Speaking is Sexy
Volume III, No. 5                                                                      February 2012

"Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th."
                                    ~ Julie Andrews              

"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who kept on trying when there seemed to be no help at all."
~ Dale Carnegie               
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Included In This Issue
What's Marion Up To Now?
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #5, Vol. 3, Think Like A Racehorse
Is 2012 the year for you?!
What Do My Readers Say?
How Can I Help You?
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ Revealing an Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, unique and sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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What's Marion Up To Now?     

      "I recently had the privilege of coordinating and attending the Los Angeles Jewish Chamber SBA Luncheon with Marion Claire. The experience and knowledge Marion led us through felt like a custom-designed, presentation skills training process. Having participated in a wide variety of workshops and seminars, I can be pretty discerning. Marion's skills and warmth are authentic and I highly recommend her."

         ~ Paul Goldstein, Vice President, Los  

Angeles Jewish Chamber of Commerce

 

      Are you looking for a speaker for your next meeting or get together? Would you like to know the "Secrets of a Unique and Sexy Speaker"?   

 

      Please get in touch with me if you have an event coming up and you need a speaker who walks her talk. I'd be delighted to share my secrets with your group in your neighborhood one of these days. Just send me an email: Marion@marionclaire.com.  I'm looking forward to talking to you about it!

HAVE YOU DOWNLOADED YOUR FREE REPORT YET?     

 

Go to www.marionclaire.com and on the Home page, you will find a link to download this valuable speaking tool:

 

5 MAGIC KEYS TO CREATING ANY SPEECH!

 

Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a fabulous speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier! 

   Speaking Is Sexy Tip #5, Vol. 3    

 

Think Like A Racehorse       

    

      Are you the type of speaker who would love to get up in front of a group and dazzle them with your knowledge and expertise? You have just the right stories to illustrate your topic, you've watched other speakers, good and bad, to see how they attract and hold an audience. You've studied their mannerisms, their wardrobe, their power point technique. You've noted which ones seem to be so comfortable in front of the audience and which ones seem to be white knuckling it through their presentations. No contest which one you want to be.

 

      Yet, when it comes time for you to think about giving a talk in front of 10 or more people, suddenly all that study, research and preparation flies out the window and you find yourself feeling weak as a jellyfish. Your breathing suddenly becomes panicky and erratic, your legs feel wobbly, your brain just won't seem to focus, and you contemplate the choice between fight or flight. No contest which one you'd like that to be, either.

 

      Many speakers feel perfectly comfortable thinking about their presentation. They've created clear and concise power point slides, they've written and rehearsed a killer speech, and they're convinced they're ready to wow the crowd. But then, at the very last minute, say an hour or less before they actually have to deliver the goods, a wave of insecurity suddenly washes over them very much akin to a pot of limp noodles. Their legs turn to rubber, their eyesight gets fuzzy, their hearts start to pound as they break out in a sweat, and they know, they absolutely know they can't go through with it. They're going to collapse mid-speech into a puddle of failure.

      These feelings of abnormal physical weakness before giving a speech are astonishingly common. Even experienced speakers get the heebie-jeebies before a speech now and then. There are any number of reasons why irrational fears plague us at the most inconvenient moments. The question is what can we do about them now, this minute, when we have to be brilliant in front of our audience? Here's one suggestion.

 

      Take several deep breaths. Now, think like a racehorse!

 

      Imagine a sleek, strong, powerful, running machine, at the gate, chomping at the bit, ready to get out there and dominate the pack! All that power and energy is totally focused on one thing, getting out there and out-running all the other horses to be the first one at the finish line. Does the racehorse think about how nervous he is? Probably not. He knows what he's there to do, he's trained and ready to do it, and he's totally focused on winning.

           

      You know what you're there to do, you're trained and ready, all you need to do now is focus on winning!

       

      Inside you is the power, the energy and the stamina of a racehorse. You have planned your presentation, rehearsed it, and you're ready to drive through to the end and come out on top!

      When that irrational fear appears, take a deep breath and think of all that power pounding down the track to the finish line. That's you, leading the pack.  

      You are the racehorse. You'll have all the confidence you need when you harness your powerful energy and let your passion run!


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You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  For fourteen years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the confident, sexy speakers they longed to be.  She'll also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com 

Is 2012 the year you'll become the
Unique and Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?



  

It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidenceYou don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak ever again. Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back! Give yourself a break! Let me help you become the speaker you'd really like to be!

 

Do you need a quick polish on your present speaking skills? Let me show you some useful techniques that will give you more confidence and help you speak like a pro.

 

Are you planning a major speech for an important occasion and want guidance on writing and delivering it? In a very short time, you can learn how to organize your thoughts, create a winning presentation, and speak from your heart with authority and enthusiasm.

 

Do you have any debilitating fears that paralyze you at the thought of giving a speech? I can help you overcome them using a special process that focuses specifically on getting rid of the limiting beliefs that keep you from speaking with confidence and joy. Quickly eliminate any fears that have been holding you back. At the same time, acquire tips and techniques to enable you to be calm, confident, unique and sexy every time you speak!

 

      Give yourself a gift that will last a lifetime. Talk to me confidentially about your special speaking needs. I'm always available for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at Marion@marionclaire.com

What Do My Readers Say? 

 

I look forward to reading your 'Speaking is Sexy' newsletter, which always has some unique, thoughtful and important information that will help me in both my business and personal life.  You have great insight, wisdom and practical tips to help guide me in my many speaking opportunities and coaching experiences.  Thank you, Marion!

 

         ~Mary Berney, MSW, Executive Coach/DISC Trainer

 

 

"Each month I read the tips in Speaking is Sexy and it helps me refresh my skills. As a lawyer, I need to be able to feel comfortable in giving speeches and the tips in the newsletter have continued to help me. Thank you Speaking is Sexy!"  

 

~Sharon Kopman, Attorney at Law  

 

HOW CAN I HELP YOU? LET ME KNOW!

 

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conftableFood for Thought

 

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.  

                 ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.  

More about Marion Claire

 

Revealing an Embarrassing Secret   

 

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect.  

      Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.

 

      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside.

      My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests. If I can do it, so can you! Let me help you. Contact me at   Marion@marionclaire.com.   

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