JustLoseItwithBerta
Volume 1
Issue 31
08-05 - 2010

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Welcome back!  Hope everyone had a wonderful week!  As usual, I have had plenty to contemplate since last week's e-zine.  Once again, I would like to send a huge thank you to all of my loyal readers. Your support and interest in my e-zine means the world to me!

 

I want to remind all the folks who are feeling great or are just holding on that the year's hardest two weeks for weight loss are rapidly approaching. Which two weeks are those, you might wonder?  Unfortunately, during the last two weeks of August, I see an unusually large number of clients put on an unprecedented number of pounds. If you are not aware of the danger these two weeks pose for your weight loss program, you might fall into the same downward spiral that you have experienced in previous years.  It's really just a huge head game!


Holding on over the summer proves more difficult than anticipated because in late spring we convince ourselves that the heat and humidity of July and August will naturally curb our appetite. We imagine enjoying refreshing, seasonal fruits and vegetables in crispy, chilled salads; however, when the summer actually arrives, the parties begin, and little by little, our resolve goes to seed.

 

If weakened willpower weren't enough, there is the double whammy of just what that great tan and all that elastic has been obscuring! Yep, that tan might make us feel healthier and thinner, and those gym shorts might fool us into thinking all is well, but that is where the problem begins.  With a false sense of wellness and balance, you're tempted to ignore the few pounds you've added. The idea of taking them off gets tossed out of your head the second you remember the picnic you've planned for the weekend.  You begin to rationalize, like the rest of us, that the summer is almost over and you've been holding on admirably, so what's the big deal if you let go...just a little bit?  What you don't realize is that you have been letting go...just a little bit, and that's why you have been going up... just a little bit! Your mind is really trying to sabotage you by telling you how deserving you are!  That is why I am here to remind you not to play this game!  Hold on! Do not let go! You can enjoy yourself, but remember that what you really deserve is to look and feel exactly as you would like, and it is possible to do so with just a little bit of mindfulness.

 

I actually hope you can't relate to this week's Tea Time, even though I know most of you will.  In it I focus on a word that has governed so much of how I have felt about myself.  I know from unfortunate experience that many women have been similarly affected by this word that we have used to define and minimize ourselves. It's time we started listening to our words, recognizing how they adversely affect our ability to get and stay on track.  Read on to the "Did You Know?" section where I break down the ways many common vitamins help us maintain good health.  I explain the basics and tell you which whole foods supply them naturally. Finally, you won't believe how delicious my favorite food is until you try it!  It's a fantastic, low fat, low calorie Eggplant Parmesan! Can you have your Eggplant Parm and eat it, too?  You bet you can!


Tea Time with Berta:
                               Berta cup of tea photo


"Just"  Another Four-Letter Word

 

There are many words that I love and have written about, words that move me and imbue me with a feeling or attitude of empowerment; then again, there are many other words that do the opposite.  One of them, and perhaps the most offensive, is a seemingly benign word that I have used countless times throughout my life, always aware on some level that it sent a message that I did not wish to send. When it became difficult to even utter the word, I turned my attention to what I was actually saying about myself when I was able to force from my lips.

 

What I am speaking about is the way, without realizing it, so many of us minimize ourselves by offering an excuse for our existence with a pejorative four-letter word: just. Before I was aware of the detrimental way in which I thought of myself, I had a bad habit of apologizing for taking up space better occupied by those who had much more important work to do in life, those who had a purpose here on Earth, who contributed in a way that I did not.  I wasn't conscious of this behavior; I just didn't want to get in the way or detract from those I perceived to be my betters.

 

Years ago, it was common for me to experience extreme discomfort when introduced to someone new. "My name is Berta," would invariably be followed by queries about my "real" name. Most people would sumise that it was Roberta. Obliged to explain why I was not, in fact, a Roberta, I would invariably reply, "No, it's just Berta." I would then explain that Berta is a Spanish name that sounded much prettier if said with a rolled "r," and I would promptly demonstrate. Oohs and aahs would follow, and there would be a general consensus that the accented version sounded much nicer and was far more acceptable that the Americanized Berta.  In any event, I was "just" Berta for so many years that it's a wonder people didn't begin calling me Just Berta. On occasion, I would avoid the whole thing by allowing people to think that my real name was Roberta; it seemed easier than going through the whole embarrassing dialogue, yet again.  I wasn't totally aware of the message I was sending, and I certainly was blind to the fact that other people really didn't much care about what I was called or how it was pronounced in another country; yet for some reason, I continued to  justify my name and acknowledge that I was Just Berta.

 

Years later, when I was newly married, the "just" qualifier crept into my life in another form. The first still existed, and I was, by now, thoroughly accustomed to the introduction ritual; therefore, it took awhile before I noticed that I had begun compounding the ways in which I denigrated myself with that ubiquitous four-letter-word.  My new husband was a Madison Avenue executive and comfortable in the cutthroat world of advertising. The competition and the social climbing were all new to me, and only slightly interesting, since I, of course, had nothing to do with the industry.  One evening I found myself at my first "business party." For the record, had they called it what it really was, I would have stayed home--at least in those days I would have!  But, naive Just Me thought it would be fun to dress up and go out and rub some important elbows. Who knew? 

 

Well, in no time I could see that something was amiss. My husband quickly scurried away from me to do what everyone there had come to do: find the important people and get noticed by them.  Not realizing the rules of engagement, I naively walked up to a few people and introduced myself. After the Just Berta ritual passed, the little nemesis popped up on quite another level.

 

"What do you do, Just Berta?" asked the first Important Man. 

 

"Oh, well, I do many different things," I proudly announced, rattling off a few of my Most Impressive Achievements up to that point. I was soon aware that I was looking at eyes that were not so discreetly scanning the room looking for a More Impressive Person with whom to be seen. 

 

"So you're not in the business," intoned the poor listener who was an Important Man.

"Oh, no. I'm just Domingo's wife." And there it was, my new designation.  And there He went, off to find a Person of Finer Quality.

 

Years passed and the children came, so we made the decision that I would stay home and raise them. I felt proud to do so, until my newest appellation gave me pause. "What have I done?" I used to wonder. How many of these names would I accumulate in the span of one lifetime? And would the next label be worse than this latest one?"  Clearly, I was having a hard time understanding who I was and owning that person regardless of what anyone else thought-if anyone else actually thought anything about me! It took time for me to understand that I was pinning the labels on myself and blaming "them" for dismissing me. Just Me participated in self-abuse and self-loathing because I didn't allow myself to take pride in my accomplishments. And why should I? After all, society didn't always support my decisions, and other women had a real problem with me. Worst of all, I didn't support my own decisions and announced the fact to the world every time I called myself a "Just."

 

The ultimate "Just," the name that has brought some measure of shame to all who have so labeled themselves, with society's blessing, I might add, is the next one, the one we mumble when asked for a justification for our existence. How many times have you dreaded admitting that you're Just a Stay-at-Home Mom?  Just! I knew the first time I uttered the shameful name that I was being judged, and not favorably, for making the decision to raise my own children. Let me be clear: I do not believe my choice is the one for everyone, and I am not in the habit of passing judgment on anyone, ever. My purpose in addressing this issue is to point out that answering to this name is enough to make even the most grounded amongst us dive into a bag of potato chips! Why? Because we know we are more than a name, but we constantly feel the need to justify our decision to stay out of the work force and instead raise our kids and care for our home.  The thing we don't always realize is that our choice neither diminishes nor defines us.

 

The truth is that it we have chosen a particular path for a period of time, and it is deeply troubling to me when year after year, woman after woman walks through my door and discredits her contribution to the world admitting, with not a little embarrassment, that she is Just a Stay-at-Home Mom.  It angers me that for more than a decade I have been listening to these women-and many men-recite the lists all the important things they accomplished on any particular day, as if rehearsing against the moment they will be asked to account for themselves. And to be honest, they usually are asked, aren't they? You know, the "So, Honey, what did you do today?"  And away we go with our litany of all the important things we did to justify our existence, to prove that we deserve a place amongst all the really productive humans in the world. When we've wrapped up the recitation, we wait with bated breath, hoping he or she will marvel at our feats saying, "Honey, you're amazing. I don't know how you manage to fit it all in and take care of yourself, as well!" 

 

Ah, but we all know that we rarely take care of ourselves the way we should. After all, nobody with "Just" for a first name deserves to be taken care of, does she?  Really?

 

As you can imagine, my advice to you is to drop the "Just!" You can do it! Here, listen to me: "My name is Berta." 

"Is that short for Roberta?" 

"No, it is not."


"My name is Berta. I am a divorced stay-at-home Mom, and it is my privilege and blessing to have been able to raise my children. I now counsel other woman and men about nutrition, weight loss, spirituality, yoga, and the healing art of Reiki.  I am many things, but the one thing that I am not, and pledge never to be again, is a "Just." Care to join me?  Just take the pledge!


 


Did you know... 

That approximately:

44% of us are deficient in vitamin A

28% of all women are deficient in vitamin B6! 

31% of us are also deficient in vitamin C!

20% of adults and 95% of adults over the age of 50 are deficient in vitamin D

93% of us are deficient vitamin E

73% of us are deficient in vitamin K 

 

The point is that we are a nation of overweight, malnourished people who eat to excess, daily.  Hard to accept, but nevertheless true.  Is it because the quality of our food is so far below par? Or, is it because we don't eat enough fruits and vegetables?  Perhaps it's because we don't understand the importance of these vitamins, and are not diligent in ensuring that we get enough of each of them on a daily basis? The question remains: since everything we eat seems to be fortified with every vitamin and mineral known to man, how can we possibly be deficient in any of them?  Well, we are, and I hope the little bit of knowledge I'm about to share will go a long way.  I think that once you understand why you need these vitamins and what happens if you become deficient in them, then you might be more apt to seek out vitamin rich foods.  To this end, I'm giving you the skinny on some of the vitamins that are vital to your health.

 

 

 

 Vitamin A

Vitamin A protects us against cancer, heart disease, night blindness and other eye problems. It helps the skin heal itself and aids in the formation of bones and teeth.  Vitamin A, also known as retinol, helps build the immune system, enabling it to fight off a slue of diseases, including colds, flu, and infections of the kidneys, lungs and bladder. 

 

Beta-Carotene, found in fruits and vegetables, is converted to vitamin A upon consumption.  If you become deficient in vitamin A, you might experience dry hair and skin, dry eyes, poor growth, skin disorders, sinus issues, colds, fatigue, insomnia, and respiratory infections. Too much of a good thing is not good, however, and too much vitamin A could change your complexion to a nice shade of orange and damage your liver in the process. 

 

If you are interested in longevity, you might be intrigued to learn that many people who have lived over 100 years have been known to consume lots of foods high in vitamin A.  Want vitamin A? Try cod liver oil, carrots-boiled or raw, cantaloupe, spinach, mangoes and peaches!

 

Vitamin B6 

Vitamin B6 helps the body metabolize proteins and red blood cells.  The nervous and immune systems need it to function, as well.  B6 helps keep blood sugar levels normal and helps deliver oxygen to the tissues.   You can find vitamin B6 in fortified cereals, fish, poultry, and red meat.  Symptoms of deficiency include skin irritations, headaches, depression, confusion, convulsions, anemia, and PMS.  Also, a vitamin B6 deficiency can lead to high levels of homocysteine in the blood, causing plaque to build in your arteries, thereby increasing your risk for cardiovascular disease and Alzheimer's disease!

 

However, too much of a good thing can be a very bad thing.  Overdosing is usually associated with taking too many supplements; symptoms of an excess of B6 are neuropathy in the arms and legs.  So, like most things, stick to the whole foods, and you can't go wrong.  Foods rich in B6 include potatoes, bananas, chicken, garlic, Brussels sprouts, collard greens, sunflower seeds, red bell peppers, broccoli, watermelon, tomato juice, and avocado, to name a few.

 

Vitamin C

Such a popular vitamin, but what does it really do for us?  Vitamin C helps with the formation of collagen, a protein that gives structure to bones, cartilage, muscle and blood vessels.  Vitamin C helps heal wounds and can reduce the risk of cataracts and retinal damage.  Vitamin C is thought to reduce the risk of cancer of the cervix, stomach, colon, and lungs.  It can also reduce LDL (bad cholesterol) levels, and it supports healthy blood pressure.  Vitamin C also aids in the absorption and elimination of heavy metal toxicity. 

 

A deficiency of vitamin C could leave you feeling weak and fatigued.  You also might experience swollen gums, nosebleeds, scurvy and a compromised immune system.  Again, ingesting too much can cause kidney stones, so go about this in the safest and healthiest way possible: eat an orange or two!  Foods rich in vitamin C are guava (loaded with it), red bell peppers, papaya, oranges, broccoli, strawberries, and cantaloupe, among many others.

 

Vitamin D

We need vitamin D for proper absorption of calcium and phosphorus.  It is very important for the growth of our bones and teeth.  Also, it can protect against colon and colorectal cancers and autoimmune disease. 

 

What happens if you don't get enough?  Well, osteoporosis and hip fractures can result because if you don't get enough D, because then you will not be able to absorb calcium properly. But again, too much vitamin D might leave you feeling nauseous, constipated, or confused. You might also experience unhealthy weight loss.

 

Where do we get it?  The sun is the best provider: only 10-15 minutes of sunlight daily will do the trick. Leave the sunscreen and the dark glasses at home for these 10-15 minutes. You see, we absorb vitamin D through our skin and eyes, so take some time to just sit outside for a few minutes a day.  There are dietary sources, as well, that supply vitamin D. These include cod liver oil, salmon, and any fortified milk or soy milk. 

 

Vitamin E

Vitamin E is an antioxidant that decreases free radicals and protects the heart, blood vessels, breast tissue, liver, eyes, and testes.  It decreases blood clotting and lowers the risk of heart disease. 

A vitamin E deficiency can cause severe neurological complications, such as loss of muscle coordination, muscle weakness, peripheral neuropathy, and diminished reflexes.  It can also cause infertility, menstrual issues, miscarriages, and a shortened red blood cell life span. You can obtain vitamin E from wheat germ, almonds, and sweet potatoes.  Once again, try to get your daily dose from whole foods, the easiest and least harmful way to do it. 

 

Vitamin K

Last, but not least, is vitamin K, which plays a huge role in blood clotting and an important role in preventing arterial calcification.  Arterial calcification occurs when the calcium leached from the bones and teeth is deposited in the arterial walls and heart valves. These deposits begin to look like bone, an obviously dangerous development!  

 

A deficiency in vitamin K might cause excessive bleeding and bruising and could increase the risk of osteoporosis.  Where do you get it?  Brussels sprouts, broccoli, cauliflower, Swiss chard, spinach, and many other dark, leafy vegetables. 

 

 

Information for this article from:  Eat This and Live by Don Colbert


 

 
 
My favorite things to eat!


     Eggplant Parmesan!!!! 
Serves 8

 

Is it possible that I would give you a recipe for eggplant parmesan?  Yes! You can dine on this delicious low-fat meal without the guilt! Just practice moderation and enjoy!

What you need:

2 large eggplant Eggplant
4 egg whites, lightly beaten
¼ tsp. salt
2 cups breadcrumbs
1/3 cup grated Parmesan cheese
1 whole bulb of garlic, intact, plus 1 large garlic clove, minced
2 tsp. dried basil
2 tsp. olive oil
3½ cups tomato sauce (secret zesty tomato sauce recipe below) or use canned.
1 (14 ounce) can white beans, drained
2 cups low-fat mozzarella  

What to do:
 
Preheat oven to 350 degrees
Cut eggplant into ½ inch rounds and set aside.
In a flat-bottomed bowl, beat egg whites with salt.  Add clove of minced garlic.
In another bowl, combine breadcrumbs, Parmesan cheese, and basil.
Grease two baking sheets with a very small amount of oil.
Dip eggplant slices in egg whites, then dredge in crumb mixture to coat both sides evenly.  Place them on baking sheets.
Drizzle a small amount of oil over the intact head of garlic and set on one of the baking sheets.
Bake eggplant and garlic until tender and easily pierced with a fork, about 20 minutes each side for eggplant, and 20 to 30 minutes for garlic. 
When cool enough to touch, pop each clove of roasted garlic out of its skin. 
Combine with white beans and mash to make a paste.
Spread about half of the tomato sauce on the bottom of an 8" x 12" baking dish. Layer half of the eggplant slices on top.
Spread garlic and bean mixture evenly on eggplant slices and then top with about 1½ cups of the mozzarella.
Use remaining eggplant slices to make a second layer.  Cover them with remaining sauce and any extra breadcrumb mixture. Sprinkle top with the final ½ cup of mozzarella.

Bake, uncovered, for 25-30 minutes, until cheese is melted and bubbly.

Zesty Tomato Sauce

What you need:

8 pieces sun-dried tomato
2 tsp. olive oil
1 onion, finely chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
¼ tsp. salt
2 tsp. ground fennel
1 tsp. dried oregano
1 tsp. dried basil
10 button mushrooms, sliced
1/3 cup red wine
1 (28 ounce) can diced tomatoes  

What to do:

Rehydrate dried tomatoes by soaking in enough boiling water to cover for 15 minutes. Discard water.
Slice rehydrated tomatoes into thin strips
In a saucepan, warm the oil, add onion, garlic, and salt. Cover, and sauté on medium-low heat for 5-7 minutes.
Add herbs and mushrooms and cook for another 5 minutes. Cover, stirring occasionally.
Pour in wine and bring to a boil.
Add canned tomatoes and rehydrated tomatoes.  Cover and simmer for 20 minutes, stirring occasionally.  Puree with an immersion blender if a smoother sauce is desired.

 

Bon Appetit!

                                                          




 
Where to go and what to do to GET STARTED!

If you can say Yes! I am ready to get started!  this is the link to the blog page that will explain how to go about doing it. You don't have to read it all in one sitting! Please take your time, absorb my words, and when you fully understand where I intend to take you, read on.  The journey we will take together might be a long one, but it promises to be unforgettable. The first step is committing to yourself. From there, you will begin the work of finally identifying why you are where you are, and how you got there. The moment you can honestly own your personal truth, you will have reached your goal. The rest is simply a matter of time.  Enjoy the ride!  
 Berta by mantle  
Berta is a respected weight loss counselor who has educated and empowered hundreds of women JUST LIKE YOU to lose the excess weight that prevents them from living their dream and becoming the woman they were meant to be.

 

Her gift, and the reason her program is SO SUCCESSFUL, is her ability to break down every detail of your weight loss journey so you can be prepared for the challenges and understand the emotional components behind them. 

 

This on-line program has been designed to bring you the same experience of her methods and common sense explanations that Berta uses in her successful private practice, at a fraction

of the cost.  If you liked today's issue, you'll love her blog and the main site as it is being built, which you can find at JustLoseIt.com.


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