December 2009

Vol 4, Issue 12

 
                       CHD Awareness Pamphlet

IMH Newsletter

Dear (Contact First Name),

Thinking about the needs of others comes naturally for some people.  Receiving help can be hard for someone who likes to be the one to lend a hand.  I am one of those people.  I'll never forget the time a teenage boy was innocently murdered in a nearby neighborhood in the year 2000. When I heard the family had no life insurance or savings for a respectable funeral, I sprung to action. With just a few phone calls to family and friends, we formed a fundraising carwash locally and divided tasks to pull off the event. On a Saturday in front of a local Pizza Hut, we raised nearly $2,000.00. We knew that was not near enough to cover all expenses but prayed it would help cover bills so they could take the time to grieve.
Each time I have helped others I am reminded of all that it has brought to my life. I have found it to be true that when I help others, I receive a blessing as well. 
 
When Noah was born December 2003, many humbling opportunities happened that have taught me there is an art of receiving and resulting blessings for both the giver and the receiver.  Which brings me to the 'art of receiving'.
 
Many of us are guilty of refusing help offered.  Sometimes we fail to admit that we need help while other times we may refuse to even mention there is a need at all.  
 
It can be very awkward when a friend or family member asks "Is there anything I can do?" Personally, I can recall many times before experiencing having a sick child, asking others if I could do anything for them and didn't realize just how difficult it can be on the receiving end of offers for help.  Not only does the person in need have their needs met, but the person giving shows how to think of others.  It can help them to be thankful for the small things in life, even if it is having food in the refrigerator or the neighbor raking the leaves out of your yard.
 
The movie starring Nicholas Cage, "Pay It Forward", brought home the meaning that if we give to someone not only will it will provide for that person but eventually they can give to someone else.  This will cause a trickle down or ripple effect. I have witnessed this concept in my personal life.
 
I vividly recall sitting with my sister-in-law in the hospital cafeteria as she handed a Christmas card to me and said, "Please accept my gift. I remember during a difficult time in my life that people were here for me and a friend telling me to accept the gift with dignity and honor because one day I would be provided the opportunity to help someone in need." I will never forget that opportune moment which has followed me throughout my experience of giving and receiving. Since then, I have had the blessed opportunity of giving to others and am mindful of those who are thoughtfully giving and I simply saying "Thank you". At this time, take advantage and "Pay It Forward" as you see those in need this Christmas season.

From the Heart,
 
Corrie Stassen
Executive Director
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Heart Journey
Dr. Heart to Heart
CHD Birthdays
Family Matching
IMH Chapters
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 Heart Journey -Jill Vantine
 
Jill Vantine is an adult living with CHD.  Here she shares her story with us.

     Most people, when asked to describe heart disease refer to heart attacks.  However, as we all know, there are a wide variety of heart related issues, or even mysteries, that require attention and additional research.  I believe my story is one that could open the public perception on the subject as it provides a glimpse into the life of someone with congenital heart disease and how it affects daily and long-term life. 

I was born 32 years ago, along with my identical twin sister, in a suburb of Minneapolis, Minnesota. We arrived precisely on our due-date; I was the second born, weighing 7lb 4oz.  Awaiting me was a team of surgeons ready to repair my pulmonary valve, which they already new was not completely functional. Within hours of my birth they did an emergency open-heart surgery to open up my completely closed pulmonary valve, the prognosis was uncertain. After a long, but successful operation they were able to open up the tiny valve to allow it to do its vital work in the heart.  I was then diagnosed with post pulmonary valvatory heart disease and after recovery would be able to go home to my family.

I recovered fairly quickly and the only evidence that I had had surgery was a scar that ran down my chest, a terrible scar that would grow in length as I did.  As time past and I grew as a normal child it came to my parent's attention that my chest wall did not appear to be growing and expanding as it should be.  It was then discovered that the structure of my rib cage was not solid and my parents were told my breast bone would eventually require additional support.  This required two additional surgeries when I was 11 years old.  The original surgery involved the insertion of a metal support bar in my chest to keep my breast bone from collapsing; it was to remain inside supporting my breast bone for up to two years.  However, after six short months it began to push out of my side and they were forced to remove it early. Even though it came out early it was a great improvement for me and enabled me to return to the life of a normal child.  Other than my scar from the multiple surgeries, the only other visible sign I was any different was that my lips would turn blue when I got real cold, like in the swimming pool, for example.  But other than that I was back to normal life.

I was able to lead a fairly normal childhood right through young adulthood before things would again change for me.  By the time I reached twenty-five, I began to get tired really rapidly, was short of breath and felt lethargic and I would then learn that my pulmonary valve had stopped functioning properly.  There was now excessive blood flow backing up in my heart and it had caused the right side of my heart to almost double in size. I saw several doctors at this point and my case was taken to a board of heart doctors at the University of Minnesota for evaluation. At the time there was not a lot of research done on pulmonary valve replacement and my doctor was uncertain of the outcome or longevity for me thus to provide me the best care and opportunity to return to normal life he wanted my case to be reviewed by a team of the best doctors and the decision would then come from that team and not just one doctor in regards to any potential solution. Upon lengthy discussions and review it was decided to put in a bio-prosthesis heart valve (a porcine or pig valve). Because I was so young they felt this type would be the most beneficial, allowing me to lead a normal life where I would not be dependant on any drugs, including Coumadin.  So I embarked on another major surgery.

On November 25th, 2002 I had my third open-heart surgery. When the specialist team went inside, they found out that I had never actually had a valve, or if I had it had disintegrated; there were only remnants of leaflets but no actual valve. The inserted my new pulmonary valve and examined the rest of my heart. They then found an aneurysm on the right side of my heart which they removed, and they also had to repair my tricuspid valve, which was leaking due to overuse because of the lack of functionality from my mostly absent pulmonary valve.  I spent 9 days in the hospital and I was on coumadin for 6 weeks. I was told my valve would last anywhere from 7-10 years, and was given a new bill on life.

My life did return to normal for a time and I enjoyed every minute.  At that point however, it was not to last, there were still changes occurring in my heart.  Several years later I began to experience a racing heart, even in my sleep it felt as if I was climbing a mountain, so back to the doctors I went.  This time I was in Texas and in September of 2005, I was diagnosed with atrial tachycardia and extremely rapid heartbeat. My doctors tried to control it with medicine with no results, so they attempted a catheter ablation - also unsuccessful. I was put back on several different medicines for 6 more months, and in July they attempted another catheter ablation, which worked.  Unfortunately, however, there where too many dysfunctional nodes and because of the location of some of the arrhythmias (my AV node), they could not repair my racing heart.  They explained to me that my AV node was creating the largest of the racing heartbeats and if they ablated the AV node my heart would die, the only solution would be to then install a pacemaker to be the new pacer of my heart.  After two long weeks of personal research and talking with my doctors, the decision was made to put in the pacemaker.  I had the surgery on August 11, 2006. Afterward, I was in a brace for several days and not able to drive for three weeks. It dramatically improved my energy levels, and, therefore, my quality of life.  It does require ongoing medical care and I must see my electrophysiolgist every 6 months.  But, once again I was able to return to a normal life and for that I was thankful.

My return to normal life was shorter this time however and in April of 2008 I spent my birthday at the emergency room due to extreme pain in my chest.  They released me after several tests and told me to see my cardiologist and that they could not find the answer to the pain.  The next six months was spent going from doctor to doctor to find an answer as to why I had so much pain and to find a resolution. I finally found out that my lower part of my ribcage had overgrown inward and was putting pressure on one of my lungs, and my liver, it needed to be fixed.  Back to the operating room, on October 21, 2008 I had surgery to remove the excess overgrowth of rib cartilage.  It eliminated the horrible chest pain I was having and has returned me to good health.

I am glad to be back in stable and good health.  I know that I will probably not escape having to have another valve replacement, outside of a miracle, but I do hope, of course, that by the time of my next surgery, significant progress will have been made, such that I may not have to have another open heart surgery but perhaps a less invasive surgery to replace my valve.  In order for that to occur more research must be done and more funds must be provided to the research for congenital heart defects and valve replacement.  To help in that effort I am telling my story so people can hear how congenital defects affect the daily life of an individual and understand why funds and research are needed to improve the quality of life for those with these conditions. 

As you can see my life has already benefitted from many advances in technology and for that I am extremely thankful, but as I mentioned we must not stop there, it is extremely important to continue to dedicate funds to advance our understanding.  I believe that my story will help many, as it highlights the complexity of the heart, the benefits gained in the quality and longevity of life through advancements in technology, and the need to further research this life-giving organ.   

If you have a heart journey you would like to share, please email your story to newsletter@itsmyheart.org

 Dr. Heart to Heart 

 

Christmas is almost here and people have been so generous to ask us what we need and how they can help.  I just don't know what to say.  I don't want to need help and really don't even know how to ask for what we need.
 
Ah, yes... Giving and Receiving.  The yin and yang of life is represented well.  In order to have a giver there needs to be a receiver and visa versa.  Accepting help can be difficult to do and your pride may be hurt. 
 
Ask yourself if it is worth struggling or if in the end it would benefit to accept the help.  You only have so much of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  Use your resources well. 
 
If someone offers, take it at face value.  They want to help.  General offers of help can be overwhelming when trying to coordinate hospital time, home time, other kids, everyday life responsibility.  When someone offers general help get a piece of paper and ask some key questions:
-         When are you available? (specific days of the weeks and times if possible)
-         What kind of help can you give?  Food?  Errands?  Babysitting?  Being at the hospital?
 
Everyone has strengths and gifts, let them use their talents to serve you and your family.  For example, certain people I would not ask to watch my children, but they would be ideal to pick up groceries or wash clothes. 
 
Having a main point person is helpful to coordinate offers of help.  This can be a mutual friend who can set up meal delivery, picking up kids at school, groceries, lawn service, errands, etc.  That person can work through who can do what and when and all you have to do is call one person and state the need.  When someone offers help, you call your friend and give contact info.  Then you can do what you need to most, take care of your little one. 
 
Keep a list in your medical journal of who helped in what way.  Later, you can go back and send notes.  It seems as though you won't forget who brought a meal, but as days go by and sleep deprivation sets in, you may need a little reminder.  A simple line in the notebook "Aunt Sue brought dinner" will suffice.  No one is expecting a card, but a little note with a picture of your little one will brighten their day and bless them as well!
 
It is okay to take a breather from the hospital and tell a friend you need to go out for coffee or dinner.  Take time to recharge so you can be a good parent for your child.  This goes after they are out of the hospital too.  Teach friends and family how to care for your child so you can have a few hours away. 
 
Financial needs can be great during medical crisis.  If you have a coordinator for needs they can let people know that they are collecting for hospital parking passes or restaurant gift cards.  With the holidays coming up, let people know that you need diapers, formula, or grocery store gift cards.  Generally people want to give what is most helpful to the family, but they cannot do that unless you let them know. 
 
Learn to say "yes" and then say "thank you" with a smile!  It is a truly strong person who knows when they need help and can ask and receive help well! 

Dr. Heart to Heart would love to hear your questions, please e-mail newsletter@itsmyheat.org.
 CHD Birthdays
 
  dec bday emily       dec bday harrison      dec bday henry
Emily Goodridge       Harrison Root             Henry Rode          
December 2              Dec 2, 2004               Dec 19, 2008
 
dec bday nico   dec bday charlie   dec bday mason
Nico Natarelli              Charlie Tester         Mason Speight
Dec 20, 2006              Dec 21, 2006          Dec 30, 2004
 
dec bday noah
Noah Stassen
Dec 9, 2003 - May 26, 2006
 
 
TCH

Is your child born in January?  Please send us your child's birthday and picture so we can all celebrate your child's birth with you!

 

We also want to celebrate all your angels birthday's too! So, please send us their information so we can include them as well! E-mail to

newsletter@itsmyheart.org.
Family Matching
 
How do I cope with all of the procedures and hospital stays my child endures?

Are there any other children out there with the same diagnosis as my child? How are they doing following their surgery?

Who can I talk to that has had a similar experience?

If you have these questions and more, our Family Matching Program may be able to help you. We can "match" you with another family with the same CHD .We have more adults signing up for family matching each month .If you are an adult with congenital heart disease please consider signing up for Family Matching. You are a true inspiration for families. 
 
For more information, contact lauren.simpson@itsmyheart.org.
Donations

Recurring monthly donations from:
Beth Jacobson
 
One time donations from:
Friends and family of Andrew Bond in his memory
John and Giovanna Crawford in honor of Tyson Gasaway
Kevin Roslinski in support of Drew Brown (residual donation from Big Hearts Big House
      event in Ann Arbor)
Laura, Don, Andrew, and Jack Harvey in honor of the Wolff Family!! In honor of the 5th
      birthday of Tenley and Jake. And, for Katy's birthday, too! 
Micheal Lewis
Tenley Wolff
Delores Gardner in honor of Corrie Stassen for her hard work and dedication to the
      Its My Heart organization

Donations "In Honor Of", "Memory Of", in recognition of a birthday, anniversary or "Just Because" can be made to It's My Heart. Not only will your donation go towards helping those affected by CHD, but also let someone special know you are thinking of them in a very special way.  All donations are tax deductible.  Your donation will further the work of spreading awareness of CHDs, fund programs such as the Comfort Bags and Care Packages to the hospitals, etc.
Someone loves IMH!
 
Drew's cousin, Madison (pictured below together), made this flyer and collected stuffed animals for the comfort bags!  How wonderful to see young children take initiative and help others! 
 
 

 
Do you know someone who loves IMH?  Send a story of how someone you know reached out to the CHD community! Email newsletter@itsmyheart.org.

It's My Heart Chapters

It's My Heart is dedicated to our mission which is to provide support, spread awareness, educate and advocate for those affected by Congenital Heart Defects by creating alliances with fellow families, hospitals, support groups, and the community. Creating chapters of IMH throughout the country is imperative to our ability in achieving our mission.

 

The objective of chapter development advances our opportunity to increase awareness, support and thereby advocate for those affected by CHD.

 
If you are interested in organizing a chapter or becoming a Regional Coordinator in your area, please contact the It's My Heart National Office at (281) 578.7343 or (888) HEART.07 or e-mail
chapters@itsmyheart.org.


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