Self Healing Within an Intimate Relationship

In this article, we'll address a couple of questions we've been asked.  "Can we be a healer for our spouse or partner?" and "How does Self Healing work in my marriage or intimate relationships?"  Our answer for the first question is "NO!"  Even in a relationship, each person is only responsible for their own healing.  It is in our nature to want to fix, or take care of our partner.  This is especially true for those who have been healers.  What we have seen is that when you do this, you are creating more attachments and potential blocks as well as trading issues back and forth.  (See article I AM Self Healing from 28 September.)    

If you've begun the Self Healing process we wrote about in earlier newsletters and your partner has not yet, but is willing to learn, you can take the lead and introduce it to them, ultimately becoming each others coach.  One person needs to lead the way by doing the work on their own before adding their partner to their Self Healing sessions.  When one partner sees the positive changes occurring in the other, they will want that for themselves.  It is up to each to move forward staying in integrity with self.  Never expect a partner to be exactly where you are.

There are benefits to healing within an intimate relationship.  You can work as a team and act as coaches for each other.  You do not need to be at the same level to work well together.  When you can coach your partner through their own healing you allow them to keep their own power.  It improves the intimacy and bond of your relationship by building trust, honesty and communication.  It removes the weight of feeling the need to fix each other.  When you can simply be there for each other, it creates a balanced relationship rather than give and take.

Using Life Force is the key tool for deeper Self Healing.  Before working as a couple, at least one of you should understand how to use Life Force energy to heal. (See article Life Force Energy from 10 August.) Life Force Energy also allows you to experience your I AM Self 24/7, yet you don't have to be connected to your I Am Self 24/7 to begin coaching your partner.  When both partners embrace Self Healing, they do not need to be operating at the same level energetically to be an excellent coach for the other.  You work as a team, honoring the level each is ready to embrace.  Three things need to be present for couples operating at different levels, in order to heal together with grace and ease. 

•  Each must be committed to embracing and loving their partner exactly where they are. 

• Each must not take the blame or feel responsible for what is arising in their partner. 

• Each must be committed to not fixing the other, letting them BE exactly where they are.

You will support each other's masculine and feminine balance, yet you will not be limited to the role of your gender.  An individual with balanced masculine and feminine energy is able to fluidly shift between those energies, depending on which is required.  When both partners are balanced within, it allows for total flexibility in roles.  This greatly enhances the relationship. 

When your partner chooses to move forward with you in the Self Healing process, they also get to look at the ascension path opening for them as they connect with their I Am Self.   Once moving on the Self Healing Process most will naturally move on their ascension path.  When both individuals in a partnership choose to be on their ascension path, they will experience their relationship deepen when they serve as a coach.  This is a great time for releasing attachments to each other. Self Healing is a core aspect of everyone's ascension path.   Couples can support each other in releasing their own individual "stuff" as well as their "stuff" as a couple. 

The details of this coaching process for couples will be in our future courses, seminars and books.

Blessed IS,
J & J

To further explain Self Healing within an intimate relationship, we'll share a spontaneous healing session when we first discovered the sequential process of self healing with a partner. 

Jody had an unexplained and rapid onset of physical pain.  This alerted her to the need for releasing of memories arising for her.  Jeremiah lay beside her as she explained what she was seeing around the pain.  In this memory Jody was the female recipient of a religious or societal form of sexual abuse by a man. 

She began pulling up the mental and emotional memories, allowing all of it to come to the surface, just as we've always done with a healing.  The difference in this healing was with recognizing that both sides needed healing within Jody's Self, the masculine (abuser) as well as the feminine (victim).  Until this point, given this healing situation, we would have focused on healing just the feminine aspects of Self.  This release was to be a lesson for us in a deeper and complete healing. 

After Jody brought the issues to the surface, Jeremiah coached her to call in the Divine Feminine energy to heal.  She began deep breathing and running the Divine Feminine energy through her body.  The energy cleared the emotions, pain and the issues around being a victim.  Jody experienced this as giving some peace and resolution, but something subtle was missing.  In the past and as with most healers we would have stopped here assuming we were done.  We would have felt the remaining feelings she was having were fragments that would clear and balance over the next few days.  This day we both sensed there was an entirely new approach to healing coming into our awareness.  Our guidance led us to call in the New Divine Masculine energy.  This energy ran through Jody like a bolt of lightening, shaking up some deep emotions around her own masculine Self.   

From the Divine Feminine energy she was able to understand how the women feel toward the men in this situation.  By using the Divine Masculine energy, she understood how the men felt.  She released on behalf of both the masculine consciousness and the feminine consciousness toward the event.  This was a good example because clearly there was no anger involved in this 'abuse' for either side.  The females involved mostly felt fear and sadness.  There was a sense of not wanting to be a woman, not understanding why they had to suffer this pain, yet knowing 'this must be'.  For the men there was much pain and suffering as well.  It was not easy to know your sister or daughter had to endure such pain, infections, and possibly death.  Yet this was how it had to be.  The healing for either party needed to include both the feminine and masculine aspects.

This is how we heal at the deeper level, the core, by first extracting the lesson or message and then releasing the debris using Life Force energy.  If we only heal one aspect, say the feminine, a distortion is created within the Self as to the perception of the opposite gender.  For example, if we heal a woman's sexual abuse by only focusing on the Divine Feminine, she will still be harboring the negative feelings toward her inner masculine as well as with men.   This is because in each circumstance there are attachments made, no matter if it happens before, during or after the incident.  The emotions of each person transfers back and forth in a continuing loop of cording.  The abuser feels the emotions of the abused and vice versa. 

In addition to clearing individually with Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine, we realized it was also important to merge those energies and run them throughout her body in an elevated intensity and frequency.  This was the moment of true and complete release of all remaining debris for Jody.  Rather than yanking or pulling it out, the release was like an instantaneous transmutation.  Poof, it was gone.  The merged energy was nothing more than pure Life Force.  Even after the transmutation occurred, Life Force energy was continued in order to sooth wounds and heal scars in all of her bodies.  This brought all of her bodies into the state of having never experienced the abuse and she was left with a feeling of great peace, balance and harmony. 

The first lesson of this coached self-healing is that both sides of everything must be healed for true complete healing to be affected. The second is that for this to be possible, each individual must be able to consciously experience and move their clear masculine and clear feminine energy, being able to run them individually and then merged into their Pure Life Force.  Learning how to run them individually as well as merged in an elevated intensity and frequency is imperative to the entire healing process.