Speaking is Sexy
Volume II, No. 26                                                                        November 2011

"When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and the time that the tide will turn."
                                            ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe          
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What's Marion Up To Now?
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #26, Vol. 2, The Easiest Way to Write a Speech
Is it time for you to be the Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?
What Do My Readers Say About...?
More about Marion Claire ~ Revealing an Embarrassing Secret
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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What's Marion Up To Now?     

      Back from New York and their freaky October snowstorm! For this California girl, it was quite an adventure! Except for the downed tree branches and power lines, everything covered in white looked just like an early Christmas card!

      Now I'm preparing to speak on Becoming a Unique and Sexy Speaker at Pauline Field's Leadership Circle on November 20th.

      Moving forward on my book, "PUBLIC SPEAKING IS SEXY: 131 Vital, Quick & Useful Tips on Facing the Audience, Overcoming Fear, Writing Your Speech and Becoming a Unique & Sexy Speaker" day by day.  If you'd like to know more about it, just email me at   marion@marionclaire.com and I'll be happy to answer your questions.

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5 MAGIC KEYS TO CREATING ANY SPEECH!

 

Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a fabulous speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier! 

   Speaking Is Sexy Tip #26, Vol. 2 

 

The Easiest Way to Write a Speech  

     

       Writing a speech is not the same as climbing Mount Everest. For some people, the mountain is a cinch. It's creating the speech that's hard. Ask ten people how they feel about coming up with a speech for any occasion from a business meeting to a bar mitzvah, and more than half of them will scrunch up their noses as if a particularly sour odor just wafted by. We can safely say that on the Top Ten List of things most people like to do, writing a speech is nowhere in sight.conftable

      Inevitably, however, at some time in our life we'll have to say something wonderful to a group of people we'd like to impress. There's just no getting out of it. But for many of us, when we have to face the blank white screen on the computer or the empty lines on a yellow pad, we bite our fingernails, shake our heads, drink our 43rd cup of coffee and wonder, "How the heck am I ever going to do this?"

      What are we so worried about?

      Often it's simply, "I don't know what to say first. I don't know how to organize my thoughts. I don't know what to put in and what to leave out."

      For others it's, "Why should they be interested in what I have to say? They probably know as much as I do about this subject. What if they don't agree with me?"

      For some others it's, "They'll laugh at me. They'll think I'm ridiculous. They'll see I'm a fraud. I'm just not good enough."

      Not to worry. However you feel about the physical act of writing your speech, it doesn't have to be the Chinese water torture you think it's going to be. Before you start, ask yourself these few simple questions and write down your answers. Voila! Your speech is practically done!

 

      1. What's In It For Them? Put yourself in your audience's shoes. What will they be receiving from you? What will make them say, "Yes, this is what I came to learn. I'm so glad I was here to receive this gift."

      2. Based on what's in it for them, what is your gift? What's the one key idea or premise that they need to take home with them? Can you divide it up into three basic statements of proof and give evidence of how each contributes to your key idea?

      3. What do you feel absolutely confident about telling your audience? Do you need to do some research? Do you have all the visual aids you need or do you need to create new ones?

      4. How many total minutes will you be speaking? How many minutes do you have for each section of your talk? Using 30 minutes as an average guide, it might break down this way:               

      a. Opening Introduction (Break the Ice) (1-3 

      minutes)                                                                

      b. Key Thought or Premise plus Supporting  

      Statements   (12-15 minutes total)

            Supporting Statement One: evidence, visual aids

            Supporting Statement Two: evidence, visual aids

            Supporting Statement Three: evidence, visual aids

      c. Recap & Repeat of Key Thought (2-4 minutes)

            Brief repeat of your Three Supporting  

            Statements  

      d. Call to Action: (3-5 minutes)

            What follow up action do you wish the audience                to take? 

      e. Q&A (optional, if there's any time remaining)

      5. Inspirational/Motivational Moment: The last thing you say laptopladywill be the easiest for the audience to remember. What do you want them to remember you for? Leave them with a moving or motivational thought or memory in the last moment of your talk.

             

      Voila! There's your speech. All you have to do now is polish the language, fill in the gaps, come up with your visual aids, and rehearse!

      Easy, wasn't it?       


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Is it time for you to be the
Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?



It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence.  You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak ever again.  Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back!  Give yourself a break!  Let me help you become the speaker you'd really like to be!

Take advantage of my "SPEAK TO WIN" PRIVATE COACHING PROGRAM, a series of three sessions for the price of two.  Quickly eliminate fears that have been holding you back and acquire tips and techniques to enable you to be calm, confident and sexy every time you speak! 

Do you have a Desire to InspireGive yourself a gift that will last a lifetime.  Let me show you how to check your fears at the door and look and feel like a superhero whenever you get up to speak! 

Talk to me confidentially about your special speaking needs and get more information about the SPEAK TO WIN Program at the same time.
  I'm always available for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at Marion@marionclaire.com

What Do My Readers Say About...?  

 

Speaking Is Sexy Tip #24, Vol. 2- What Makes A Good Speech Great?

Great tip, Marion!! Thanks.
                  Brendan McMahan, Financial Advisor, Merrill Lynch                     Global Wealth Managment
This is definitely a very good one.
                  Terry Tyor, Educator

Speaking Is Sexy Tip #24, Vol. 2- How Much Should You Ask of Yourself?

I love the Twain and Kettering quotes, and your shared secret.  How brave to put that in print!
                 Elisabeth O. Clark, Psychotherapist

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Food for Thought 

 

conftableThe spirit, the will to win, and the will to excel are the things that endure.  These qualities are so much more important than the events that occur.
~Vince Lombardi

More about Marion Claire

 

Revealing an Embarrassing Secret   

 

      We all have an embarrassing secret that we don't want to reveal because we're afraid people will think less of us if we do so. For many, many years I hid mine. I was sure that people would look at me strangely or not want to be around me if they knew I was less than perfect.  

      Boy, was I wrong!

      The thing about hiding the truth about yourself is that you are depriving yourself and the folks you come in contact with of the opportunity to have an honest relationship with you. True, you don't want to just blurt out your deepest feelings or most painful memories at inappropriate moments. You want to be sure your revelations will be received with kindness, consideration and sympathy, and not with distaste, anger or ridicule.

      But it is far better to be open about the things you cannot change that have shaped who you are. Facing the secrets of the past helps you understand yourself and it helps others understand you. And with understanding come the gifts of appreciation, sympathy, empathy, and love.

 

      So here's the embarrassing secret I used to be afraid to reveal.

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces. Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside.

      My enemy was not the great outdoors. It was simply fear.

      Everyone experiences fear on occasion. And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual. Mine was fear of being alone out in the world. I didn't feel safe by myself. Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home. No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers!

      I'm so proud to say that I overcame my fear. It took, first of all, the courage to admit there was something wrong. Then came the desire to fix it and to seek out the help I needed to overcome it.

      And wow! Look at me now!

      Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests. If I can do it, so can you! Let me help you. Contact me at   Marion@marionclaire.com.   

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