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Weekly Middah
July 12, 2009

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This issue of  Mussar Leadership's "Weekly Middah" was delayed by computer problems. Though these difficulties have not been entirely resolved, we are now able to send this out. Working with computers can be humbling. Humility leads us to the acceptance of the principle of Kol mah d'oveid Rachmono, l'tov oveid - "Everything that God does is for the good" as Rabbi Akiva taught.

In this edition we continue to call attention to the observance of the Three Weeks.
 
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In This Issue
Steps to Practice
Middah
Pasukim
Torah Portion
Bein ha-Metzarim
Steps to Practice
Safed Steps

Step 6


Keep a daily journal in which you record an incident or two from the day that showed when you did (or did not) apply the middah of the week. Keeping a daily mussar journal is an essential part of doing heshbon hanefeh (an accounting of the soul). You can find some suggestions on how to keep a mussar journal on our website.
Middah
sefer

Humility | Anavah  עֲנָוָה

Always seek to learn wisdom from everyone, to recognize your failings and correct them. In doing so you will learn to stop thinking about your virtues and you will take your mind off your friend's faults.

(Rabbi Menachem Mendel of Satanov, Chesbon HaNefesh).
Pasukim

A pasuk (plural, pasukim) is a scriptual verse. It is a good practice to find a pasuk that reminds you of your middah and repeat it (or sing it, if possible) to help in cultivating that character trait.

A pasuk for this week's middah - Anavah (Humility) - is לִפְנֵי כָבוֹד עֲנָוָה (Lifnay hokmah anavah/"Before honor come humility") . This phrase is found both at Proverbs 15:33 and 18:12.

יַדְרֵךְ עֲנָוִים, בַּמִּשְׁפָּט;    וִילַמֵּד עֲנָוִים דַּרְכּוֹ
May He guide the humble in to justice; may he teach the humble His way. Psalms 25:9.
Torah Portion
Torah scroll
Matot-Masei

(Numbers 30:2 - 36:13)

Masei, The Journey To Humility

This week we are privy to the travelogue of the Israelites in the desert. What are the highlights of the trip? We find that it speaks about the great pride the Yad ramah, the Jews had as they went out of Egypt while the Egyptians were busy burying their dead. Then they traveled, they narrowly escaped the attack at the red sea, they had shortages of water, but once they found an oasis with dates and wells. The last detail that is mentioned is that Aharon died in the fortieth year. It says he died on rosh hodesh av. The rabbis say that it was on the 15th of Av that year that the last Jews of the 40 years of the desert perished. So Aharon was one of the last to die from that generation.

Actually, all the masaot and all the travels could be seen as a corrective to their original attitude with which they left: breish glei, with pride. Usually we read that as a positive attitude. After all, they defeated the Egyptians. Why shouldn't they have pride, as Rashi says: bigvurah gvoha umfursemet, "with great and famed heroism." But I would like to make a radical suggestion; that it was that very pride which caused the Jews to wander in the desert for 40 years. This is why we had to suffer with a lack of water and food. They had no right to have pride. They had worshiped idols in Egypt. God had saved the Jews without the Israelites ever having to lift a finger. Victory belongs to G-d alone.

Had the Jews gone on at that point and tried to conquer Israel, they would have entered the land with hubris of having defeated Egypt. But after 40 years of death, and after the death of beloved Aharon, which caused great mourning, and after the death of Moshe, after the Jews had to burry their own dead, the Jews ready to conquer with humility and with an understanding that victory belongs to God.

It is interesting to note that only after the entire Jewish people wept and mourned for the death of Aharon, then and only then do the Jews win their first battle against the Canaanites. The Jews thought they could enter Israel with pride, head held high, with pride in their accomplishments. Instead, they entered Israel, humbled by 40 years of precarious living, 40 years of funerals of their own. They entered Israel mourning the death of Aharon and later Moshe.

What happened in 40 years? One thing. They were humbled. And with that corrective, they could enter Israel. Let us learn this lesson that it is through humility that greatness is achieved.


Source:  Rabbi Joel Finkelstein
Anshei Sphard Beth El Emeth Congregation
Memphis, TN
http://asbee.net/Masei%20Humility.htm
Bein HaMetzarim
Walling Wall
 
The fast of the 17th of Tammuz (Tzom Shiva Asar B'Tammuz) began at sundown last Wednesday.

The Bein haMetzarim is the period of mourning between the 17th of Tammuz - the fast  observing the breaking down of the walls of Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar in 586 BCE and then again by Titus in 70 CE - and the 9th of Av (Tisha B'Av). Tisha B'Av is the fast commemorating the destruction of both the first and second temples.

The name Bein haMetzarim ("between the straits," i.e. between the days of distress) comes from  Lamentations 1:3 "All who pursued her overtook her in narrow straits." (כָּל-רֹדְפֶיהָ הִשִּׂיגוּהָ, בֵּין הַמְּצָרִים).
 


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