of the following:
  • We've outgrown our phone system!  And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.  A new system will cost us over $4000!  If your company or organization is growing and looking for a new phone system, why not get a tax write-off and donate your old system to us?  If you think you have a potential solution for us, email newphonesystem.   Thank you!

  • New loveseat for small group meeting room
  • Printer/Copier in good condition
  • Airmiles!!
  • New or gently used office chairs
  • -please contact BayNVC.

  • A laptop PC, less than 3 years old, for trainers to use at retreats - please contact Francois
BayNVC Open House

Come meet us on Sunday, July 27 at 3:30 pm,
at Lake Merritt Church in Oakland.

This is a gathering for our donors and friends.

Each of our projects will be represented by staff and program
volunteers, and you will have opportunity to find the areas of your interest, and ask questions, give feedback or just enjoy the celebrations. We also wanted to provide some fun and connecting NVC
activity, and for that we have invited a group doing "Conflict
Improvisation" - hoping to inspire both laughs and learning.

We hope to see you there!

For more information, click here, or contact Maja to RSVP.


Upcoming Workshops
Upcoming  Intensives

9/5 Living Peace - New York

9/12 Living Peace - California

9/16 NVC Mediation Retreat - California

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,

More Information & Registration

 Since many of our
events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  You may
pre-register by clicking the "Register Now" button at the bottom of most event descriptions, or by calling our office at 510-433-0700.  You will receive a confirmation email with driving and public transit directions.
Parking is free on all of the streets around BayNVC's wheelchair accessible
 building in the Piedmont area of Oakland. 

HERE for a complete, up-to-date listing of
our retreats, study series, workshops
and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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