Speaking is Sexy
Volume II, No. 14                                                                      May 2011

"Great work is done by people who are not afraid to be great."
                                                                  ~ Fernando Flores  
You have received this email because you have a relationship with Marion Claire, have exchanged business cards, or it was forwarded by someone you know.  Enjoy!
Be sure to add [email protected] to your "white list" to continue receiving these emails.
Included In This Issue
Have you visited my website lately?
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #14, Vol. 2- What Makes a Good Speaker Good?
Is it time for you to be the Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?
Food for Thought
How Can I Help You?
Let a Sexy Speaker Brighten your Next Event!
More about Marion Claire
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

Did you miss a previous Speaking Tip?

You can find them here!
 
If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, managers and professionals who want to become calm, confident, sexy speakers who influence others and attract what they love with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

Find me on Facebook     Follow me on Twitter     View my profile on LinkedIn
HAVE YOU VISITED MY WEBSITE LATELY?     

 

We've added a **FREE REPORT**!!

Go to www.marionclaire.com and on the Home page, you will find a link to download this valuable speaking tool:

 

5 MAGIC KEYS TO CREATING ANY SPEECH!

 

Knowing the answers to these Five Questions will enable you to create a fabulous speech for almost any occasion.  Download your Free Report now and make creating your next speech so much easier! 

      Speaking Is Sexy Tip #14, Vol. 2

 

What Makes A Good Speaker Good? 

    

            Whenever I have the chance to watch a good speaker in action, I always ask, "What makes this speaker so good?"  What's so attractive and watchable about this presentation that I'm glued to my seat, totally focused, ready to hear and remember every word that's said?  What  sets this speaker apart from so many others I've heard?  And most important of all, can I learn to do whatever it is so that I can be just as good?

            We've all seen and heard speakers who seem to be 'a natural'.  They command the stage so easily that we lean forward to hear what they have to say, delighted to give them our undivided attention.  We never look at our watches or think for a moment about checking our voicemail.  There are others who are so awkward and boring that we squirm in irritation, find it hard to stay awake, angrily text our displeasure to our friends, and start looking for the nearest exit.  What's the difference?   

It's a truism that, just as no two peas in a pod are the same, no two speakers are alike, either.  There is no 'one-size-fits-all' formula that will turn an individual into an exciting and appealing presenter.  So is being a good speaker something you're born with or can it be learned?

 

Anyone can learn to be a good speaker.  It's not rocket science. 

 

First of all, speaking well is a skill that uses specific tools and techniques that can be learned, practiced and perfected.  How to stand, where to stand, how to use your voice, where to look, when to keep talking, when to pause, how to breathe, when to move from one side of the stage to the other, when to stand absolutely still, how to use your eyes to make a point, when to rehearse beforehand, whether to write down every word or use notes in an outline... and so on.  All speaking techniques can be practiced until they come naturally and feel like second nature.  No one is born with all of them.

Secondly, more than just a collection of tools and techniques, good speakers have an "I can do this!" attitude.  For some they developed it when they were very small, looked at the Jungle Jim on the playground and said, "I can climb on that", and they did.  And never looked back, just kept climbing.  Others looked at the Jungle Jim and said, "Climbing's not my thing.  It's too hard for me, I'd rather do something else."  Later, when they grew up, they learned that sometimes you have to climb the Jungle Jim, whether it's your thing or not.  So they had to consciously go about cultivating that "I can climb this" attitude.  Better late than never.  What's really amazing is that often, after that first scary climb, after they've practiced a bit and climbed several times more, they discover that it's fun and they really begin to like it.  Who woulda believed it?

There is a third thing that every good speaker has.  Passion!  Passion for the subject, passion for communicating with the audience, passion to get the message across, to make it land, to be sure the audience 'gets it.' All it takes is belief in and love for your subject.  Your passion is the gift you give to your audience.  They in turn will feel your enthusiasm, they'll 'get' how much you value what you're communicating to them, and they'll think you're a terrific speaker because you move them to value it, too. 

Can the "Can Do" attitude and Passion for your subject be learned, practiced and perfected?  Absolutely.  Just ask any good speaker.


DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES who would benefit from seeing this Speaking Is Sexy eZine?  Please forward it to them or send me their email address and I'll send them a copy and tell them it's from you!  www.marionclaire.com 
Want to use this Speaking Is Sexy Tip in your Newsletter or Blog?  
You can, as long as you include this entire blurb:  For over ten years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals of all kinds to become the confident speakers they longed to be.  She'll also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com 

Is it time for you to be the
Sexy Public Speaker you've always wanted to be?



Give yourself a gift that will last a lifetime.  Become the Cool, Confident and Sexy Public Speaker you'd like to be every time you face an audience.  You Can Speak with Courage and Comfort!  It's easier than you think to overcome your nervousness and increase your confidence.  You don't need to be reluctant to get up to speak ever again.  Instead, you can be proud of your ability to show others how much they'll benefit from what you have to say. 

Do you have a Desire to Inspire?  Let me show you in a single two-hour session how to achieve any one of the following:

            Speak to Win**:  I'll show you how to feel cool, comfortable and charismatic in front of any audience!

Mesmerize/Hypnotize:  I'll give you the techniques that will make your listeners hang onto every word from start to finish!

         Be Amazing:  You'll be confident enough to check your fears at the door and look and feel like a superhero whenever you get up to speak!

Take one, two or all three sessions, whatever suits your needs.  Remember, you'll always get *special savings* when you opt to take advantage of all of them. 

**The new, 'SPEAK TO WIN' PRIVATE COACHING PROGRAM!**  is a never-before offered series of three sessions for the price of two.  Quickly eliminate the fears that have been holding you back and acquire tips and techniques to enable you to be calm, confident and sexy every time you speak! 

Would you like to talk to me confidentially about your special speaking needs and get more information about the SPEAK TO WIN Program at the same time?  I'm always available for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or email me at [email protected].

Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back!  Let me help you become the speaker you've always wanted to be!  

Food For Thought


Only I can change my life.  No one can do it for me.

                                 ~ Carol Burnett 

How Can I Help You?  Let Me Know!

Would you like a private answer to your current speaking problem?  Or would you like to comment on what you've seen here?  Your feedback means a great deal to me.  Contact me at [email protected] 


Did you miss previous Speaking Tips?

You can find them at www.marionclaire.com/newsletter 

Let a Sexy Speaker Brighten your Next Event!

Invite a dynamic, easy to listen to, informative and entertaining speaker (that's me!) to enlighten your company or group on any of these topics: 

  • Be a Sexy Speaker!  How the Power of Your Voice Can Make You Personally and Professionally Irresistible 
  • End Your Fear and Give a Great Speech! Simple Ways to Leave Your Fear at the Door and Love Being the Center of Attention
  • 5 Secrets Every Persuasive Speaker Knows! Follow these Easy-to-Learn Techniques and Your Audience Will Follow You Anywhere 
...Or let me create a talk for you that focuses on your special needs.  Contact me if you have a last minute cancellation by your previously scheduled speaker!  Email me at [email protected] or call 310/659-8956.  
More about Marion Claire
 

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces.  It took the form of extreme stagefright and panic attacks.  Whenever I had to appear in front of people during that time, in any capacity, I was a shivering mess.

      In college, I wanted to be an actress, but found out pretty quickly I wasn't very good. I was playing the lead in Eugene O'Neill's 'A Touch of the Poet' at the time, and distinctly remember fighting panic attacks throughout the entire Four Act play!  It was like I split myself into two people: one was reciting my lines, the other was telling myself to calm down, focus, and don't faint!  That's a heckuva lousy way to spend three hours on a stage, let me tell you!  It was by a sheer act of will that I didn't pass out in the middle of Act Three!  The moment the curtain came down on the last performance, I gave up acting.

      Eventually, I realized that I wasn't afraid of being on stage, I just wanted to be there as myself, not as a fictional character.  That changed everything.  It took awhile to make that discovery, but I'm happy to report, that today, I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests.  If I can go from a stage-terrified puppy to a calm, self-aware lioness, so can you!  Whatever your speaking problem, let me help you overcome it.  Contact me at [email protected]

Speak Your Mind with Marion Claire

PS - We don't like spam either! We will never share your information with anyone. If you would prefer not to receive communications from us in the future - just unsubscribe below.