Greetings!

As autumn deepens, leaves burst into color, the cool winds blow and the days grow shorter. Along with great beauty and freshness, comes the reminder that time is precious and slips quickly by. How important it is to both savor the wonder and still be mindful to live each moment fully, fully present to that which each days holds.

This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn he simple laws of love and how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining Eastern and Western wisdom, we discover easy, enjoyable steps to take which help make our relationships all we want them to be and allow us to live life to the brim.

This new road is not a series of ideas, beliefs or practices, but the very heart of who we are. When we live from this basis, certain changes take place. We no longer proclaim one thing and live another. We do not use spiritual tenets or practices for denying our deepest reality and truths. We face on another honestly, and do not use the other as an object to fulfill our own personal needs.

This road has many steps and winding pathways. To begin, a few steps are described below:

A) "To straighten someone, do a harder thing, - straighten yourself. "

The Buddha

When in contact with others, do not attempt to change or improve them. Look at each person who comes as your teacher, a gift you are receiving, which allows you to see another aspect of yourself. Rather than viewing the person as an object, find the place where the two of you are fundamentally one.

As we walk on this simple road, we do not assume the role of authority. Rather than become judge, jury, teacher or wise one, we relate simply as ourselves and simply join the other in their experience. By being with the person in this manner, not only do we give honor to the other, but are honoring this person as part of ourselves..

"Who is wise? He who learns from others." Pier Ke Avot

B) Judge Everyone Favorably" - Pier Ke Avot

Individuals absorb the way we perceive them. When we feel hopeless about them, they feel it and tend to respond hopelessly. If, instead, we see their strength and beauty, not only they, but we too, are lifted into another vibration - of hope and strength.

What we pay attention to increases. The more we focus upon what is powerful and healthy in others, the more we will not only bring good faith into relationships, but experience that in our own lives as well.

This road teaches us that when we see negativity in others, we must step back and realize this negativity is within ourselves. We do not project it onto them. No matter how great their disarray, each person contains great possibility. If we cannot see this, it is our problem, not theirs.

C)Be Entirely Honest With Yourself And Everybody

"He was powerful, not because he dominated the scene, but because he was true."

Buddha

It's easy to get trapped into the power game and unwittingly dominate others. Not only does this take true power from us, it destroys our own ability to live simply, with wisdom Without humility there is no real possibility of finding that which truly guides our lives. We start by realizing that we do not have anyone's answers or life direction. By allowing others to give us their power, we are taking away their responsibility for their own lives and weakening them. This is a very great trap.

D) Train In Your Own Authenticity

As we train in our own authenticity, a true sense of value and meaning appears in our lives. We are humbled many times, and in this process, realize where our own wisdom and strength are coming from. Day by day we are given many opportunities to strip away the lies, ego, illusions, masks, and the feeling we have the absolute truth. As we become more humble and simple we then become fitting vessels for true strength and love to enter our lives.

The practice of walking on this simple road is the practice of become fully present, totally available to ourselves and others, being with life one hundred per cent. Each encounter becomes an opportunity to practice, to lift others and be lifted as well. As we have deep faith in others, others will have deep faith in themselves and our own faith in life will develop as well. Our steps will become sturdy, wherever we walk, we will be well. This is a sacred trust which grows inevitably as we walk the simple road.

This article is based upon the principles of our new Center - Peaceful Harbor(Center for Discovering and Developing Peace of Mind). You can learn more about them in Living by Zen, (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life.

Living By Zen (Timeless Truths for Everyday Life)

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Once the decision has been made to end a marriage, there are many steps that can be taken which can ease the pain of separation and loss, and help you realize that the relationship is not necessarily ended, but changing its form. If there are children involved, you will certainly be in contact with one another throughout the years, and it is possible to acquire the skills, good will and understanding which will permit you both to make this new phase of your relationship constructive for all concerned. In this process it is crucial to learn how to alter your focus, to see what has worked in the relationship, to join together on your common need to be good parents and care for the children in the best way possible. Once you have re- defined the relationship, and found ways to respect and support each other in this new phase, it will be easier to move forward with good will in your own personal lives.

Practice the 21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

Most people only listen to others with about one third of their attention. Many are busy thinking of what they will say in response, and after hearing only a portion of what the other is saying, quickly interrupt.

Make a point of not interrupting when someone is speaking to you, even if you have something burning to say. Instead wait fully until they are finished and take a moment, to share with them what you heard them say. This way they will feel fully listened to. Once this takes place, your own, personal response, which has had time to he seasoned, make very well change.

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

Anger Busters For Everyday Life

Speak kindly to someone who's angry with you.

If someone has a complaint against you, really stop and listen.

Find 3 things you really like and respect about your opponent.

Give someone you are upset with the benefit of the doubt.

) Stop trying to control the person you are angry with. Let them be who they are.

If you are right in a dispute, give up being right (for that moment, or day). Let the other person keep his/her pride.

If two people you know are in a fight, speak well of each one of them to the other.

Put the other person ahead of yourself. (You do not to always be "first")

Do a forgiveness workout:

Make a point of forgiving at least one person you haven't yet forgiven everyday.

Ask yourself, "How much suffering is enough?" Am I willing to feel good today?

Remember:We Are Not Hurt By What People Say and Do. (It's our reactions that hurt us)

Anger Tells Us Lies

Anger Can Become An Addiction

We Can Choose Our Responses

The Best Way to Defend Yourself Against Anger Is To Feel Good About Yourself

Think About What You Can Give, Not Get

What We See In Others, We Bring Out In Them

You Cannot Be Insulted, If You Do Not Take It As An Insult

Being Healthy and Loving is More Important Than Being Right

When We Identify Ourselves As Victims, We Attract Victimizers

When We Expect Something, We Draw It To Ourselves

We Can Change The Whole Course of Our Lives By Changing Our Attitude Towards It

"May all beings have happiness and the courses of happiness"

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