Spring is fully here, beautiful days, trees budding and once again our horizons and vistas open up. So many possibilities are hidden in spring and summer, travel, new friends, new relationships, and more time to discover ourselves.

What is it that keeps our possibilities from us? What prevents us from greeting our lives with open arms? Often it is the effect of fear working on us stirred by old memories, situations and long, lost dreams. This newsletter will begin to focus upon ways of dissolving fear, ridding ourselves of limitations and becoming all we are meant to.

Combining Eastern and Western teachings and practices, the ezine will offer psychological, spiritual and practical guidance on taking timeless truths and wisdom and applying them in our everyday lives.

It has been said that there are only two emotions: love and fear. For some of us, oddly, love is frightening, while fear feels safe. We think fear will warn us of danger and keep us alert. We are taught it can be dangerous to be trusting; that love can make us weak. We begin to distrust our partners, our feelings and ourselves. This is the work of fear, creating confusion and lies.. It is fear that cannot be trusted; fear is a liar that undermines our basic sense of confidence, clarity and good will. It makes us prey to those who wish to control or attack us in various ways.

Self-hatred, one of the main psychological illnesses in this country, is fuelled by fear. Paranoia, an extreme form of fear, infects every aspect of our being, undermines the very core of our relationships. The original love of life, curiosity, playfulness and joy that we are born with is wiped away.

There is no place where fear manifests more directly than in relationships, where we naturally become vulnerable and afraid of rejection or loss. It is, therefore, of the utmost importance to learn and practice the principles of fearless relationships, to learn how to dissolve fear on the spot. As we do so, we naturally discover where to put our trust, and become strong and safe, no matter what life brings. In this process, we are creating fearless relationships, which teach us what it means to truly love.

One of the most common causes of fear in relationships is the fear of rejection, of not being good enough, or able to satisfy our partners or ourselves. When this fear becomes active, we twist and turn ourselves into a pretzel, become someone we aren't to get the love and acceptance we crave. However, this craving is a drug and the more we get, the more we want; and ultimately, the emptier we become. But it is only the false self that demands this, the self that is fuelled by fear. The truth is that you can never change enough or do enough to "make" someone love you. This is only the voice of fear speaking, turning the truth upside down.

No matter how much praise the ego receives, it never feels really approved of or loved. By its very nature, the ego is skiddish, fearful and ungrounded. It constantly craves more and feels threatened regularly. The ego cannot distinguish between what is useless and what is valuable. It eats too much, makes wrong choices and refuses to face reality. When two egos join together for a love relationship, sooner or later, they become shipwrecked, and wonder what went wrong. Although we spend much of our time and energy building the ego, we do not realize that who we are is intrinsically perfect, lovable and complete. If we turn to a relationship to validate or complete ourselves, we are bound to suffer.

No matter how many times Amy's boyfriend told her he loved her, she didn't believe it. She needed to hear it again and again. "Why do you love me?" she kept asking. Of course this became exhausting for her boyfriend, who, feeling drained, ultimately left. Why would we cling to our disturbing egos? Because we have no idea how magnificent we truly are.

There is another way to proceed. Use your relationship as a teacher to find out who you really are and discover the difference between real and counterfeit love. Learn the basic principles of fearless relationships, absorb these principles, live with them and practice them day by day.

Fearless Relationships: Principle 1 -

No one can ever give you more love and acceptance than you give yourself.

Relationships are a mirror you see yourself in, what you cannot accept in another, is something you cannot accept in yourself. When you live presenting a front to others, you are not really there. Then it's easy to become out of touch with your deepest truth and also impossible to hear what others are saying or know what they truly need.

This is article is based upon Fearless: The 7 Prnciples of Peace of of Mind, by Dr Shoshanna, www.becomefearless.org.

Fearless (The 7 Principles of Peace of Mind)

We are delighted to let you know Dr. Shoshanna's new book Fearless (The 7 Principles of Peace of Mind) is coming out this June. (Available for pre-ordering on amazon.com now).

The book explores the true nature of fear, how to dissolve it and reclaim your fundamental courage, creativity and wisdom.

Fear can wreak havoc in our lives, creating confusion, destroying confidence and making us prey to those who wish to control or attack us in various ways. Fear can be triggered by anything, from old memories, to present day loss of income or love - and even at times, by happiness and success. But the truth is, fear is a bully and when you face it head on, it becomes powerless and slinks away.

In this unusual journey you learn how to release fear and simultaneously allow the love that is hiding beneath it to surface. As you loosen the grip that fear holds over you, you can easily tap into your enormous inner resources and find creative solutions to all situations you are presented with.

More about the book later

Talks and Workshops are available for organizations, associations and in the community.

To find out more check at: http://www.becomefearless.org

Dr Shoshanna is available for counseling, talks and workshops of all kinds. Contact her at: topspeaker@yahoo.com.

Simple sitting meditation available on Monday nights, from 7-9 p.m.

Introductory meditation workshops available as well.

Fearless (The 7 Principles of Peace of Mind)

It becomes very safe to interact with people we know, have met or are generally familiar with, those who travel in circles we are comfortable with. But, how many wonderful experiences pass us by when we shut out all the many other individuals who are different from those we are accustomed to. We also shut out a wonderful opportunity to grow and find out more about ourselves. This month, once a week, reach out to someone you would not normally interact with. Say hello, spend time talking, lend a hand, invite them for a cup of coffee. Not only will your life open, but you will be amazed at how long you've lived with blinders on.

Living by Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life)

HOLD THE DATE -FEARLESS RELATIONSHIPS WORKSHOP at THE LEARNING ANNEX, New York, June 3rd

This workshop will show you how to create uplifting, lasting relationships and develop the courage to be who you are. You'll discover the truth about fear and how to easily release the fears that bind you. The program will explore new ways of coping with old, stuck spots in relationships and opening up to seeing the beauty and value of all you interact with, including yourself.

Register at www.learningannex.com. (Fearless Relationships). Link below.

Free One Hour Teleseminar on Fearless Relationships, June 19th 9 p.m. EST., more information to follow

BOOK SIGNING, East, West Bookstore, New York, Thursday, July 8th.

more information to follow

Register for Fearless Relationship Workshop at The Learning Annex

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with someone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship.

In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You'll see why it's impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm.

Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now?

To find out more and order a copy, go to the website, http:.//www.truthaboutlove.comJewish Dharma is the first guide to the authentic parctice of both Judaism and Zen. We see how each practice enriches, illuminates and challenges the other and how they provide keys to the personal struggles we face each day.

Each chapter deals with different life issues, such as loneliness, relationships, conflict, finding peace and understanding and ways of healing suffering. The book includes personal narraitive, parables, quotations, discussion and specific exercises so the reader can integrate the material into their lives.

A Jewish heart is warm, giving, devoted to family and friends; a Zen eye is fresh, direct, spontaneous and in the moment. These practices are like two wings of a bird; both are needed to be able to fly.

Why not give this as a holiday gift?

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)

This is a very personal decision and there are no right or wrong answers. It is often difficult for children to see their parents with someone else, particularly after a death. However, you are the one who is now alone. You do have to make a new life. Waiting longer and longer will not bring your husband back. Some might feel very happy for you as if you received a gift to have someone new in your life. You are not hurting anyone by finding happiness again. Quite the contrary. Explain to your children that you love them and loved their father and also want to move onwards in life and not be alone. It is wise not to make any decisions about serious matters until a year has passed, and you have had time to integrate all that has happened. But, as I see it, there's nothing at all wrong with having company and feeling good. All the best.

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

Author, You Are The Healer: Discover Your Miraculous Potential to Heal Yourself and Others

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I wish to highly recommend Gene Krackhel. Gene has testified success in working on people with cancer and breakthroughs in helping people deal with stress and release fear, grief and anxiety. His speciality is fixing broken hearts.

Formerly on the staff at Northern Westchester Hospital's Center for Health and Healing, Gene now devotes all his time to his own healing practice in Katonah, while collaborating with therapists, hospitals, MD's and other health care professionals.

His workshops are given in large corporations, organizations, colleges, holistic centers, etc. He has been featured on TV and radio talk shows and has released several CD's of his work.

Contact him directly at

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Gene Krackhel

Each chapter deals with different life issues, such as loneliness, relationships, conflict, finding peace and understanding and ways of healing suffering. The book includes personal narraitive, parables, quotations, discussion and specific exercises so the reader can integrate the material into their lives.

A Jewish heart is warm, giving, devoted to family and friends; a Zen eye is fresh, direct, spontaneous and in the moment. These practices are like two wings of a bird; both are needed to be able to fly.

Why not give this as a holiday gift?

GIVE A GIFT

Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including:

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet)

Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change

Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen) and how it can heal your life

Dr. Shoshanna's programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. topspeaker@yahoo.com

Or, perhaps you'd like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna's books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice.

Get a copy of Jewish Dharma today.

Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy, fit and to feel good about themselves. There is no end to available diets and workouts, but the most important diet has been overlooked.

This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being - anger.

In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you'll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you'll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting.

There's no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset.

The greatest obstacle we have to feeling good, healthy and loving is anger which accosts us in many ways and camouflages itself.

Melt Away Toxic Feelings On The Anger Diet

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you. Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again.

Living by Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life). www.livingbyzen.com

In this book you will discover the 2,000 Year Old Zen Secrets To Being Calm, Balanced and Positive, No Matter What Is Going On.

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e- book.

Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work.

Download the book now and enjoy.

Living By Zen