BayNVC Bulletin    
March 2008
Bay Area Nonviolent Communication is working to create a world where everyone's needs matter and people have the skills to make peace.

The next Buddha will not take the form of an individual.  The next Buddha will take the form of a community; a community practicing understanding and loving kindness, a community practicing mindful living.  This may be the most important thing we can do for the survival of the Earth.

Thich Nhat Hanh

Dear Friends,
I frequently speak with people just after they have heard about  Nonviolent
Communication, or attended a training for the first time.  Often the reactions
I hear range from "I'll never learn this!" to "I don't want to speak in such a stilted
way for the rest of my life!" to "Even thought I knew this was a practice, I hadn't
realized how challenging it would be to learn and integrate!"  Can you guess the
different needs associated with each statement?
I appreciate the relief I see and hear in people when I tell them that the stilted, 
awkward language phase of learning NVC is just that - a phase.  The model
itself is like a set of training wheels that, once your consciousness and focus is
shifted from strategy and demand to needs and connection, can be let go for
most interactions (though using 'classical' Nonviolent Communication in tense
or charged situations has always felt like the most skillful choice I can make).
BayNVC's focus on providing a variety of structured support for that 
transformative journey is a source of tremendous satisfaction to me, and it
provides me with real hope that the Bay Area will reach a 'tipping point'', where
the skills and consciousness of Nonviolent Communication are integrated into
such a number of institutions and individuals that our way of life begins to change. 
Each of you, and your choice to learn, are part of the movement toward that point. 
We are all connected!
This month's Bulletin offers many different strategies to move you toward your 
own tipping point.  If you have not yet attended a retreat, consider the
Living Peace retreat happening in March. If you see or know a therapist, let them
know about the therapists' retreat happening in March as well.
In loving service,
Kit Miller
P.S. Consider joining me, Ike Lasater and NVC colleague Eva Rambala this 
coming Tuesday, March 4, 7-9 pm, to learn about Nonviolent Communication
work in Eastern Europe among refugee populations, orphanages, government
agencies and elsewhere. We will request donations for the Eastern European
project that evening - give only if you are inspired to do so.
Just Released!
Read this new article in Tikkun about NVC and the Department of Peace 
co-written by Miki Kashtan. This will be a great piece to share
with friends interested in politics
and social change!
Dominick Barter Safer Comm. small11-Week Restorative Circles Teleclasses
Introduction (starts March 18) and Coaching
(starts March 19).

As many of you know, one of BayNVC's
strategic initiatives for this year
is to
support the
dissemination of the restorative
circles process in the Bay Area and

elsewhere. Restorative Circles
are a potent
blend of restorative justice practice with Nonviolent

The teleclasses are part of that strategy for two reasons. First is that they offer
training to all of you with Dominic
Barter, who created this process through his
work in Brazil. Second,
the proceeds from this call will help to support Dominic
to take time to write support materials for
better disseminating this work. Class
size is limited to 12, so if you want in, don't wait!!

As part of our commitment for economic inclusion, and because many people
want to learn this work, we are offering a 'listen-only' option for the
and Coaching series to as many people as want to join, for whatever money
can contribute.
John Kinyon hi-resNVC as Spiritual Practice with John
John Kinyon is a leading trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication and has been working with spirituality and
spiritual principles related to NVC for many years.  Join
him for a weekend workshop, March 29-30, exploring his practice using NVC to deepen into presence with the Living Energy imbuing all forms, and having our actions flow from
this presence.

Where's Marshall Rosenberg?
We've received a couple of inquiries about this and so wanted to let you know 
that Marshall Rosenberg will not be visiting the Bay Area this year. After several
years (or more!) of wanting to cut back his travel, Marshall finally this year is
spending most of his time off the road. He is mainly now living and working in
Albuqurque, NM, where he and his wife Valentina make their home. Check his
schedule at if you're willing to travel to see him!!
Mediation Series Starts April 9!
Learn to applying the Nonviolent Communication process to mediate conflict
in all types of situations, from legal mediation, to business and organizational conflict, to personal relationships.  Gain hands-on practice facilitating
empathic connection to shift the win/lose thinking -  so often prevalent in
conflict situations - into resolutions which will be satisfactory to all. 
Wednesdays, April 9 - June 11, in Oakland.
NVC and Social Change
Newly formed group invites NVC practitioners.
NVC-and-Social-Change Group invites all those interested in using nonviolence
and compassion-based consciousness in the service of social change and
activism work to join this newly formed group committed to contributing to social
change in alignment with NVC principles.  Some needs we'd like meet in this
group include community, connection,
gratitude, support, joy, play, and fun!

We've Outgrown Our Phone System!
And we're looking for a small business system with a minimum 8-line capacity.
A new system will cost us over $4000! If your company or organization is
growing and looking for a new phone system, why not get a tax write-off and
donate your old system to us? If you think you have a potential solution for us,
email Thank you!

BayNVC Needs You! Volunteer Positions Available:
Please contact Maja at if interested.

Help to promote and communicate about upcoming special events.
Involves working with our database, sending group emails, and support tasks
for mailing. These tasks are mostly computer based, and experience and ease
working with Excel, Word, Access, and Thunderbird is desired.
1-2 hours per week.

Create and update flyers, and organize and prepare photos for use in printed and
online materials. We use Adobe Creative Suite, so the person helping with this
must have worked with InDesign and Photoshop. 2-4 hours per month.

Four times per year we do a mailing of a hardcopy newsletter. We would like to
find a volunteer who can coordinate this task. About 10-15 hours every 3 months.

4. REPRESENT BAYNVC at Oakland EarthExpo
We are looking for 2-4 volunteers to staff our table at 2008 Oakland
EarthExpo. Would include preparing and set up, then being there to talk
about us and NVC to up to 4000 visitors on April 16, 2008.
Read more about EarthExpo HERE.

If you are interested please contact Maja [email link] by Tuesday, March 11.
We'd like a laptop computer in good condition for trainers to use at
retreats. PC, less than 3 years old. Please contact Francois,

Middle East Peace Program of Pacific Mountain Regional Office, AFSC, is

seeking a new Program Associate. This part-time, temporary position will be
responsible for outreach, education, event planning, coalition building, and
overall organizing for AFSC's Faces of Hope Campaign. $1500-$1650/month, 16
hours/week. For more information, contact Applications
due March 21, 2008, position to begin in April.
Managing Your Emails from BayNVC
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Upcoming Workshops
Upcoming Retreats

3/7 Living Peace - California

3/14 Open-Hearted Therapy - California

6/10 Living Peace - British Columbia

6/22 Family Camp - California

For a list of practice groups in the bay area and beyond,


More Information & Registration

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events fill quickly,
please consider pre-registering to ensure your space.  You may
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our retreats, study series, workshops
and practice
 groups in the Bay Area and beyond.
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