Speaking is Sexy
Volume III, No. 16                                                                     July 2012

"It's hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed."
                                     ~ Theodore Roosevelt 

"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."
~Albert Einstein 
          
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Included In This Issue
What's Marion Up To Now?
Your Unique and Sexy Speaker at your next Event!
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #16, Vol. 3 ~ It's About Them, Not You
There's Still Time!!!
What Do My Readers Say?
How Can I Help You?
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ Revealing an Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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What's Marion Up To Now?

Featuring my Summer Special on Speeches for Special Occasions      

            Do you need to speak at your son's wedding, your daughter's engagement party, your mother's milestone birthday or your father's retirement party? Not sure what to say or how to say it? Need someone to make your remarks a propos and entertaining, and make you a unique and sexy speaker for this very special occasion? Let me make it easier for you. We'll work together over the phone, fast but thorough, and you'll have your speech in record time.

            Why struggle all by yourself when you can get it done the easy way? Email me at  [email protected] Subject: I need a speech!, or call 310/659-8956 and tell me what you need. Take advantage of my Special Summer Discount between now and September 3rd.  

             Be smart. Get help. You'll be delighted you did! 

 

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      Heading for the end of the tunnel on my book, SECRETS OF A UNIQUE & SEXY SPEAKER.  It's a Handbook of Speaking Tips used by experts that you can keep in your pocket or desk for a bit of quick help to make you look and sound like a sexy professional speaker.

      If you'd like to be on my special Advance List to be the first to have the opportunity to purchase a copy, please send your request to me at:  [email protected]

      This is a book for speakers of all levels, from beginners to experienced. You're sure to find in it helpful Speaking Tips for any type of speech or speaking occasion that will save you time and uncertainty and make creating your next presentation a joy instead of a struggle!
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YOUR UNIQUE AND SEXY SPEAKER AT YOUR NEXT EVENT!

      "Marion Claire brings light into the room as she sets everyone at ease so they are ready to learn.  Our team mostly had no experience in public speaking, and so were shy and stumbling at first, but gained confidence quickly under Marion's effective guidance.  They were left with solid information that they could use as they practiced putting speeches together and then giving them.  And as a seasoned speaker myself, I nonetheless learned a thing or two to make my speaking more effective."

~Pauline Field, Chair, www.5050Leadership.org 


     

      Looking for a speaker for your next event? Want to know what it means to "Be a Unique and Sexy Speaker!"? Let me show you ASAP!  

      You need a speaker who walks her talk. I'll be delighted to speak to your group in your neighborhood. Just let me know what you need. I'll customize a program for you and show your group time-tested techniques that'll make them the speakers they've always wanted to be.

      Send me an email at: [email protected] or call me at 310/659-8956.

      All you need to do is ask!

HAVE YOU DOWNLOADED YOUR FREE REPORT YET?     

 

Go to www.marionclaire.com and on the Home page, you will find a link to download this valuable speaking tool:

 

5 MAGIC KEYS TO CREATING ANY SPEECH!

 

Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a fabulous speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier! 

   Speaking Is Sexy Tip #16, Vol. 3    

 

  It's About Them, Not You          

          

            If you were asked to make a list of all the reasons why people hate to speak in public, what would be on it?

            "I'm afraid I'm going to forget something important."

            "I get so nervous, I can't think."

            "I can't stand to have all those eyes looking at me."conftable

            "I know they're not going to like what I say."

            "I'm not funny enough. People like speakers who make them laugh."

            "I don't like the way I look."

            "I don't know how to write a good speech."

            "I never know what to say."

            "I'm afraid I'll make a fool of myself."

            "They'll see how nervous I am and won't respect me."

            You can probably think of many more, but let's go with these for a start. Take a few minutes and look at them carefully. What do all these statements have in common?

            These are all real complaints that you've heard someone else say or you've said yourself. It matters not whether they're men or women, what business they're in, whether they're facing an annual meeting, company conference, sales presentation, holiday or retirement party or if it's a birthday party, bar/bat mitzvah, wedding, anniversary celebration or funeral. Whatever the occasion, the fear of speaking in public rises up like an angry black bear on a mountain path, causing the potential speaker to freeze in fear and then back away as fast as he can and run like heck in the other direction at the first opportunity.  

            What is so frightening about standing up in front of a group and saying a few words?

            Breaking it down into its simplest elements, giving a speech is simply offering your expertise to a few people who need and want to hear it. You know something they don't, they need to learn it, and you're there to educate them. You're going to gain their attention, tell them what you know, make sure they understand what you said, and ask them to do something as a result. You do this every day when your colleagues ask for information and you supply it, when you tell your kids stories about your family or talk with a voice in India trying to figure out why your cable TV isn't working.

            Your job is to make sure they get it. How do you do that? What are you thinking while you're speaking? Chances are you're focusing totally on the information you're presenting and the audience who's receiving it. Your goal is to make sure whoever is listening understands clearly and correctly what you have to tell them. In other words, your focus is on getting your message across to your audience. You're thinking about them, not about yourself.

            By now you've figured out what all those statements at the top have in common. They all begin with "I", or have "I" in them somewhere. In every one of those statements, the speakers are thinking about themselves, not about the audience.

            Whenconftable we concentrate on giving the audience the gift of our knowledge, we don't have time to think about ourselves. When all our attention is focused on making our message land, when we believe in our subject and are passionate about presenting it, we're thinking about giving the audience a gift that is valuable. We're thinking about them, not about ourselves.  

            That's the simple key to being a unique and sexy speaker when giving any speech. Think about them, not about you.

            Concentrate on making your message land, and you'll never worry again about receiving anything but admiration and respect. Focus on giving to the audience. It's really all about them.


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You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  For fourteen years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the unique and sexy speakers they longed to be.  She'll also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com 
 There's Still Time!... In 2012 to become the Unique and Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?


Give yourself a break! It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence. You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak ever again. Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back! Let me show you how to become the speaker you'd really like to be!

If the thought of giving a speech absolutely paralyzes you, it's time to change your thinking! You can overcome those debilitating fears. Let me show you a special process that focuses specifically on getting rid of the limiting beliefs that keep you from speaking with confidence and joy. At the same time, acquire tips and techniques that will make you a calm, confident, unique and sexy speaker every time!  

 

Smooth and Polish your present speaking skills! You can easily learn useful techniques that will increase your confidence and make you sound like a pro.

 

Need to give a major speech for an important occasion? Can you use some guidance on writing and delivering it? In a very short time, you can learn how to organize your thoughts, create a winning presentation, and speak from your heart with authority and enthusiasm.

 

Give yourself a gift that will last a lifetime.
Talk to me confidentially about your special speaking needs. I'm always available for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at [email protected]

What Do My Readers Say? 

 

I look forward to reading your 'Speaking is Sexy' newsletter, which always has some unique, thoughtful and important information that will help me in both my business and personal life.  You have great insight, wisdom and practical tips to help guide me in my many speaking opportunities and coaching experiences.  Thank you, Marion!
~Mary Berney, MSW, Executive Coach, DISC Trainer  

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Each month I read the tips in Speaking is Sexy and it helps me refresh my skills.  As a lawyer, I need to be able to feel comfortable in giving speeches and the tips in the newsletter have continued to help me.  Thank you Speaking is Sexy!
                                  ~Sharon Kopman, Attorney at Law

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You don't become a millionaire for the million dollars.  You become a millionaire for the person you become in the process.  You have to dig deep to discover who you are.

               ~ Jim Rohn               

More about Marion Claire

 

Revealing an Embarrassing Secret   

 

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect.  

      Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.

 

      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside.

      My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests. If I can do it, so can you! Let me help you. Contact me at   [email protected].   

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