Speaking is Sexy
Volume I, No. 25                                                                       October 2010

"The difference between a good speech and a great speech is 1,000 speeches!"
                                                                                             ~Dale Carnegie    

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Speaking Is Sexy Tip #25
Would you like to be a Sexy Speaker?
What My Readers Say
How Can I Help You?
Let a Sexy Speaker Brighten your Next Event!
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Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 

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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.

MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, managers and professionals who want to become calm, confident, sexy speakers who influence others and attract what they love with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com

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Speaking Is Sexy Tip #25

On The Way To Carnegie Hall

"How do you get to Carnegie Hall?"

"Practice!  Practice!  Practice!"
 

       If you haven't heard that before... where have you been?  No one remembers who said it first, however everyone who has to perform before an audience should know it by heart.  It's never more true than when faced with the opportunity to speak to an audience, especially an unfamiliar one, about a subject we think we know like the back of our hand.  There's no greater temptation than to say, "I know this material.  I work with it every day.  I don't need to rehearse this speech.  I'll just get up and tell them what I know.  No sweat."

      Self-confidence is great.  The sense of sureness about what we know gives us a buoyancy that is sometimes hard to describe, but we know it when we feel it.  The problem comes when we forget that knowing something well and explaining it to someone else are often two very different things. 

      Next time you're asked to speak on a subject you know well, and you're tempted to wing it, stop and ask yourself, "Just exactly what am I going to say?"  Then answer these questions:
      What is the focus of this talk, the most important idea I want the audience to remember?  Do I have a catchy, memorable phrase to describe it or a compelling story that will etch it on their memory?  Since most audiences only remember about 20% three days after hearing a particular speech, will my key point be at the top of that 20%?
      Do I have a dynamite beginning and an unforgettable finish?  Will my opening grab their attention within the first 45 seconds?  Will my big finish rouse them to take the action I'm recommending and make them remember me as an exciting speaker? 

      Are my major talking points organized?  Do they build one upon the next?  Do I have a few succinct, key points or am I going to inundate them with a laundry list of information?  If it's the latter, do I have a handout they can take with them to remember it all?

      Am I prepared for any question they might ask?  Do I have a quick, reasoned response if they ask for more information or a clarification of something I've said?
      Am I prepared to deal with a challenge from
anyone who might disagree with me?  Can I think on my feet and use my natural wit or have I prepared a few comments in advance that always get a positive response?
      Do I have a Plan B in case the audio/visual equipment or anything else doesn't work properly? 


If you've answered "Yes" to all of these questions, there's still one more thing you need to do:  Practice!  Give your speech at least two or three times to yourself or a friend before you actually stand in front of the audience it's meant for.  Dictate it into a recorder a couple of times and listen to it.  You'll find phrases you want to remember and repeat and others you definitely want to blot out altogether.  You'll often be surprised at what you hear yourself saying. 


Remember the most important Six P's of Public Speaking:


Proper Preparation Prevents (Im)possibly-Poor Performance!


Give yourself a break.  Prepare properly and you'll perform perfectly.  It's impossible to do otherwise.


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For over ten years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, and professionals to become the confident speakers they longed to be.  She's the author of the forthcoming book, "Speaking Is Sexy: Influence Others and Attract What You Love with the Power of Your Voice", due in 2011, and will also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion, and her programs, check out her website at www.marionclaire.com

Would you like to be a
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What My Readers Say

Re: Speaking Tip #24: What Will The Audience Think?

"I really loved this one, Marion.  "I am enough!" is quite a mantra.  I would add that there's no doubt that if we are passionate, then our inner belief and enthusiasm can't help but come through and engage others.  Keep up your important work."
~Mina Crasson, New York, NY
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Are  you looking for a dynamic, educational, easy to listen to, entertaining speaker for your company or group?  Ask me about one or more of these topics:
  • You Can Be a Sexy Speaker!  How to Use the Power of Your Voice to Make You Irresistible to One Person or a Whole Audience
  • You Can Give a Great Speech, Even If You Think You Can't!  Simple Ways to Leave Your Fear at the Door and Love Being the Center of Attention
  • When You Speak, Everybody Listens!  Persuade Your Audience to Follow You Anywhere When You Follow These Easy-to-Learn Techniques.
...Or ask me to create a talk for you that focuses on your special needs.  Feel free to contact me if you have a last minute cancellation by your previously scheduled speaker!  Marion@marionclaire.com
Marion Recommends...

      Are you looking for a really helpful book on the art of public speaking?  One of my favorites is SPEAK LIKE CHURCHILL, STAND LIKE LINCOLN by James C. Humes (Three Rivers Press, New York, 2002)  It has some of the best secrets of history's greatest speakers that you'll find anywhere, and James C. Humes has written speeches for many of them.  I think it's well worth reading, and I don't get a penny for saying that!
More about Marion Claire
      For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces.  The idea of getting up in front of a group or on a stage absolutely terrified me.  In fact, during the time when I was most severely incapacitated, the idea of getting out of bed in the morning was sometimes more than I could face. 
      Thanks to a good therapist, an excellent M.D., a well-worn library card, the self-help section of my local bookstore, and a bit of better living through chemistry, I was able to learn enough about agoraphobia to begin to cure myself.  I always believed: My mind made me ill, my mind will make me well again.  And it was true.  It happened just that way.
      I read everything I could.  I practiced the desensitizing exercises and mantras that I found in the books or that were taught to me by my therapist. I pushed myself to tackle the challenges of leaving the house, talking to strangers, going to new places, sitting in restaurants, theaters, and movies, even if I had to sit within eyeshot of the exit or only on the aisle in a long row of seats.  Horseshoe seating was always a challenge... I never got to see any play or movie from the center section.  I always took the last seat on the end, so I saw a lot of plays from the side.
      That was then, this is now.  I'm happy to report that the exercises, mantras and other techniques I used did their job and today I sit dead center in any theater without a single twinge of fear.  More importantly, I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests no matter where they are. 
      If I can, so can you!  Whether your problem is giving the speech or getting to the event, let me help you overcome it. Contact me at Marion@marionclaire.com.
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