Just Lose It with Berta Newsletter
Volume 1
Issue 38
09-23-2010

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Hello !

 

 
 
Hi and welcome back again.  I have just been reflecting on the fact that we have been together for 38 issues of this e-zine!  Not that 38 has any particular relevance, but it feels like a significant number, not only for the writing of it, but because of the amount of time that you have invested by reading along!  So, I thank you, and I hope to continue to give you the type of information and inspiration that you are looking for!
 
There have been quite a few changes here at Manifest Destiny and Just Lose It.  As you know, I began this online endeavor with my good friend, and first client and success story, Ann Lindsay.  Ann and I have worked together to get this e-zine up and running, and we have both worked hard to design and prepare to launch my website.  However, a few months ago, Ann began to follow her heart. She started her own weekly e-zine, and soon her own website, as well, using her talents to cater to men as a personal image consultant! You can check her out at www.sosformen.com ! Since we are both so very busy with our personal interests, we have mutually decided to go our separate ways.  We are both very excited about the opportunity to give all of our time to our individual passions, and so I wish her well and foresee great success for Ann (and better dressed men)! 
 
Meanwhile, this week's "Tea Time" is about our personal journey through the weight loss experience.  I believe if we continue to think of this process as separate from our daily life, we will continue to yo-yo up and down. We need to understand that we have never really failed; we just haven't yet finished.  In the  "Did You Know," I break down the different types of water available for our drinking pleasure and explain which ones are best for our body and why.  Lastly, this week, the  "Favorite Food" I am very happy to share with you is a wonderful recipe using one of my favorite beans!  Scroll down for this hearty, low fat and very tasty soup. 


Enjoy and have a great week! 
 

Berta

Tea Time with Berta:
                               Berta cup of tea photo

 

 
Floating not Bloating!
 
Well, so much talk lately about fairy tales and bad habits and perpetual self-deception that I forget to address the needs of my new readers. You regulars might benefit from a refresher on how to get started after the summer fun and stay on track, so forgive me for repeating some information. The hardest time of the year has just passed, and I know that you all have that itch to get back to feeling that you are losing weight--as opposed to feeling like the  bloated body in a too-tight swimsuit that many complained about this summer.  Isn't is great to feel slim again? To feel that your efforts are not for naught? That you can do this?  Now it
's time to take the next step, and please think of it as the next step: a fresh step and an appropriate step. Rather than embracing that familiar feeling that you are starting all over again, losing the same pounds you have been losing every year, look on this next step as an extension of the journey that will, I promise, have an end.  
 
This is a process, and I hope that you will accept the fact that there is no getting off this ride once you have truly bought your ticket. You might go up and you will go down, but you will definitely go all around because that is all part of the roller coaster ride that is normal for sustained weight loss. My hope is that you learned some valuable lessons over the summer-not the least of which was finally admitting that losing and gaining weight on those silly fad diets is not the way to go! The past few months were hard, but by holding on when you wanted to throw in the proverbial towel, I think you all ended the summer on a good note. In truth, no matter what happened, it is all okay!
 
Speaking of lessons, I learned some hard ones when I was young that have stayed with me all of these years.  One of them pertains to the experience of holding on, of persevering.  When I was young, my father thought it was very important for all of his kids to be very strong swimmers. He was determined to teach us, sink or swim! Believe me, we swam. One day, when I was around eight or nine, he took me to the ocean and together we swam and swam far from the shore. I became frightened when I could hardly see the beach. I trusted my father, but I didn't think I was going to be able to make it back.  When we were very far out, he told me to get on my back and float. I did as I was told, and we stayed there for a while, floating, breathing and resting.  I was still scared, but when I realized that nothing bad was going to happen, I started to enjoy the peace of lying there on my back in that endless expanse of ocean, with only the sounds of water splashing around my head and my breathing beginning to return to normal.  After a while, my father said we could swim back to shore.


What does this have to do with what I have been talking about?  Well, you see, it is in the journey.  Going on and off diets, continuously thinking that you have failed, only to start and fail again, you feel as I did on the swim out.  I thought that I was just a frail little girl, frightened that I would not be strong enough to make it all the way out and back. I did not know that there was a way to rest in preparation for the return journey until my father taught me. And that is how I learned that the respite was part of the swim, part of the journey.  I didn't swim out there, get tired and drown!  That is not what happened, at all. I began the journey, rested for a time and was able to swim back to shore with ease.  There was no disaster that ended  the journey; floating was not a failure. Indeed, the failure would have been in drowning! Had my father not shown me how to rest on my back, I might not have  been able to complete the journey.  This is why I am now giving you permission, encouraging you to rest when you feel as if you might drown, when you are struggling and want to quit and let it all go.
 
I want you to remember that no matter what, your brain is wired to make it to the end, to achieve success. Weariness along the way is not a signal that you are done, that you have lost. Weariness only points to the fact that your path must take a different course for a moment. And like it or not, that path is going to look different from day to day, and perhaps even from hour to hour because your individual experiences determine its course. However, if you don't learn how to flip over on your back to rest the right way--and enjoy that vital time of re-energizing for the next step--you run the risk of trying to rest by expending the energy to tread water. All that will buy you is a bit more time before exhaustion, and, you got it, drowning! So, accept that this is what the path to weight loss looks like. The road is long and scary, and even though others are swimming by your side, this is your journey, and no one can do it for you.


I can, however, offer a preview. I can show you what to do when you think there is no holding on.  Remember, there is no difference between losing weight and holding on, and to be honest, to gaining weight, as well. If you can just understand what it looks like, then you can learn to float until it is time to drop down again.  You will be up and down, and you will stay the same, but every time you give up, every time you tell yourself that you don't care, you are lying to yourself and making everything so much more difficult than it has to be.
 
This week, I saw many, many, clients who were terribly disappointed that they did not go down this summer. As they sat there dejected, belittling themselves, I wanted to shake them because I remember years of prior summers when they gained.  This summer almost everyone stayed the same or went down.  That is not drowning, the ultimate failure; that is success, a rest to energize yourself for the next leg of the journey!


"But it's taking forever," was the sentiment this week.
 
"No, it's not," I replied, over and over. "What takes forever is stopping and gaining your weight back.  Losing weight and holding on for a time until you lose some more only gets you lighter year after year. Before you know it, you'll be maintaining your ideal weight, and that is success, arrived at the right way." 
 
Therefore, stay the course, pat yourself on your back-unless you're floating on it-and then swim yourself back to shore.  It is not as far as you think, and if you get tired again, no biggy, just flip over, rest for a bit, and enjoy the peace!



Did you know...
 
that water is the fountain of youth?  I know that sounds ridiculous, but it is true.  The funny thing is that everyone has forgotten about its benefits. Perhaps that's because it's simple and free-or at least it used to be! People kind of take things that are free for granted, and with water, you wonder how good it can be since it's free and tasteless. Maybe, if we wait long enough, water will be so costly that we will stop taking it for granted and appreciate it as one of the most miraculous things nature has provided. 
 
Like air, water is one of those things that you don't notice until you don't have it, and then that's all you think about.  Air deprivation will get your attention within a few minutes. In fact, a few minutes without air is way beyond attention-getting! At that point, you really don't need it anymore!  Food deprivation is unpleasant, but not deadly until you've been without for five to seven weeks. Water deprivation will kill you faster, usually in about five days. Today, let's talk about water
 
First off, when you really need hydration, a diet soda won't do it; nothing will taste sweeter than that first sip of water. In fact, this makes plenty of sense if you understand that 70% of the human body is comprised of water: 75% of our muscles, 85% of our brain cells, and 82% of our blood, and 25% of our bones are made of water. Not vitamin water, by the way; just plain water!
 
The funny thing is that many people who think they take in a lot of water are actually drinking a chemical cocktail:  water "enhanced" with so many additives that the perfectly healthy serving of water is morphed into something less healthy, and often  quite unhealthy. I guess the thought is that if we have to pay for it, the chemicals must make it better than the free stuff.  Why do we feel the need to supercharge water by adding chemicals? How is that better than the pure, unadulterated water that has sustained life the since the beginning of time? We think we can improve upon something that potent?  Does our arrogance know no end?
 
Water is probably the most important nutrient we can provide for our body, yet the majority of people admit to rarely drinking it because they don't like it.  These people, and many others who drink plenty of everything but water--and also consume a high sodium diet--live in a  state of dehydration.  Most people get used to the symptoms of this state of being and think it's normal.  Yes, some of you think that headaches, joint pain, heartburn, depression, fatigue, sleeplessness, weight gain, hunger, blurred vision, dry skin, brain fogginess, skin irritations, and constipation are normal. In addition, a lot goes on inside our bodies that we are not even aware of until something goes awry; therefore, we don't worry about irregularities in body temperature, the body's inability to transport nutrients and oxygen to our cells, and its difficulties protecting our organs and tissues!
 
I would like to focus my discussion of water today by breaking down what is in the water we buy and how it differs from the free stuff. Just as a side note:  I have decided that when they start selling us "bottled air" I am going to be the first to buy stock. Yep, my hat is off to the marketing genius who convinced us to pay for something that flows freely from the earth! Therefore, I'm going to be the first to back the entrepreneur who tells me he can sell bottled air. If history repeats itself, I'll be a rich woman living in the mountains where both water and air are pure and free again. This product prototype doesn't even sound crazy, does it?  After all, go back, say, 15 or 20 years when people laughed at the yuppies who first embraced the bottled water phenomenon. I'm sure we will probably laugh harder at the people who start buying air...until we join them!
 
Moving on, I will tell you that bottled water is less regulated than tap water, not that I think tap water is so great for you.  Since bottled water is actually considered a food, it falls under the jurisdiction of the FDA; tap water is regulated by the EPA.  The only requirement of bottled water is that it be as safe as tap water; therefore, the EPA requires cities to test public drinking water daily. Yet the FDA requires bottled water to be tested yearly. The EPA forbids the presence of bacteria: bacteria could indicate the presence of fecal material in the water (nice); the FDA has no rule regarding the presence of bacteria in bottled water.  In fact, a study of one hundred different brands of bottled water showed that one third contained arsenic, trihalomethanes (a refrigerant), bacteria, or other contaminants; one fifth contained man-made chemicals; and one contained phthalate (an acid added to plastics that makes them more flexible, durable and transparent) at twice the level acceptable in tap water (how does this get into tap water, I wonder?).  Two brands of bottled water had high levels of fluoride, and two others had coliform bacteria (excel is part of the coliform bacteria family). It is also interesting to note that the FDA allows bottled water to contain up to five parts per billion of lead! What to do?
 
 Well, first of all, if you are still drinking bottled water, choose a bottler that is a member of the International Bottled Water Association (IBWA).  They guarantee that the level of contaminants, if any, is below FDA standards.  You can go to www.bottledwater.org to see which providers are members. And you can also go to www.AquaMaestro.com, www.mineralwaters.org, and www.tldp.com/issue/190/Bottled%20Water.htm, for sites that compare many different types of bottled water.  Another thing you can do is switch to glass bottles or bio-based plastics that are made from natural products.  One company, Biota™, introduced a bioplastic bottle in 2005 that might be a good option. 
 
I have moved to filtering my water, of late. Let me tell you a bit about filtering and what I prefer. If it is at all possible, filtering is, I believe, your best bet.  There are many methods out there and there are many things to consider. You can use a filtration pitcher which is the easiest and least expensive method, or you can go the faucet- and shower-mounted carbon filter route. There is also the reverse-osmosis under-the-counter system of distillation, and the superior full-home filtration system that filters every drop of water that enters your house.  Granted, this system is the best and the most expensive initially, but in the long run, it will bring you a lifetime of filtered, clean, fresh water from your tap all year long.  I am currently using a wonderful water cooler system from Niken (if you would like further information on the Niken water filtration system you can call Elise at Niken, 203 767 2982). 

Here is a brief description of a few filtration options:
Carbon Filters- generally mount to your faucets and do an adequate job. They are inexpensive and remove most chlorine and 90% of the lead from your tap water, but many toxins, like fluoride, viruses, pharmaceuticals, are not filtered out.  And...if you don't change the filters as often as recommended, you are actually creating a more hazardous water, and you will begin drinking bacteria from all that has been collected in the carbon filter.  So, they are fine as long as you change the filter often.
 
Water Distillers- remove everything from your water, but they do this so well that they also remove the good minerals.  It is suggested that mineral free water is worse for your body than water containing dissolved minerals.  So, again, not a bad way to go, and still very cost effective, but it would be better to allow some healthy minerals to remain in your water.
 
Reverse Osmosis - these are the most efficient water filtering systems for your money.  They filter water through a fine membrane, and like distillers, they remove virtually everything from water.  The acidic water they produce is similar to distilled water: it is 95 percent mineral free, acidic, and therefore aggressive, meaning it pulls minerals from anything with which it comes into contact. 
 
Alkalizers - water distillers and reverse osmosis systems remove the minerals, so you might want to replenish the minerals to bring your body into balance.  Since your body does best with alkaline water, an alkalizing filter is the best all-around filtration system.  A water alkalizer uses an electromagnetic process to separate acidic and alkaline water. Bear in mind that the water you put into it must be rich in minerals and not distilled or reverse-osmosis water.  Some of the alkalizer filters make the water richer, and more energetic. 
 
 
Generally speaking, all of these filters do the trick; you just need to see what works for you as far as convenience, budget and ease of use. And don't forget to drink water all day long! Not only will it make you healthier, thinner, more energetic, and cleaner inside and out, it tastes good, too! If you don't believe me yet, then I suggest you invest in a good filtration system. You will taste--in a very short time--just how sweet unadulterated water can be. Water. Just drink it!
 


My Favorite Things to Eat!
 

Tuscan White-Bean Soup
 serves 6

This is the  type of meal that will make you feel all warm inside. It epitomizes the idea of comfort food, but it's good for you, and you can eat it without any guilt whatsoever!


 
What you need:

1 pound white navy beans (you can used canned, just drain and rinse well)
4 tbsp. olive oil
3 leeks (about 1 pound), both green and white parts, chopped fine; or 3 cups chopped onions.
5 celery stalks, chopped
3 garlic cloves, minced
1  1/2 cups minced carrots (about 3 carrots)
1 small fennel bulb, cored, trimmed, and minced
5 cups water, Roasted Vegetable Stock, (make your own or go to Trader Joe's and buy their low sodium vegetable stock)
1  1/2 tsp. chopped fresh rosemary, or 1 teaspoon ground fennel seed (optional)
1 tsp. salt to taste
Fresh-ground black pepper to taste
2 tbsp. lemon juice (from about 1/2 lemon)
1/3  cup grated Parmesan or Asiago cheese (go easy with this part, but a little won't do you any harm and tastes great)


                                                 Tuscan White -Bean Soup                          
  
What to do:

1.  Soak the beans overnight in at least 3 quarts of water, or use canned white beans and drain and rinse well (that's what I do).  If you are soaking them, drain and rinse  well. 
2.  In a heavy stockpot, heat 2 tbsp. of the olive oil over medium heat.  Add the leeks or onions, and cook for 5 minutes, stirring frequently.  Add the celery, garlic, carrots, and or stock, the rinsed navy beans, the herbs, and the salt and pepper.  Bring the soup to a boil, then reduce the heat and let simmer over low heat, covered, for an hour. 
3.  Ladle 4 cups of the soup into a blender or food processor.  Puree this portion, then pour it back into the pot.  Correct the seasonings, adding the lemon juice and perhaps more pepper.  Ladle the soup into bowls and drizzle with the remaining olive oil . Sprinkle with the cheese and serve at once. 

Bon Appetit!
                                                          


 
Where to go and what to do to GET STARTED!

If you can say Yes! I am ready to get started!  this is the link to the blog page that will explain how to go about doing it. You don't have to read it all in one sitting! Please take your time, absorb my words, and when you fully understand where I intend to take you, read on.  The journey we will take together might be a long one, but it promises to be unforgettable. The first step is committing to yourself. From there, you will begin the work of finally identifying why you are where you are, and how you got there. The moment you can honestly own your personal truth, you will have reached your goal. The rest is simply a matter of time.  Enjoy the ride!  
 Berta by mantle  
Berta is a respected weight loss counselor who has educated and empowered hundreds of women JUST LIKE YOU to lose the excess weight that prevents them from living their dream and becoming the woman they were meant to be.

 

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