Speaking is Sexy
Volume II, No. 9                                                                      March 2011

"If you listen to your fears, you will die never knowing what
a great person you might have been."

                                                                  ~ Robert H. Schuller     
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What's Marion Up To Now?
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #9, Vol. II, Give the Audience a Break
Would you like to be a Sexy Public Speaker?
How Can I Help You?
What Do People Say About Marion Claire?
Let a Sexy Speaker Brighten your Next Event!
Food For Thought
More about Marion Claire
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, managers and professionals who want to become calm, confident, sexy speakers who influence others and attract what they love with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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      Speaking Is Sexy Tip #9, Vol. 2

 

Give the Audience a Break 

   

         A client said to me recently, "Whenever I have to give a speech, I always worry that the audience won't like what I have to say.  What if they disagree with me?  What if they think I don't know what I'm talking about?  What can I do to gain their respect?" 

         "When you're preparing your talk," I asked him, "what are you thinking about your audience?"  He looked at me blankly.  "Why do you expect them not to respect what you have to say?"

         He seemed confused for a moment.  "I don't know," he said finally, "I just always think those things."

         "And does it ever happen that way?"

         "No," he said emphatically.  "I've never had it happen, not once."

         "And yet every time, you fear it will?"

         He nodded sadly.

         "That's a heckuva a burden to put on yourself every time you have to give a speech."

         He nodded again.  "I know!" he said miserably, "I have nightmares about it."

 

         It's unfortunate that many otherwise confident and competent individuals, when faced with the prospect of giving a speech to a group of people they don't know, automatically feel small, incompetent and intimidated.  They visualize a roomful of judgmental faces and immediately begin to feel like they're in the prisoner's box, on trial for their life, forced to prove they didn't commit the crime of believing they have something important and worthwhile to say.  The audience is judge and jury and what it thinks will determine whether or not they have the right ever again to stand before a group to educate, influence or persuade. 

         There's no need to torture yourself with this kind of insecurity.  Never.  Ever.

        

It's a total myth that the audience wants you to fail.  The truth is, the audience is on your side.  They want you to succeed... and succeed big time!

There are many reasons why some people feel this kind of pre-performance anxiety.  Usually it has to do with the beliefs we have about ourselves and whether or not we know, deep down inside, that we are smart enough, knowledgeable enough, handsome enough, experienced enough, desirable or sexy enough for the audience to take us seriously. 

Whatever particular fears you may have, there are different ways to identify and get rid of them that can eliminate those pre-speech nightmares completely.  Ask me about them.

 

Here is an on the spot technique to help you get rid of the 'judge and jury' feeling.  In the few moments before you actually begin to speak, look quietly at the audience, moving your eyes from left to right.  Pick out three people, one left, one center and one right, who look friendly, interested, or at least neutral.  If you have a friend or two in the audience, look at them.  When you begin to speak, talk to these special people, moving your eyes from left to right and back again.  The rest of the audience will be in your line of sight, but you'll only be focusing on the ones you've chosen, who are interested in what you're saying and happy to learn from you.  They're getting what they came for... knowledge they didn't have when they came in.  The audience will be so busy learning from you, it won't even cross their minds to do anything but listen seriously and respectfully.

             The audience really isn't there to throw things at you.  They came to receive the gift of your knowledge.  They want to receive it from you.  They're waiting to receive it, and they'll be so happy to take it home with them.  Give the audience a break!  And give yourself a break, too!

DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS OR COLLEAGUES who would benefit from seeing this Speaking Is Sexy eZine?  Please forward it to them or send me their email address and I'll send them a copy and tell them it's from you!  www.marionclaire.com 
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For over ten years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals to become the confident speakers they longed to be.  She's the author of the forthcoming book, "Speaking Is Sexy: Influence Others and Attract What You Love with the Power of Your Voice", due later this year, and will also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion, and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com 

Would you like to be a
Sexy Public Speaker?


Spring is almost here and many opportunities are in the offing for you to be the Cool, Confident and Sexy Speaker you want to be every time you face an audience.  Ramp up your Desire to Inspire!  Begin today!  You can speak with Courage and Comfort! Let me show you in a single two hour session how to achieve any one of the following:

            Speak to Win**:  Feel cool, comfortable and charismatic in front of any audience!

Mesmerize/Hypnotize:  Techniques that will make your listeners hang onto every word from start to finish!

         Be Amazing:  Check your fears at the door and look and feel like a superhero whenever you get up to speak!

Take one, two or all three sessions, whatever suits your needs.  Remember, you'll always get *special savings* when you opt to take advantage of all of them. 

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Watch for the new, updated 'SPEAK TO WIN' PRIVATE COACHING PROGRAM!  This is a unique, never-before offered opportunity to quickly eliminate the fears that have been holding you back while acquiring tips and techniques to enable you to be calm, confident and sexy every time you speak!


Want to discuss your special speaking needs or get advance information about my new SPEAK TO WIN Program?  I'm always available for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or
email me at [email protected] to set up a telephone appointment.

Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back. Give yourself a gift that will last a lifetime.   Let me help you become the speaker you've always wanted to be!
How Can I Help You?  Let Me Know!
  Is there a specific question about speaking you'd like answered?  Or would you like to comment on what you've seen here?  Your feedback means a great deal to me.  Contact me at [email protected]

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What do people say about Marion Claire?

"Among the myriad newsletters I receive each month, yours is one of the few I read consistently. Not only do you give great tips on becoming an effective speaker, but you present your information in such an interesting way that it's like reading a story I can relate to rather than dry suggestions. Speaking IS sexy and so is your newsletter.  Thank you. I look forward to the next volume."


                                 ~ Lynda Malerstein, Hypnotherapist
 

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  • You Can Be a Sexy Speaker!  How to Use the Power of Your Voice to Make You Irresistible 
  • You Can Give a Great Speech, Even If You Think You Can't!  Simple Ways to Leave Your Fear at the Door and Love Being the Center of Attention
  • The Secret to Being A Persuasive Speaker!  Persuade Your Audience to Follow You Anywhere When You Follow These Easy-to-Learn Techniques
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Food For Thought


"It's been said that we don't drown by falling in the water, we drown by staying there."

                                         

~ Edwin Louis Cole 

 

More about Marion Claire

For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces.  Sometimes I couldn't leave my house for more than five minutes, without scurrying back inside.  My enemy was not the great outdoors.  It was simply fear. 

Everyone experiences fear on occasion.  And everyone's fear is a little bit different, personal to the individual.  Mine was the fear of being alone out in the world.  I didn't feel safe by myself.  Although I was perfectly content to live on my own, I needed the comfort and companionship of someone I knew well whenever I ventured out of the safety of my home.  No way could I dream of getting up to speak in front of a room full of strangers! 

          That was then, this is now.  Our minds are miraculous.  If we have a burning desire, a deep belief that we can change and are determined to make a serious effort, it is possible to overcome whatever fears may be holding us back.  

          Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests and coach others how to overcome their fears.  If I can do it, so can you!  Let me help you.  Contact me at [email protected]

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