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Why is it called Speaking is Sexy?
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy!
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them. It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say.
Be a positive influence. Be an inspiration. That's very sexy.
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If you are...
- Currently speaking in public,
- Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
- Afraid to speak in public,
- Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
- Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the accomplished speaker you've always longed to be.
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MARION CLAIRE coaches solopreneurs, business owners, managers and professionals who want to achieve their highest potential as calm, confident, sexy speakers who inspire with the power of their voice. www.marionclaire.com
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Speaking Is Sexy Tip #18
What If Public Speaking is Just
Not Your Thing?
Has
anyone ever asked you to give a speech and your automatic reaction was, "Oh,
no, public speaking just isn't my thing."
I can't tell you how many times that's been said to me over the years. My instant reaction is, "Why not? You do it every day." Before they can shake their heads in
vehement objection, I usually add, "You're doing it right now."
What
is it about the words "public speaking" that make people freeze up, back off,
clutch their stomachs and say, "Oh, no, I couldn't do that!" From the moment we walk out the door of
our house in the morning, whatever we say we're saying it in public. Whether we're on the job, at the Mall,
on a dinner date or out to a movie with a friend, we are putting on a public
face. Every word we say is
designed to influence the person we're interacting with at that particular
moment.
On the job, we want our colleagues and clients to think
well of us, agree with our point of view, and do what we ask them to do. At the Mall, we want to influence the
sales personnel to help us get what we want. On a dinner date we want our companion to be impressed with
our cleverness and sociability. With a friend, we want to encourage closeness and that trusting bond
that gives us the confidence to reveal our inner feelings. In each of these instances, throughout
the day, we're 'public speaking.'
"No," you're saying. "Public speaking means getting up in front of a group and making
a speech." Sure, it does. When you stand in front of an audience,
you're doing exactly the same thing you do on the job: influencing your listeners to think
well of you, agree with your point of view and do what you ask them to do. Just like the Mall, you want them
to get what you're offering and take action on it. Like a dinner date, you want them to appreciate you for who
you are, your cleverness and capability. And by the end of your speech, you want them to regard you as a friend,
someone they can trust to keep your word and deliver what you've promised.
Who we are, when we're talking one-on-one, is no
different than who we are standing in front of a group of 5 or 500. We're still the same person. We know as much in front of a group as
we do in front of a friend. Maybe
more, because to prepare the speech we've planned ahead, researched our
subject, and can deliver our views in an organized, easy to follow way that
makes it much easier for our listeners to nod their heads and say, "Yes, I get
that. I understand what you want
me to do."
So next time you're about to say, "Public speaking just
isn't my thing," wait a minute! Stop and think for a moment. Who are you saying it to? Yourself in the mirror? Or
an associate, client or friend who's just asked you to demonstrate how
influential you can be in 20 minutes or less in front of a group that means a
lot to the asker. You can inspire
others with the power of your voice. It's the most obvious way we communicate.
So the next time someone asks you to make a speech, give
yourself a pat on the back and say, "Yes, I can do that. I love to use the power of my voice to
influence others. It's what I do every
day!" You'll be telling the truth.
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WHAT READERS ARE SAYING ABOUT PREVIOUS SPEAKING IS SEXY TIPS
Speaking Is Sexy Tip #17:
A Tale of Stage Fright
I look forward to your (Speaking Tips) and find them very constructive and helpful...excellent info
F. Weber, Culver City, CA
Again, a stellar Speaking is Sexy inspiration! Keep them coming!
S. Van Etten, Wenham, MA
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"I have been
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relate to things I have experienced, attempted to solve unsuccessfully, or
found a solution to without knowing if I am on the right track. It has been so
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More about Marion Claire
For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia,
the fear of crossing open spaces.
Interestingly enough, the fear hit me primarily in the driver's
seat. It didn't prevent me from
accepting a speaking gig, but getting to it by car was agony, especially if I had
to sit in freeway traffic. In most
major cities, you can't avoid it.
At those times my agoraphobia turned into claustrophobia, its sister ailment. The minute I drove up the on-ramp, I felt trapped. Panic set in. My hands got sweaty, my heart pounded and I couldn't wait
til the next exit. Unfortunately,
I couldn't just get off at the first off-ramp. Usually I had to drive past dozens of them and change from one
freeway to another before I could actually head for the relative safety of city
streets. I learned various calming
exercises to psych myself up, but I still dreaded the on-ramps, white-knuckled
it as I inched along behind what seemed like a zillion cars and trucks,
repeated my mantras over and over, played the radio as loud as I could stand
it, and gulped for air like a guppy the whole length of the freeway. When I finally reached my off-ramp, I
raced off like I'd been released from jail, as indeed, I felt I had.
That was then, this is now. I'm happy to report that the exercises,
mantras and other techniques I used did their job and today I speak in front of
groups of all sizes, shapes and interests no matter where they are. If I can, so can you! Whether your problem is giving the
speech or getting to the event, let me help you overcome it. Contact me at
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