Speaking is Sexy
Volume III, No. 20                                                                     September 2012

"You've got to get to the stage in life where going for it is more important than winning or losing."

                                    ~ Arthur Ashe               

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Included In This Issue
What's Marion Up To Now?
Your Unique and Sexy Speaker at your next Event!
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #20, Vol. 3 ~ Finding Ideas For Your Speech
There's Still Time!!!
What Do My Readers Say?
How Can I Help You?
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ My Secret Vice
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

Did you miss a previous Speaking Tip?

You can find them here!
 
If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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What's Marion Up To Now?

   Host/Emcee at the Women's Network of the West L.A. Chamber of Commerce on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at the Olympic Collection in West Los Angeles, featuring Guest Speaker, Capt. Evangelyn Nathan, Commanding Officer of the West L.A. Police Department.  If you're in the vicinity, please come to this exciting networking event, dinner and wine included.  To register, go to www.westlachamber.org and click on Events Calendar.

Time Is Running Out! 
Don't Miss my  Summer Special on Speeches for Special Occasions
      

            Do you need to speak at your son's wedding, your daughter's engagement party, your mother's milestone birthday or your father's retirement party? Not sure what to say or how to say it? Need someone to help you become a unique and sexy speaker for this very special occasion? Let me make it easier for you. We'll work together over the phone, fast but thorough, and you'll have your speech in record time.

            Why struggle all by yourself when you can get it done the easy way? Email me at  [email protected] Subject: I need a speech!, or call 310/659-8956 and tell me what you need. Take advantage of my Special Summer Discount until September 30th.  

             Be smart. Get help. You'll be delighted you did! 

 

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      Have you heard about my upcoming book, SECRETS OF A UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER?  The book is a Handbook of Speaking Tips used by experts that you can keep in your pocket or desk for a bit of quick help to make you look and sound like a sexy professional speaker.

      If you'd like to be on my special Advance List to be the first to have the opportunity to purchase a copy, please send your request to me at:  [email protected]

      This is a book for speakers of all levels, from beginners to experienced. You're sure to find in it helpful Speaking Tips for any type of speech or speaking occasion that will save you time and uncertainty and make creating your next presentation a joy instead of a struggle!
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YOUR UNIQUE AND SEXY SPEAKER AT YOUR NEXT EVENT!

      "Marion Claire brings light into the room as she sets everyone at ease so they are ready to learn.  Our team mostly had no experience in public speaking, and so were shy and stumbling at first, but gained confidence quickly under Marion's effective guidance.  They were left with solid information that they could use as they practiced putting speeches together and then giving them.  And as a seasoned speaker myself, I nonetheless learned a thing or two to make my speaking more effective."

~Pauline Field, Chair, www.5050Leadership.org 


     

      Looking for a speaker for your next event? Want to know what it means to "Be a Unique and Sexy Speaker!"? Let me show you ASAP!  

      You need a speaker who walks her talk. I'll be delighted to speak to your group in your neighborhood. Just let me know what you need. I'll customize a program for you and show your group time-tested techniques that'll make them the speakers they've always wanted to be.

      Send me an email at: [email protected] or call me at 310/659-8956.

      All you need to do is ask!

HAVE YOU DOWNLOADED YOUR FREE REPORT YET?     

 

Go to www.marionclaire.com  and on the Home page, you will find a link to download this valuable speaking tool:

 

5 MAGIC KEYS TO CREATING ANY SPEECH!

 

Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a fabulous speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier!  

 

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   Speaking Is Sexy Tip #20, Vol. 3    

 

   Finding Ideas

    For Your Next Speech   

     

         It's amazing how many times people ask me, "Where do you get the ideas for your Speaking Tips?"

         It rather strikes me as the same as my asking an accountant, "How do you know what to tell your client about his income tax?" Or a doctor, "How do you know what to tell your patient about his illness?" Or an insurance expert, "How do you know what to say about the policies and services you offer?"                                                                 Whatever your profession, you've spent time and effort, not to mention money, to become knowledgeable and experienced. You've spent many hours in specialized classes, reading books, and attending workshops, webinars and seminars, until you've acquired a bank of information that you can draw on as needed to help your clients.

         Armed with that basic learning, you've gone out into the world and found people who need your help to solve the problems and dilemmas they're experiencing. If they're having a tax audit, they need the accountant's expertise to help them through it. If they're sick, they need a doctor to analyze their symptoms and suggest a cure. If they're starting a new business or a new family, they need the financial protection from disaster that will make them sleep easier at night.

         If you're an expert in these areas, you have enough knowledge at your fingertips to help them solve their difficulties. In the process, they'll present you with specific problems that you may not have previously encountered. The problems may be unique to a particular client, or they may be universal to many. In any event, every time you work with someone who comes up with a situation you may not have previously faced, you gain more knowledge, more experience, and more information to add to your arsenal of professional competence.

         So when you're asked to speak about your profession, at a formal convocation or an informal meeting, you'll have at your fingertips the ideas and information you need to talk knowledgeably for 30 minutes or so on a subject that will be of interest to the audience that invited you.

         It's the same for me as a speaker's coach and speechwriter. Whenever I sit down to write a Speaking Tip, I go thru my memory bank and pull out the most interesting problems and dilemmas clients have brought to me to help them solve. Then I take the gist of the solutions we came up with and create from them a universal Speaking Tip.

         For example, if I've been working with a client who has difficulty talking loud enough to be heard, I'll create a Speaking Tip called "Speak to Be Heard" (Speaking Is Sexy Vol. III, #10,), or "Are You Comfortable Hearing You?" (Vol II, #6), or, going in a slightly different direction, "Saying Too Much vs. Saying Too Little" (Vol III, #9). The ideas for these Speaking Tips came from real life situations faced by the people who came to me for help.

         Whenever you're called upon to speak about your business or profession, and you're not sure just where to start or what to say, think about the professional situations in which you were dealing with real people with real difficulties. There's a wealth of ideas there that you can choose from. First, determine what your goal for the speech is, then choose from your real-life experience. It's almost like picking one from Column A and one from Column B on a Chinese menu.

      Try this technique. Keep a "Subjects to Speak About" notebook. Every time you come upon a situation you haven't dealt with before, from which you learned something new that has universal applicability, make a note of it. Next time you need to give a talk, you'll have a number of subjects just waiting for you in your notebook. You'll never have to worry about finding something to talk about again.


DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES who would benefit from seeing this Speaking Is Sexy eZine?  Please forward it to them or send me their email address and I'll send them a copy and tell them it's from you!  www.marionclaire.com 
Want to use this Speaking Is Sexy Tip in your Newsletter or Blog?  
You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  For fourteen years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the unique and sexy speakers they longed to be.  She'll also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com 
 There's Still Time!... In 2012 to become the Unique and Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be!


Give yourself a break! It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence. You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak ever again. Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back! Let me show you how to become the speaker you'd really like to be!

If the thought of giving a speech absolutely paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! You can overcome those debilitating fears. Let me show you a special process that focuses specifically on getting rid of the limiting beliefs that keep you from speaking with confidence and joy. At the same time, acquire tips and techniques that will make you a calm, confident, unique and sexy speaker every time!  

 

Smooth and Polish your present speaking skills! You can easily learn useful techniques that will increase your confidence and make you sound like a pro.

 

Need to give a major speech for an important occasion? Can you use some guidance on writing and delivering it? In a very short time, you can learn how to organize your thoughts, create a winning presentation, and speak from your heart with authority and enthusiasm.

 

Give yourself a gift that will last a lifetime.
Talk to me confidentially about your special speaking needs. I'm always available for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at [email protected]

What Do My Readers Say? 

 

Re: Speaking Tip Vol. III #18,
Do You Really Need To Rehearse? 

Great tip about rehearsing and in it you give lots of sub tips about a great speech.
~ Brendan McMahon, Financial Advisor,  
Merrill Lynch Global Wealth Management 

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I look forward to reading your 'Speaking is Sexy' newsletter, which always has some unique, thoughtful and important information that will help me in both my business and personal life.  You have great insight, wisdom and practical tips to help guide me in my many speaking opportunities and coaching experiences.  Thank you, Marion!

~Mary Berney, MSW, Executive Coach, DISC Trainer  

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Each month I read the tips in Speaking is Sexy and it helps me refresh my skills.  As a lawyer, I need to be able to feel comfortable in giving speeches and the tips in the newsltter have continued to help me.  Thank you Speaking is Sexy! 
                                  ~Sharon Kopman, Attorney at Law

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There is a wonderful mythical law of nature that the three things we crave most in life -- happiness, freedom, and peace of mind -- are always attained by giving them to someone else.

             ~ Peyton Conway March   

            More about Marion Claire

 

My Secret Vice  

 

      If you're anything like me, there are things about yourself that you'd rather keep secret from the world. They don't have to be particularly serious or embarrassing. They may just be silly little vices, holdovers from your childhood that make you feel good but might make others look twice at you with one of those expressions that says, "When are you going to grow up?"

      Remember the movie "Citizen Kane" and his childhood sled that he called 'Rosebud'? I would venture to guess that we all have a secret like Rosebud. We don't talk about it. We don't want others to know about it. It may not even be a thing but rather a belief or a habit or a vain hope that we know will never do us any good, but we keep hanging onto them, anyway.

      My secret vice is a bad habit. I'm a procrastinator.

      If I'm going on a trip, do I start throwing things into the suitcase days ahead and make sure I have enough clean underwear and the proper outfits for every possible occasion? Of course not! I wait til the night before. I'm the one frantically doing the laundry at 2a.m., trying on slacks and shirts to see if they match, snatching extra pairs of shoes out of the closet, lifting my suitcase, finding it's too heavy, and then pulling stuff out again just as frantically as I put it in.

      I publish this newsletter twice a month. Do I write my Speaking Tips in advance? Are you kidding? Seeing the deadline in front of me apparently focuses my attention better than anything else because more often than not I only manage to get the copy ready at the very last minute for it to get out on time.

      I'm a professional speaker. Yet most of the time I'm creating my presentations just a couple of days, sometimes hours, before I have to give them. That's a deep, dark secret. No one is supposed to know that. I'll bet you, though, that I'm not the only professional speaker who's guilty of this bad habit. Of course, I've already done the research. I know who I'm speaking to, how long I'm going to speak and what the focus of my presentation will be. I've talked to whoever invited me to speak and I know all the details I'll need. Still, actually sitting down and creating my speech... boy, do I procrastinate!

         I suppose there's a deep psychological reason why I like to leave everything to the last minute. Maybe someday it'll bother me enough to find out what it is. In the meantime, I confess that there's something about the adrenaline rush of being up against the gun that appeals to my sense of drama. I just seem to get the job done better and faster when I don't have all the time in the world to accomplish it.  That's my secret vice.  Well, one of them, anyway.  

     What's yours?  Want to share it?  I'll keep it confidential.  Contact me at  [email protected].   

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