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Wise for Love: Dodging Bullets and Learning to Walk Away.
"These precious illusions in my head did not let me down when I was defenseless, and parting with them is like parting with invisible best
friends." ~Alanis Morissette
At the start of their relationship, Linda did not know any
of this. Clyde muscled his
pessimism into submission long enough to disarm Linda's sensibilities so that
she gave undue significance to what he presented as his Attributes. Namely, he could cook two kinds of
chicken on the grill (Linda LOVED chicken!), was a "pretty good" kisser (Linda
LOVED kissing!), and he could accurately guess the time of day, within 15
minutes (Linda LOVED a guy who was on time, give or take 15 minutes!).
One day Linda came to her senses. On their first weekend
away together, the now exasperating Clyde (for he no longer concealed his
pessimism from Linda) found much lacking in the Holiday Inn they checked
into. His petty complaints about
the location of their room, the quality of the toiletries, and the packaged
pastries offered for breakfast, were just warm ups for the grand event on their final morning, which involved Clyde slipping in the tub. As he fell, Clyde grabbed the brittle plastic
shower curtain, which popped off it's hooks sounding for all the world like
Clyde had completely lost his mind and fired off a BB gun in the bathroom. Linda rushed in and was forced to
witness Clyde's gray naked body flop about in the tub as he struggled for
traction. When they checked out,
Clyde made a huge stink with the adolescent assistant to the assistant manager
who, because he was not authorized to promptly refund the entire hotel
bill, became the recipient of a tongue lashing that caused the teen to reach
for the mace stuffed into the front packet of his back pack while he
simultaneously dialed 911.
Hours later, after Clyde had been arrested for assault of a
minor, Linda called a taxi and paid $168.00 to be taken to her sister's house, three hours away. She
never saw Clyde again. But truth
be told, she actually wondered, revealing her own brand of pessimism, if Clyde
was all she could expect in a world that had so far, let her down in the
romance and relationship department.
Many Wisdom Seekers have been here: in a romantic
relationship with the awareness of the awful knowledge that this is a Big Mistake. Yet, like
watching a speeding car in the rear view mirror, knowing full
well that the inattentive driver cannot stop in time to avoid a crash, there appears to be
nowhere else to go.
When it comes to relationships, not only do we need wisdom when
we choose a mate, but we also need wisdom to avoid people who are absolutely not
right for us. It is confusing
because people are not always who they seem to be in the beginning. As Linda said about Clyde, "I just
dodged a bullet."
What does wisdom tell us about walking away from ill matched
romantic partners? While no
stranger to heartbreak, Lisa Foley is better known for her incredible
resilience when she realized the person she married was not the person he
seemed to be. When her then
husband walked out on her and their small son, leaving only a note behind on
the fireplace mantel, Lisa's illusions evaporated. At first, she felt vulnerable and suspicious; she sure did
not want to fall for someone like that again. In time, she learned to ignore the voice of fear that
suggested she might never find a decent partner. She began aligning her life with what she valued, certain
that if she followed her truest path, it would lead her to the best of what life
had in store for her. She said,
"The smallest choices set the framework for our bigger choices, and all our
choices fashion our total affect on the world around us."
When it comes to relationships, we find wisdom when we don't
settle on a small scale, for what on a large scale, could undermine our
happiness. The best thing about
this advice? You can start now,
with, as Lisa says, the smallest of choices. They do add up, they will create the love you have always
known is yours.
Tell me your story of
"dodging a bullet" in love. What
happened for you? And what did you
do next?
Write to me at elle@WisdomOut.com.
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Wisdom Quote
"I had the sense to recognize that I don't know how to let you go."
--Sarah McLachlan
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Refer a wise couple to the "Wise For Love" Project
The mission of the
"Wise in Love" series is to illuminate the nature of love and
relationships through the lens of
wisdom.
I welcome your referrals of
wise couples (please don't nominate yourself as my research depends on
referrals)-those plucky partners who are navigating life together quite
well
and who have an impact on others. These wise couples can be married or unmarried, gay or straight. Remember, wisdom is not always
associated with age or how long a couple has been together (some people
have
been together for a miserable long time). Please email me at elle@wisdomout.com
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