Speaking is Sexy

Volume I, No. 12                                                                    April 2010

"The last of the human freedoms is to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances."                                                                                ~Victor E. Frankl

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Why is it called Speaking is Sexy? 
When what someone says and how they say it sends chills up and down your spine, that's sexy! 
 
Whether you're giving a speech, having a conversation, saying your wedding vows, teaching your kids, exhorting your sales team, or talking in your sleep, if someone is listening, you are inspiring them.  It's important to remember that whenever you speak, someone is influenced by each word you say. 
 
Be a positive influence.  Be an inspiration.  That's very sexy.
 
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If you are...
  • Currently speaking in public,
  • Thinking of speaking in public, but procrastinating like crazy,
  • Afraid to speak in public,
  • Envious of people who speak confidently in public, or
  • Would just like a few tips on how you can speak better than they do...
This Newsletter will give you tips and techniques to become the cool, confident speaker you've always longed to be.
SPEAKER'S TIP #12
 
 Expect to Be Brilliant
When you get up to give a speech, what reaction do you hope to get from the audience?  What will be your grade on your own inner report card?  Do you expect to give an extraordinary speech that will have them on their feet whistling and stamping, or do you expect to be a flop?  Do you expect to go from start to finish smoothly, confidently, without a hitch or a glitch, or do you expect to forget something really important in the middle?  What are your expectations when you get up to speak?

Have you ever split yourself in two while talking in front of the room?  One half of your brain is busy giving your speech and thinking, "This is the information you came for.  This is the message you want to hear.  Listen up, because this is really interesting stuff and you'll gain terrific benefits from it," while the other half is playing saboteur going, "Uh-oh, did I leave anything out?  Are they listening?  They look bored.  They're not paying attention.  I feel faint.  My mouth is dry.  My hands are shaking.  They think I'm making a fool of myself.  Why did I think I could do this?  I'm no good.  I'm a Speaking is Sexyfailure!  Aaarrrrghgghg!"

You've heard the popular saying:  "If you believe you can, or you believe you can't...you're right!"  It absolutely applies to overcoming fears about public speaking.  Whatever you choose to believe about your ability to impress an audience will come true.  It's a fact.  People who expect to be successful achieve their expectations.  Whether you're running a business, writing a book or making a speech, if you believe you can, you will. 

If you can sincerely say to yourself, "I know my subject, I've rehearsed what I'm going to say, I'm prepared to respond to anything the audience might ask of me, I'm ready to do a bang-up job and I expect to speak extremely well..." then there's no doubt about it.  You've set yourself up for success.  Your expectation is firm and realistic, you've prepared yourself for this moment, you expect to succeed.  Consciously or unconsciously, you've chosen to be a winner.

You won't be focusing inward on "How am I doing?" while you're speaking.  You'll be concentrating on giving the gift of your knowledge, making your message land.  You won't trip over your tongue, or forget something important, suddenly get hot flashes or dry mouth or feel faint.  None of those things will happen because you've chosen to be brilliant.

Believe that you can and expect that you will!  Your expectations always determine your choices.  When you expect to be a successful speaker, you'll make the choices that ensure that you are.  Expect to be brilliant.  You'll be amazed at what you can achieve! 

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For over ten years, Marion Claire has coached entrepreneurs, executives, professionals and just plain folks to become the confident speakers they longed to be.  She's the author of the forthcoming book, "Speaking Is Sexy: How to Inspire with the Power of Your Voice", due in 2010.  She will also help you write your speeches for almost any occasion.  For more information about Marion and her programs, check out her website at http://www.marionclaire.com
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  • Learn how to make your audience your new best friend
  • Discover techniques that'll make your listeners hang onto your words from start to finish
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Give yourself a gift that will last a lifetime. Amaze yourself and amuse your friends. Let me help you become the speaker no one believed you could be. For more information, email Marion@marionclaire.com.
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                                     ~ R. Sawdayi, Shopzilla, Inc.
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More about Marion Claire 
For over 20 years, I suffered from agoraphobia, the fear of crossing open spaces.  In those days, getting up to speak in front of five people or five hundred was a major trauma.  For days beforehand I shivered in fright, felt faint, fought down waves of nausea, and imagined all the embarrassing things that could possibly happen, from forgetting my name to fainting dead away.  It was a sheer act of will to force myself to go through it at all. 
 
That was then, this is now! Today I speak in front of groups of all sizes, shapes and interests. If I can go from a terrified puppy to a calm, confident lioness, so can you! I'll be happy to share my secrets to becoming an elegant, compelling speaker at any professional or personal event.  Whatever your speaking problem, let me help you overcome it.  Contact me at
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