Speaking is Sexy
Volume II, No. 21                                                                            August 2011

"You can close more business in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you."
                                           ~ Dale Carnegie            
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What's Marion Up To Now?
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #20, Vol. 2, What If Public Speaking Is Just Not Your Thing?
Is it time for you to be the Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?
What My Readers Say...
How Can I Help You? Let Me Know!
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ I have a guilty secret...
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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What's Marion Up To Now?     

 

       Hard at work on my book:

"PUBLIC SPEAKING IS SEXY, 131 Vital, Quick & Helpful Tips on Facing the Audience, Overcoming Fear, Writing Your Speech and Becoming a Unique & Sexy Speaker".   

 

Planning to have it available by the year-end holidays as a great stocking-stuffer.

HAVE YOU DOWNLOADED YOUR FREE REPORT YET?     

 

Go to www.marionclaire.com and on the Home page, you will find a link to download this valuable speaking tool:

 

5 MAGIC KEYS TO CREATING ANY SPEECH!

 

Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a fabulous speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier! 

   Speaking Is Sexy Tip #21, Vol. 2 

 

 Too Much Information?  

   

          One of the hardest decisions a speaker has to make when preparing any presentation is, "How much should I say?" Not "How much do I know about the subject?" or "How much do I want to tell them?", but specifically how much can the audience comfortably listen to without descending into a state of irritated overwhelm and falling sleep, or worse, walking out in protest?

           Most audiences will listen politely to almost anything, but when you give them too much of a good thing, even the most interested group will show signs of information fatigue. Have you ever listened to a speaker who gave you so many facts and figures that you figuratively threw up your hands and just stopped listening? Or one that droned on and on about a point that was obviously fascinating to him, but you got it after the first two minutes and were more than ready to move on? Or have you ever wanted to tune out the speaker who seemed to love the sound of his own voice and couldn't stop talking about stuff that was redundant, not relevant or just plain boring?

            My friend, Melissa, recently heard a speaker whose only reason for getting behind the podium was to thank the participants in the 2-hour program she'd just heard. The information she'd learned was valuable and she was glad she'd come. She had lots to take away with her and make a part of her life, and she was quite ready to go home and get started. Unfortunately, the moderator of the program seemed glued to the microphone and wouldn't, or couldn't, stop talking! He thanked everyone he could think of, from the keynote speaker to the hotel staff that set up the chairs. Then he told a few anecdotes about the difficulties he'd encountered in pulling this program together and how helpful his committee, the sponsoring organization, his family and even his mother-in-law had been in making it happen. And just when Melissa thought he was finally wrapping up, he added another five minute monologue on how meaningful the program had been to him and how excited he was to do it again next year. Melissa made a mental note not to come back next year, or if she did, to be sure to slip out before the 'thank you' speech!

            Nothing irritates an audience more than having to sit through too much information that is not really relevant to them. It leaves a bad taste in their mouths. What had been a very enjoyable and meaningful program to Melissa was soured when the moderator hogged the spotlight and made it all about him.

            Whenever you get up to speak, the key thing is WIIFT: What's In It For Them? Whatever you plan to say, will it be important to your listeners? Can you say it smoothly and succinctly? How will your listeners benefit by it? Do they really need to have this information? Will it make a difference in their lives?

            Whenever you speak, remember that it's not about you. It's all about them. Concentrate on feeding the audience what they came to hear, what they need to know. Leave a good taste in their mouths. When you focus on them, they'll remember more of what you say, and they will remember you!


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Is it time for you to be the
Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?



It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence.  You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak ever again.  Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back!  Give yourself a break!  Let me help you become the speaker you'd really like to be!

Take advantage of my "SPEAK TO WIN" PRIVATE COACHING PROGRAM, a series of three sessions for the price of two.  Quickly eliminate fears that have been holding you back and acquire tips and techniques to enable you to be calm, confident and sexy every time you speak! 

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Talk to me confidentially about your special speaking needs and get more information about the SPEAK TO WIN Program at the same time.
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What My Readers Say:

 

About Speaking Tip #20, Vol. II

"What If Public Speaking Is Just Not Your Thing?" 

 

"Love your newsletter.  It's so inspiring"

~Mary Berney, MSW, LifeQuestCoaching.com       

 

Thanks, Mary, it warms my heart to hear that it speaks to you. 

How Can I Help You?  Let Me Know! 

 

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Food For Thought


Live out of your imagination, not your history.                                                                             ~Stephen R. Covey 

 

More about Marion Claire


I have a guilty secret.  I'm a procrastinator.

           If I don't have a deadline, I probably won't move.  If I have three weeks to write a speech, for instance, I'll get to it three or four days before it's due.  When I was a kid in school, even though I always loved to read, I'd never do the book report until the night before I had to hand it in.  I don't know why I procrastinate.  It just seems to come naturally.

I know I'm not alone.  There are millions of us out there, all leaving things til the last minute and becoming harassed, frazzled and short-tempered as we frantically scramble to meet our deadline.  You'd think we'd learn, after years and years of this, that there's a better way.  There must be!

When it comes to writing a speech or creating this newsletter, I'm no different.  I used to beat myself up about it, but lately I've decided to look at it another way.  If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.

 

Being a procrastinator can be a good thing.  Let me count the ways.

1.  Let's say you have to write a speech.  As a procrastinator, you  never over-think it.  By ignoring it until the deadline, you'll only spend a few days agonizing over coming up with everything you need to sound brilliant. 

2.  Your focus is much more intense because you have such a short time to be creative.  Thus you're using 100% of your energy and talent. It's a lot like a snake swallowing a basketball; it takes a lot of intense work, but where there's a will there's a way.

3.  Even though you've been ignoring your deadline, your subconscious has been hard at work storing things up, ready to spew them out at the exact moment you need them.  It's not foolproof; sometimes, just to teach you a lesson, your subconscious leaves out something important.  Fortunately your conscious will come to the rescue and either figure it out, find it or fake it.

The good news is that even though you're not aware of it, your mind really is hard at work creating that speech underground, so to speak.  When you need them, the words will be there.  It's a gift that you always find within yourself just in time to share it with others who need to hear it.  No one cares how long it took you to create this gift.  They'll be happy and grateful that they were there to receive it.  You will be, too.

       

Whatever your speaking problem, let me help you overcome it.  Contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com

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