Spring is just around the corner and over the hill. In the midst of snow, chill and rainy days, trees are preparing to bloom and balmy days are breaking through. Our lives too, flow along with the seasons. Days of cold and difficulty and then, with patience, the balm of spring.

The biggest secret is to realize that all days are good, each season needed and beautiful in its own way.

This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn the simple laws of love, how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining Eastern and Western teachings and practices, it will also offer psychological, spiritual and practical wisdom on handling all kinds of

When we base our relationships upon these desires, often we get the opposite of what we long for. This is because the very root of our expectations are faulty, usually sprouting disappointment and pain. However, when we establish a relationship on a different basis, plant new roots, there is room for true connection and love to grow. Then we do not have to grasp onto our partners,, fearing change or fearing that the love will fade away.

Our relationships are established on a shaky basis when when our search for happiness, comfort, and value is directed towards the external world, in this case, our partner. It is shaky because, while we want everything to stay the same, the external world, including our partner, is constantly changing. That is its very nature. So, to search for stability in a world of changes can only lead to disappointment and sorrow.

Sometimes the search for someone out there to love yields someone exciting, but inevitably, both the person and the feelings we have for them change  they have to. We interpret this as failure. But there is no such thing as failure in real love.

When we judge a person and discard them because they have changed or do not meet a pre-conceived notion we have, we are short circuiting our own ability to find love. When we have the patience to allow for changes and allow time for who the person truly is to be revealed, we will find deeper contentment and ease. There also will be many surprises as we expand the circle of people who may enter our lives. This process requires patience. But without patience we have nothing. Developing patience is at the very heart of our ability to love. Be patient until the choppy waters have stilled and you can see what it is that remains in the midst of change, that which never goes away..

Love without patience is like soup without liquid - impossible to drink. It can even be said that patience is love itself. In the frantic, demanding world patience has been a shadow of the past. We do not allow time for relationship to develop. But patience is greatly needed for true security and love to bloom. It takes time for a person to feel at home in a relationship and reveal who they are. It takes patience to wait for another, to develop true caring and trust.

As we learn how to endure deprivation and hardships in relationships, warmth, clarity and flexibility arise. We grow to understand that without the willingness to wait and be patient, nothing real can happen. Life and love happen in a second, and yet it takes preparation to be ready to receive them.

Exercise

Look at a person who is close to you right now  anyone it happens to be. Notice the ways in which you push them away. Stop doing that for a moment. Become aware of what it is they are offering and what they are not. Allow the two of you to be together in whatever way you are. Just be with it all for a little while and let it be fine the way it is.

Do the same thing tomorrow with someone else. We discount so many people who are in our worlds, while imagining someone else will make us happy. Spend some time really being with those who are with you right now.

Sometimes we have the power to say Yes to life. Then peace enters us and makes us whole.

Emerson

This is article is based upon Fearless Relationships.

Why Men Leave

We are delighted to let you know that our workshop program Becoming Fearless is in motion.

This program is based upon Dr Shoshanna's new book, Fearless (The 7 Principles of Peace of Mind), Barnes&Noble/Sterling, coming out in June. (More about it coming up soon)

The book and workshops explore the true nature of fear, how to dissolve it and reclaim our fundamental courage, creativity and wisdom.

Fear can wreak havoc in our lives, creating confusion, destroying confidence and making us prey to those who wish to control or attack us in various ways. Fear can be triggered by anything, from old memories, to present day loss of income or love - and even at times, by happiness and success. But the truth is, fear is a bully and when you face it head on, it becomes powerless and slinks away.

In this unusual journey you learn how to release fear and simultaneously allow the love that is hiding beneath it to surface. As you loosen the grip that fear holds over you, you can easily tap into your enormous inner resources and find creative solutions to all situations you are presented with.

Monthly Workshops Available on Fearless Relationships

Next Workshop: April 18th. Manhattan

Talks and Workshops are available to be done in organizations, associations and in the community.

To find out more check at: http://www.becomefearless.org

Dr Shoshanna is available for counseling, talks and workshops of all kinds. Contact her at: topspeaker@yahoo.com.

Simple sitting meditation available on Monday nights, from 7-9 p.m.

Introductory meditation workshops available as well.

Learn More About Becoming Fearless

We never realize how much the little lies and exaggerations add up, affect our integrity, hurt us and others. Little by little they erode our ability to trust and respect ourselves.

A wonderful antidote to this is simple - make a point of telling the truth. This does not mean blaming another, or putting out all your negative feelings and thoughts. It means, check in, be kind and say what is true for you in all situations. Don't lead anyone on, including yourself. Don't promise more than you can deliver. Say what you mean and walk your talk. You have no idea the power and joy this will bring you.

Jewish Dharma (Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen)

--Deborah Durbin

Many books have been written about the query letter. But few have been written by literary agents, who receive thousands of queries each year and who grapple with them on a daily basis. Even fewer books have been written by literary agents who are currently active, who are willing to write from the trenches and offer their perspective on why they reject query letters, and why they accept them.

New York literary agent Noah Lukeman, President of Lukeman Literary Management Ltd, has represented multiple New York Times bestsellers, winners of the Pulitzer Prize and American Book Award, National Book Award Finalists, and has written three critically-acclaimed books on the craft of writing (The First Five Pages, The Plot Thickens, and A Dash of Style). During his last 13 years as a literary agent he has read thousands of query letters and now, for the first time, he offers his insights on the query letter, sharing an insider's perspective, giving insights and practical tips about what works and what doesn't.

HOW TO WRITE A GREAT QUERY LETTER: INSIDER TIPS AND TECHNIQUES FOR SUCCESS is a must-read for any writer serious about being published. Designed for writers of fiction and non- fiction, for screenwriters and poets, it speaks to a broad range of authors, offering principles that will help lead to success no matter what your craft. Practical, engaging, filled with exercises, anecdotes and sidebars, this 80 page e-book takes you on a journey, will transform your query letter from a document that could be rejected to a document that will make agents take you seriously.

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As of May, 2007, Mr. Lukeman has made his e-book HOW TO WRITE A GREAT QUERY LETTER free, as a way to give back to the writing community. .

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Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with someone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship.

In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You'll see why it's impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm.

Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now?

To find out more and order a copy, go to the website, http:.//www.truthaboutlove.comJewish Dharma is the first guide to the authentic parctice of both Judaism and Zen. We see how each practice enriches, illuminates and challenges the other and how they provide keys to the personal struggles we face each day.

Each chapter deals with different life issues, such as loneliness, relationships, conflict, finding peace and understanding and ways of healing suffering. The book includes personal narraitive, parables, quotations, discussion and specific exercises so the reader can integrate the material into their lives.

A Jewish heart is warm, giving, devoted to family and friends; a Zen eye is fresh, direct, spontaneous and in the moment. These practices are like two wings of a bird; both are needed to be able to fly.

Why not give this as a holiday gift?

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)

It truly can be devastating to discover not only infidelity but that we have been lied to by someone we trust. If at all possible, it's important to find out what really happened and why. It's easy to build many scenarios in our minds and certainly to blame ourselves. Find out the facts. Allow him to speak to you..listen to what he says. As you do, you will realize that his behavior says more about him than about you. It is not a reflection of you, but an expression of something inside of him.

At a time like this it is helpful to consult with a professional, if possible. It is also helpful to focus on building up your own life and surrounding yourself with positive people, friends and activities that are meaningful to you.

Most important of all is to re-gain trust in yourself, your judgment and who you are. The more you understand and work through your feelings, the more you will grow and gain a larger perspective on all of life.

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

Author, You Are The Healer: Discover Your Miraculous Potential to Heal Yourself and Others

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I wish to highly recommend Gene Krackhel. Gene has testified success in working on people with cancer and breakthroughs in helping people deal with stress and release fear, grief and anxiety. His speciality is fixing broken hearts.

Formerly on the staff at Northern Westchester Hospital's Center for Health and Healing, Gene now devotes all his time to his own healing practice in Katonah, while collaborating with therapists, hospitals, MD's and other health care professionals.

His workshops are given in large corporations, organizations, colleges, holistic centers, etc. He has been featured on TV and radio talk shows and has released several CD's of his work.

Contact him directly at

Gene@amazinghealer.com

Gene Krackhel

Each chapter deals with different life issues, such as loneliness, relationships, conflict, finding peace and understanding and ways of healing suffering. The book includes personal narraitive, parables, quotations, discussion and specific exercises so the reader can integrate the material into their lives.

A Jewish heart is warm, giving, devoted to family and friends; a Zen eye is fresh, direct, spontaneous and in the moment. These practices are like two wings of a bird; both are needed to be able to fly.

Why not give this as a holiday gift?

GIVE A GIFT

Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including:

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet)

Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change

Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen) and how it can heal your life

Dr. Shoshanna's programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. topspeaker@yahoo.com

Or, perhaps you'd like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna's books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice.

Get a copy of Jewish Dharma today.

Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy, fit and to feel good about themselves. There is no end to available diets and workouts, but the most important diet has been overlooked.

This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being - anger.

In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you'll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you'll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting.

There's no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset.

The greatest obstacle we have to feeling good, healthy and loving is anger which accosts us in many ways and camouflages itself.

Melt Away Toxic Feelings On The Anger Diet

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you. Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again.

Living by Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life). www.livingbyzen.com

In this book you will discover the 2,000 Year Old Zen Secrets To Being Calm, Balanced and Positive, No Matter What Is Going On.

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e- book.

Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work.

Download the book now and enjoy.

Living By Zen