Speaking is Sexy
Volume II, No. 2                                                                       November 2010

"One of the very nicest things about life is the way we must regularly stop whatever it is we are doing and devote our attention to eating."
                                                                  ~Luciano Pavarotti and William Wright
        Pavarotti, My Own Story

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Included In This Issue
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #2, Vol. 2
Would you like to be a Sexy Speaker?
How Can I Help You?
Let a Sexy Speaker Brighten your Next Event!
What My Readers Say...
More about Marion Claire
Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

Did you miss a previous Speaking Tip?

You can find them here!
 
TO MY READERS:
At this time of the year, when giving thanks is in the air, I want to thank you for being with me through the first year of this Speaking Is Sexy eZine, for sending me your comments and compliments, and for permitting me to be of service to you in this way.  Your support means so much to me and I am truly grateful that you are in my life.  Here's to another year of mutual connection and my wish to you and your loved ones for a Very Happy Thanksgiving!
If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, managers and professionals who want to become calm, confident, sexy speakers who influence others and attract what they love with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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Speaking Is Sexy Tip #2, Vol. 2

"Plan To Speak & Follow Your Plan"

"There is reason in this madness" (Wm. Shakespeare)
           
When you have to write a speech, do any of these cross your mind?

      "I don't know where to start, how much to leave out, or what to keep in."
      "There's so much I have to say, but there's never enough time to say it."
      "I've tried to write a speech but I get so disorganized, it always comes out a jumble."
      "I've never learned how to write a speech and I'm too (tired, busy, overworked, old) to start now.  I'll just wing it."

      Sound familiar?  Do these or any other self-limiting thoughts keep you from standing in front of an audience and sharing your hard won knowledge and experience with your peers or others who regard you as an expert?  Relax!  Knowing the answers to a few simple questions can make writing your speech much easier than you think.

1.  What is your purpose for giving this talk?  Why are you giving this particular talk to this particular group?  Do you want to influence, persuade or convince your audience to agree with your point of view?  Make yourself known as an expert in your field?  Build interest in your subject and demonstrate your capabilities as a desirable speaker?  Lead a group toward a particular action?  Being sure of your purpose before you write your speech will focus your thoughts and make the creation process much easier.

2.  What is your desired result?  What's in it for you?  Do you want to get a promotion, lead a new project, form a group to accomplish a public service, be recognized as the 'go-to' person on your subject of expertise, sell your books or products, get more speaking gigs?  Focusing on your goal from the beginning will show you what you need to do/say to achieve it.

3.  Exactly how much time do you have to speak?  Is this a Quickie or an Oration?  A 30-second introduction or a 30-minute report to investors?  Plan your speech to fit your time parameters.  Avoid having so much material that you have to rush through it or leave out something important.  Develop a few key points completely and make them easy to understand.  Never exceed your allotted time!  Plan in advance to have something you can omit if it looks like you're going over your limit.

4.  Are you in control of your subject?  Do the research.  The more you know about your topic, the less likely it is you'll forget something important or be caught in a misstatement.  You're the expert.  You need to answer every question your audience might ask.  Make sure your information is current and verifiable and try out your ideas on knowledgeable friends or colleagues.  Listen to their feedback.  Your confidence will blossom when you know you're in control of your subject.

5.  Is your speech organized?  Whether your talk is formal or informal, business or social, choose the three key points your audience must hear.  Let those key points be your guide and craft your talk around them.  Let them build upon each other and proceed in a logical order.  Make it easy for your listeners to understand your train of thought.

      Remember, your audience wants to learn what you have to offer.  Give them an easy path to follow.  They'll feel satisfied and appreciative, and you'll feel like a winner and a champion!

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For over ten years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals to become the confident speakers they longed to be.  She's the author of the forthcoming book, "Speaking Is Sexy: Influence Others and Attract What You Love with the Power of Your Voice", due in 2011, and will also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion, and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com

Would you like to be a
Sexy Speaker?


As we approach the end of the year parties and celebrations, there are many more opportunities to be the Cool, Confident and Sexy Speaker you want to be every time you face an audience.  You already have the Desire to Inspire.  Let me show you "How to Speak in Any Situation with Courage and Comfort!"  Work with me in a single two hour session to learn how to achieve any one of the following:

            Speak to Win:  How to feel cool, comfortable and charismatic in front of any audience!

Mesmerize/Hypnotize:  Discover the techniques that will make your listeners hang onto every word from start to finish!

         Be Amazing:  Check your fears at the door and look and feel like a superhero whenever you get up to speak!

Take one, two or all three sessions, whatever suits your needs.  Remember, you'll always get *special savings* when you opt to take advantage of all of them. 

Want to discuss your special speaking needs?  I'm always available for a *free* half-hour consultation at 310/659-8956 or
email me at Marion@marionclaire.com to set up a telephone appointment.

Give yourself a gift that will last a lifetime.  Amaze yourself at how quickly you can get rid of whatever is holding you back.  Let me help you become the speaker you've always wanted to be!
HOW CAN I HELP YOU?  LET ME KNOW!

Is there a specific question about speaking you'd like answered?  Or would you like to comment on what you've seen here?  Your feedback means a great deal to me.  Contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com

Did you miss previous Speaking Tips? 
Find them here!
 

Let a Sexy Speaker Brighten your Next Event!

Invite a dynamic, easy to listen to, informative and entertaining speaker (that's me!) to enlighten your company or group on any of these topics:
  • You Can Be a Sexy Speaker!  How to Use the Power of Your Voice to Make You Irresistible to One Person or a Whole Audience
  • You Can Give a Great Speech, Even If You Think You Can't!  Simple Ways to Leave Your Fear at the Door and Love Being the Center of Attention
  • When You Speak, Everybody Listens!  Persuade Your Audience to Follow You Anywhere When You Follow These Easy-to-Learn Techniques.
...Or let me create a talk for you that focuses on your special needs.  Contact me if you have a last minute cancellation by your previously scheduled speaker!  Email me at Marion@marionclaire.com or call 310/659-8956.
What My Readers Say:

Re: Speaking Tip #1, Vol. II: Look Before You Speak

"These tips on audience eye contact are so helpful I wish I had a speech to give!"
~Ardy Tobin, California

"...(If you get) flustered by audience attention, it helps to choose a type of presentation that allows you to avoid continuous eye contact for some periods of time, like PowerPoint, video, charts, slides, etc."
~Martin Jacob, Be'er Sheva, Israel
More about Marion Claire

      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces.  It took the form of extreme stagefright and panic attacks.  Whenever I had to appear in front of people during that time, in any capacity, I was a shivering mess.
      I remember my first panic attack, way back in high school, when I was singing with the school choir at a performance at a local church.  Suddenly, out of nowhere, I began to feel hot flashes.  My heart started to pound much faster than normal.  My head felt hot and my eyes had trouble focusing.  I was trapped in the second row with people in front, behind and on both sides of me.  There was nowhere I could go, no way to escape.  Nothing like this had ever happened to me before.  I had no idea what was causing it.  I felt so frightened, but I just had to stand there and keep singing.
      I forced myself to focus on the choir director and the words of the song.  After what seemed like forever, but was probably only a few seconds, the panic receded, my body went back to functioning normally, and I made it through the rest of the concert without a twinge.

      That was then, this is now.  I don't know what specifically triggered that first panic attack but I learned a valuable lesson in those few agonizing moments.  Focusing on the job at hand, and not on myself, made it disappear.  It's a rule I observe scrupulously to this day when I speak in front of groups of all kinds, large and small, no matter what the occasion.  I don't think about stage fright.  I concentrate on making my message land, on giving the audience what they came to hear.
     
      If I can, so can you!  If you're struggling with stagefright, let me help you overcome it. Contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.
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