Greetings!

As summer approaches we begin to unwind, plan holiday time and and have new opportunities to be with those we care for. For many this is a time of adventure or the hope of romance and new love. As the days become longer, filled with sun and the evenings balmy, it is a perfect time to step out of our usual routines. Why not let this summer become a time of personal discovery, exploration, opening and deep nourishment.

This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn the simple laws of love and how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining Eastern and Western wisdom, we discover easy, enjoyable steps to take which help make our relationships all we want them to be and allow us to live life to the brim.

Authentic peace of mind, however, is unshakeable. No matter what changes appear in our world, we are able to welcome them. Authentic peace of mind is not based upon a series of ideas or beliefs, but is the very heart of who we truly are. When we live from this basis, not only our life but the lives of those around us unfold in all new wonderful ways.

The practices and principles of developing authentic peace of mind need to be experienced in your every day life. They exist as a path for you to walk on. As you do so, you will discover where your true happiness and well-being lay. A few steps are described below. Try them out, taste them and see what happens next.

Principles of Authentic Peace of Mind

A) "To straighten someone, do a harder thing, - first straighten yourself. "

The Buddha

When in contact with others, never attempt to change, improve or help them. Look at each person who comes as your teacher, as a gift you are receiving, which allows you to see another aspect of yourself. Rather than viewing a person as an object, see the ways in which you are similar, find the ways in which you can serve them.

Those who practice authentic peace of mind, do not assume the role of authority. Rather than become judge, jury, teacher or wise one, they relate naturally and join the other the person in their experience. By listening deeply not only do they honor the other, but simultaneously, let go of false ego and constrictedness.

"Who is wise? He who learns from others." Pier Ke Avot

B) Judge Everyone Favorably

Individuals absorb the ways in which we perceive them. When we feel hopeless about them, they feel it and tend to respond hopelessly. If, instead, we see their strength and beauty, not only they, but we too, are lifted into another vibration - of hope and strength.

What we pay attention to increases. The more we focus upon what is powerful and healthy in others, the more we will not only bring that out in them, but experience it in our own lives as well.

The practice of authentic peace of mind teaches us that when we see negativity in others, we must step back and realize this negativity is within ourselves. We do not project it onto them. No matter how great their disarray, each person contains great possibility. If we cannot see this, it is our problem, not theirs.

C) Forget About Dominating Anybody

"He was powerful, not because he dominated the scene, but because he was true."

Buddha

It's easy to get trapped into the power game and unwittingly dominate others. Not only does this take true power from us, it destroys our ability to live with balance and peace. We do not have anyone's answers. By allowing others to give us their power, we are taking away their responsibility for their own lives and weakening them. This is a very great trap. Don't fall in it. Instead, take the many opportunities life provides to strip away lies, illusions and masks. As we become more humble and simple we then become fitting vessels for true peace of mind to enter our lives and be extended to others.

(This article is based upon Save Your Relationship (21 Laws of Successful Relationships) www.truthaboutlove.com

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)

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The June ACRGNY (Association for Conflict Resolution - Greater NY) Roundtable Breakfast, scheduled for the first Thursday of the month, June 5th, from 8:00 AM to 9:30 AM, will feature author, mediator and psychologist, Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, speaking about her book, The Anger Diet.

The breakfast will take place at John Jay College of Criminal Justice, 899 Tenth Avenue, Room 610. There is no charge for the breakfast, but please respond by return email to let us know you are coming!

Anger is a lethal force in relationships, frequently sabotaging positive outcomes in unexpected ways. Sometimes it erupts openly, other times it camouflages itself and covertly undermines morale, communication and behavior. Dr. Shoshanna will explore the nature of anger and offer useful steps for mediators to employ in defusing anger on the spot. She'll talk about the difference between responsible communication and outright attack; handling opposition; the lies anger tells us, and she'll share some of her own learned techniques for dealing not only with the anger of others, but our own anger!

Dr. Shoshanna is a psychologist, mediator, author and speaker who works with individuals and groups to build relationships based on respect, dialogue and understanding.

GIVE A GIFT

Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including:

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet)

Everyone Wins Mediation: "How To Get from Me to We

Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change

Relationships as Spiritual Practice

The Secret World of Mitzvot (What They Are and What They Do)

Making Peace: Forgiveness and Reconciliation

Dr. Shoshanna's programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. topspeaker@yahoo.com

Or, perhaps you'd like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna's books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice.

Everyone Wins Mediation

If something bothers you in your friendship, communicate it to your friend simply, honestly and kindly. Don't let resentment build.

The biggest gift you can give another is honest communication. This does not mean dumping on the other person, but carefully explaining how you are feeling and not allow resentment to build.

Responsible communication is a wonderful way of thanking a person and telling them how much he or she means to you.To communicate responsibly, do not blame the other person for your feelings or what you think has gone wrong. Simply say, "This is how I am feeling right now. This is what I want and need." Take responsibility for what is going on inside of you. Make clear statements and requests.

Resentment is poison. It corrodes everything it touches. No relationship can thrive when resentment is allowed to build.

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

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Of course no one can tell you whether or not you should or shouldn't go through with the wedding, and it is common to get "cold feet" when the time approaches, but it is also very important to sit down and really be honest with yourself. What is it about him that is so disturbing? Have you ever discussed it with him? Have you been together for so long and even engaged without feeling this way before? Are there issues that need to be worked out?

Marriage is a huge step and before you take it, it is extremely important to feel as if you are making the right choice. I suggest you see a therapist or counselor as soon as possible and work intensively on what is going on. This is too important a matter to make light of either one way or the other.

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you. Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again.

Living by Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life). www.livingbyzen.com

In this book you will discover the 2,000 Year Old Zen Secrets To Being Calm, Balanced and Positive, No Matter What Is Going On.

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e- book.

Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work.

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Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with someone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship.

In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You'll see why it's impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm.

Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now?

To find out more and order a copy, go to the website, http:.//www.truthaboutlove.com

GIVE A GIFT

Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community. She speaks on many topics including:

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

From Anger to Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet)

Everyone Wins Mediation: "How To Get from I to We

Journey Through Illness , Loss and Change

- Dr. Shoshanna's programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. topspeaker@yahoo.com

Or, perhaps you'd like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna's books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice.

Get a copy of Save Your Relationship today.

Everyone wants to be beautiful, young, healthy, fit and to feel good about themselves. There is no end to available diets and workouts, but the most important diet has been overlooked.

This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being - anger.

In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you'll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you'll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting.

There's no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset.

The greatest obstacle we have to feeling good, healthy and loving is anger which accosts us in many ways and camouflages itself. Here are some quick Anger Busters, which can help us dissolve this toxic energy on the spot. They are based upon Dr Shoshanna's book, The Anger Diet, (30 Days To Stress Free Living).

Anger Busters For Everyday Life

Speak kindly to someone who's angry with you.

If someone has a complaint against you, really stop and listen.

Find 3 things you really like and respect about your opponent.

Give someone you are upset with the benefit of the doubt.

) Stop trying to control the person you are angry with. Let them be who they are.

If you are right in a dispute, give up being right (for that moment, or day). Let the other person keep his/her pride.

If two people you know are in a fight, speak well of each one of them to the other.

Put the other person ahead of yourself. (You do not to always be "first")

Do a forgiveness workout:

Make a point of forgiving at least one person you haven't yet forgiven everyday.

Ask yourself, "How much suffering is enough?" Am I willing to feel good today?

Remember:We Are Not Hurt By What People Say and Do. (It's our reactions that hurt us)

Anger Tells Us Lies

Anger Can Become An Addiction

We Can Choose Our Responses

The Best Way to Defend Yourself Against Anger Is To Feel Good About Yourself

Think About What You Can Give, Not Get

What We See In Others, We Bring Out In Them

You Cannot Be Insulted, If You Do Not Take It As An Insult

Being Healthy and Loving is More Important Than Being Right

When We Identify Ourselves As Victims, We Attract Victimizers

When We Expect Something, We Draw It To Ourselves

We Can Change The Whole Course of Our Lives By Changing Our Attitude Towards It

"May all beings have happiness and the courses of happiness"

Melt Away Toxic Feelings On The Anger Diet