Speaking is Sexy
Volume II, No. 17                                                                            June 2011

"You can learn new things at any time in your life if you're willing to be a beginner.  If you actually learn to like being a beginner, the whole world opens up to you."
                                                                  ~ Barbara Sher   
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What's Marion Up To?
Have you downloaded your FREE report yet?
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #16, Practice! Practice! Practice!
Is it time for you to be the Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?
What My Readers Say
How Can I Help You?
Food for Thought
More about Marion Claire ~ I have a guilty secret...
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, middle managers and executives who want to become calm, confident, sexy speakers who influence and inspire others with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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Monday, July 11, 2011 at 10am Pacific time, I'll be speaking on "How to Be a Sexy Speaker!" on Ungenita Prevost's Billion Dollar Beauty Circle Teleseminar.  I'll give you tips on being a sexy speaker in social situations and at networking opportunities.  Remember, every time, every place you speak, you have the chance to be an influence and an inpiration.  That's very sexy!

 

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5 MAGIC KEYS TO CREATING ANY SPEECH!

 

Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a fabulous speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier! 

   Speaking Is Sexy Tip #17, Vol. 2

 

Make Your Speech Easy To Remember  

         

          Have you ever attended a busy, day-long conference, listened to a number of different speakers all of whom had something important to tell you, and after it was over find they ran together in a blur and you could hardly distinguish one from another?  Except for one.  Let's call her Angela.  She spoke right before lunch, and you were hoping she'd be quick because you were hungry.  Yet, within a few moments, you'd forgotten all about your rumbling stomach.  Angela made a really deep impression on you.

She didn't look particularly different than other speakers.  She wore an attractive business suit, her hair nicely framed her face, and she didn't wear too much makeup or distracting, clanking jewelry.  She didn't prance around the stage demanding that you look at her, speak too loud or too soft, too fast or too slow, or try to be a stand-up comedian whose jokes made you roll in the aisle laughing.  Her power point slides were informative but not unusual.  So what made her so memorable?

Actually, it wasn't so much what Angela said.  It was the way she said it.  She had three or four points that were really important for you to remember and you got them all.  Even better, that evening at dinner you could share them with your colleagues without checking your notes. You couldn't say that about anyone else you'd heard that day.  What was her secret? 

Angela painted pictures.  Her medium was words and her method was stringing them together so that you saw visual images in your mind that made it easy to understand and remember her message.  Sometimes her word pictures were funny, sometimes touching, sometimes an 'aha' moment.  She had learned and perfected the art of storytelling. 

Every great speaker tells stories.  They usually aren't jokes of the "A man and a dog went into a bar..." variety.  Rather, like Abraham Lincoln, they tend to use stories that are vignettes of human behavior that deftly and sharply make a point.  Mark Twain never gave a speech without including half a dozen stories that both made his point and gave his audience a laugh, which is one reason he's included in all the "Great Quotes" anthologies.  Today, when we prepare a speech, no matter what the occasion, we almost automatically think, "Can I make any of this funny?"   

 

       Accountants are not known for their sense of humor.  A client of mine, however, keeps his audiences riveted because he always couches his facts and figures in humorous, human stories that actually happened to him or to someone he knows.  He has learned the knack of describing personal experiences, memorable people he's met, travel adventures, hopes and dreams for his family, etc., to illustrate sometimes quite complicated financial goals and practices.  He's a storyteller, and he's unforgettable.

 

           Telling stories in your speeches makes you memorable on two counts.  It gives your audience a visual anchor which makes your material memorable, and it gives them an insight into your personality which makes you memorable.  The more your audience knows about you, the more they'll like and trust what you say.  Storytelling is a sure-fire way to be remembered on both counts.


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Is it time for you to be the
Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?



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What My Readers Say:

About Speaking Tip #16, Vol. II:  

Practice! Practice! Practice! 

 

"I just read #16 and it's your BEST yet!  You really crammed so much in there and it's all VITAL.  Terrific job...can't write more now I've got to PRACTICE! 

~Mina Crassen, Actress, Agitator  

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Food For Thought


  Common Sense and a Sense of Humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds.  A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.                                                                                                                          ~ Clive James  

More about Marion Claire


I have a guilty secret.  I'm a procrastinator.

           If I don't have a deadline, I probably won't move.  If I have three weeks to write a speech, for instance, I'll get to it three or four days before it's due.  When I was a kid in school, even though I always loved to read, I'd never do the book report until the night before I had to hand it in.  I don't know why I procrastinate.  It just seems to come naturally.

I know I'm not alone.  There are millions of us out there, all leaving things til the last minute and becoming harassed, frazzled and short-tempered as we frantically scramble to meet our deadline.  You'd think we'd learn, after years and years of this, that there's a better way.  There must be!

When it comes to writing a speech or creating this newsletter, I'm no different.  I used to beat myself up about it, but lately I've decided to look at it another way.  If you can't beat 'em, join 'em.

 

Being a procrastinator can be a good thing.  Let me count the ways.

1.  Let's say you have to write a speech.  As a procrastinator, you  never over-think it.  By ignoring it until the deadline, you'll only spend a few days agonizing over coming up with everything you need to sound brilliant. 

2.  Your focus is much more intense because you have such a short time to be creative.  Thus you're using 100% of your energy and talent. It's a lot like a snake swallowing a basketball; it takes a lot of intense work, but where there's a will there's a way.

3.  Even though you've been ignoring your deadline, your subconscious has been hard at work storing things up, ready to spew them out at the exact moment you need them.  It's not foolproof; sometimes, just to teach you a lesson, your subconscious leaves out something important.  Fortunately your conscious will come to the rescue and either figure it out, find it or fake it.

The good news is that even though you're not aware of it, your mind really is hard at work creating that speech underground, so to speak.  When you need them, the words will be there.  It's a gift that you always find within yourself just in time to share it with others who need to hear it.  No one cares how long it took you to create this gift.  They'll be happy and grateful that they were there to receive it.  You will be, too.

       

Whatever your speaking problem, let me help you overcome it.  Contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com

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