Here we are in the midst of autumn, days growing short, trees turning colors and sky hazy grey. A wonderful time to prepare for the holiday season up ahead...a wonderful time to pause and take stock of what is really important to us, what we wish to share with others and how we can warm up the cold winter months ahead.

This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn the simple laws of love, how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining Eastern and Western teachings and practices, it will also offer psychological, spiritual and practical wisdom on handling all kinds of

This is what happens when we choose to stop living in upset and reactivity, constantly struggling to prove that we are right and others are wrong. Rather than blame, explain or seek justifications, we begin to accept who we are, who the other one is, what we are feeling, and what has taken place. Accepting does not mean we have to continue to go along in the same manner, it means we stop our struggle against events and just experience what truly is. As this takes place, the difficult situation we are in provide all kinds of surprising insights. We receive a way of seeing things differently and of responding differently as well.

Give Up Unnecessary Pressure

To begin: Take a deep breath. Put down fantasies, hopes, expectations for a moment. Take in all that is going on. Don't judge it, hate it, push it away. Be with everything, just as it is, including yourself. Now take the next breath. Then another one. Each one is different. Each moment is different, rising freshly. When you can live in a truly new moment, new solutions become automatically available to you

Most of the time we create all kinds of goals and drive ourselves crazy to reach them. We measure our progress, compare ourselves to others, judge ourselves relentlessly. This only ties us up in additional knots, making the situation more hopeless. But as we stop pushing and blaming ourselves and others, we decrease stress, increase balance, insight and well being. All kinds of unexpected solutions and clarifications become available naturally.

It takes two individuals to keep a dance going. If you are in a dance with another that is painful for you, rather than hate and blame your partner, just start doing different steps.

This is article is based upon The Anger Diet (30 Days To Stress Free Living), McMeel, www.theangerdiet.com

The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living)

Each chapter deals with different life issues, such as loneliness, relationships, conflict, finding peace and understanding and ways of healing suffering. The book includes personal narraitive, parables, quotations, discussion and specific exercises so the reader can integrate the material into their lives.

A Jewish heart is warm, giving, devoted to family and friends; a Zen eye is fresh, direct, spontaneous and in the moment. These practices are like two wings of a bird; both are needed to be able to fly.

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A wonderful preparation for the holiday season is to decide to let go of old hurts and resentments and make friends with everyone. Take some time to reach out this month. Make a list of those you've forgotten or haven't contacted for awhile. Make another list of those you may still feel some hurt or upset with. Take time each day to reach out to each one on the list. Make an offer of friendship to them, a call, a card, an invitation for a cup of coffee. This is a beautiful way to go into the holiday season, offering and receiving warmth and support.

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--Deborah Durbin

Many books have been written about the query letter. But few have been written by literary agents, who receive thousands of queries each year and who grapple with them on a daily basis. Even fewer books have been written by literary agents who are currently active, who are willing to write from the trenches and offer their perspective on why they reject query letters, and why they accept them.

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Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on various topics including:

Becoming Fearless (Re- Claiming Your Original Safety, Strength and Resilience)

Relationships as Spiritual Practice (A New Look at Love)

Discovering Authentic Peace of Mind.

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Change is constant and also difficult to deal with. Very often when friends marry, they find other couples to spend time with, and sadly, often leave out their single friends. Rather than focus on getting them to include you, why not focus upon making new friends who share similar interests. Find activities that are meaningful to you, and get involved in them. You will meet others who care for them same things, and be able to build up a network of other singles to spend time with. It's so important to be flexible and, over and over, learn the great art of starting fresh.

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I wish to highly recommend Gene Krackhel. Gene has testified success in working on people with cancer and breakthroughs in helping people deal with stress and release fear, grief and anxiety. His speciality is fixing broken hearts.

Formerly on the staff at Northern Westchester Hospital's Center for Health and Healing, Gene now devotes all his time to his own healing practice in Katonah, while collaborating with therapists, hospitals, MD's and other health care professionals.

His workshops are given in large corporations, organizations, colleges, holistic centers, etc. He has been featured on TV and radio talk shows and has released several CD's of his work.

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Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with someone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship.

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Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including:

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet)

Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change

Jewish Dharma (A Guide to the Practice of Judaism and Zen) and how it can heal your life

Dr. Shoshanna's programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. topspeaker@yahoo.com

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Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy, fit and to feel good about themselves. There is no end to available diets and workouts, but the most important diet has been overlooked.

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In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you'll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you'll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting.

There's no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset.

The greatest obstacle we have to feeling good, healthy and loving is anger which accosts us in many ways and camouflages itself.

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In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you. Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

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In this book you will discover the 2,000 Year Old Zen Secrets To Being Calm, Balanced and Positive, No Matter What Is Going On.

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