Greetings!

Here we are in the midst of summer with sun, heat, trees, ocean, valleys, with time to go about and meet old and new friends. This is a time for letting go, being together, sharing warmth and companionship. It is also a time for opening ourselves to new possibilities. As we renew ourselves in the summer, let us also take time to be aware of and available to others who may needful of a touch, greeting, or kind deed.

This newsletter is dedicated to learning the simple laws of love and how to practice them in all your relationships. Combining eastern and western wisdom, we offer easy, enjoyable steps to take which help make your relationships all you want them to be, and allow you to live life to the brim.

Zen offers many pathways to becoming free of negativity. Some of them are offered below:

Open The Treasure House Within

In Zen students are told: "Open the treasure house within." This is a reminder that we are all are endowed with many hidden resources. In order to access our innate abilities, we must stop looking everywhere else and forget about depending upon others. Instead, we are told to spend time each day taking responsibility for what's going on within. As we do this, we are beginning to open the treasure house within.

Pay Attention

We are what we think about. When we stay fixated on one person, thought or situation, it is easy to become caught in the grip of self centered, obsessive thoughts. The more we pay attention to that which is negative or upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives. This can be counteracted easily.

Take control of your attention and what you're focusing upon. Spend time each day developing concentration. This is also called meditation (or zazen). Sit with a straight back, do not move, follow your natural breath. Let random thoughts come and go. Do not suppress them, but do not let them grab your attention away.

At first you may be besieged by many surprising thoughts and feelings, but if you simply notice them and then return your attention to your breathing, these will soon die down. Count your breath from one to ten, then all over again. Do this for at least ten to fifteen minutes without moving. By not moving we are stopping what is called the monkey mind.

Stop The Monkey Mind

The monkey mind is the mind that jumps from one thing to the next, fears, demands, criticizes and sabotages our lives. It is the part of ourselves, which causes sorrow and fear. By taking charge of our focus, by not paying attention to or responding to the many negativities the monkey mind throws our way, we become balanced and calm. As we do this regularly, we are no longer carried away by passing feelings and thoughts. Instead, we discover a peaceful place in the storm to which we can always return for comfort and strength.

Focus on Strengths not Weaknesses

As we focus upon our strengths, not our weaknesses, little by little, fear, anger and depression fade. Rather than struggle with problems, we learn to become available to solutions. This is accomplished by working with focus. The question we always keep before us is: What am I focusing on this moment? Am I dwelling on problems or open to solutions and new ideas? Am I aware of where I am right at this moment, or lost somewhere in a dream? Am I grateful for what I have, or dwelling upon the wrongs I think others have done me?

Life continually renews and confronts us with new tasks, challenges, opportunities and solutions, day after day. Are we in touch with this ever-flowing reality? Are we focusing on the gifts we are always receiving, and ways we can give back to others as well? By choosing to take charge of our focus we dissolve the primary cause of our suffering - a monkey mind that has run wild.

Take Constructive Action

Once we take charge of our focus, we place it upon what we are receiving, what we have to be grateful for. Then it is easy to take the next step and naturally become aware of what others need from us, what we have to offer, how we can give back. Then we do it. We take action. We do not hesitate. We focus upon simple, daily actions, which are constructive for ourselves and others. We spend some time each day doing "deeds of service", finding ways we can give to others, make their days easier and happier. As we focus upon giving and encouraging others, a strange thing happens - our personal anxiety vanishes, and we, ourselves, become filled with joy. Before long, we become filled with something even more important than joy - self respect.

A primary source of stress and anxiety is low self esteem; feeling badly about ourselves. The most powerful way to get rid of this is to have a healthy dose of self respect. When we fill our lives with constructive actions, self worth develops naturally. It does not come about through artificially boosting self esteem, but as a result of living a life worthy of respect. In this manner we grow able to handle any situation life presents us with. When we are able to do that, not only do we calm down easily, but enjoy all aspects of our days. We feel like life is a gift we are receiving; and we become a gift to life as well.

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Many have given up on relationships, feeling it's enough to just get along. They have come to believe that disappointment and loneliness are natural as time goes by. Nothing can be further from the truth. The ways in which we retreat and withhold from one another can be undone . We can learn to live with trust and authenticity; to be open and strong at the same time.

Although we are experts in many areas, few have had the chance to learn the art of building relationships that can withstand any storm. We would never consider erecting a building without first consulting an architect and making sure the foundation was strong. If we did so, it would only be a short time before the building came toppling down. Yet, so many enter relationships and soar to the highest point, without first creating a solid basis for the relationship to stand upon.

The Secrets of Bringing Heaven to Earth in our Relationships is based upon a unique foundation. This program views relationships as spiritual practice; and regards our partners as our spiritual teachers and guides.

"It is said that when an individual marries, it is not that she is at the peak of love. Instead the person she is marrying has come to teach her what it really means to love." "

The Secrets of Bringing Heaven to Earth explores the true purpose of relationships, how to achieve not only personal growth and happiness, but to learn to care for others in a way that brings deep fulfillment and wisdom to all.

This program is based upon psychological , philosophical and spiritual wisdom, and is available as counseling, coaching, talks, workshops and seminars. It can be customized for your particular needs.Contact Dr. Shoshanna for more information or to create a workshop in your area. topspeaker@yahoo.com

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Your husband is in the throws of an infatuation, a relationship based upon dreams and fantasies of the past. In this situation he feels young again, as if he were back in high school, and free. It doesn't mean that he "loves" her more than he does you, it might simply mean that he longs for a time when he was free of responsibility, and could just date.

The most important part is not to take this personally, as though it reflects upon you, feeling that you are unlovable or don't measure up to her. Unless there have been real problems in your relationship that haven't been handled, what's going on now, has to do with your husband's unresolved feelings about his life. It would be most helpful if you could get him to go to counseling with you, to have an opportunity to talk it all over with the aid of a professional person.

Your husband may need to learn the difference between infatuation or love, or he may have to deal with issues going on within. If he is unwilling to do this, I suggest you do it yourself. There is a balance between being understanding and giving him space, and being disrespected. You have to be clear about what you can and cannot live with in a relationship. If this situation goes on for too long it can be destructive for your sense of self worth. Boundaries are needed. Both of you have to be clear on what is and is not acceptable in a marriage. and where the two of you are headed.

Most importantly, remember that there is a great deal for both of you to learn from this situation. View it as a way to grow and a way to love yourself more. Don't get involved in self blame or blame of him.

Best wishes,

Practice the 21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

If something displeases you, like a comment your mother in law made, a disappointment in a relationship, a rejection on a project, or bad weather on an important day, rather than dwell upon it, just let it go. Walk away and put it to the side. Engage in a new activity and turn your attention to something else.

Not only will your displeasure vanish and your mood improve, but whatever it was that displeased you will look different later on. And, most importantly, you will not have spoiled your day or the day of others.

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

A regular guest on radio and TV, Dr. Shoshanna has presented over 500 workshops and talks on all aspects of relationships, on uncovering and fulfilling your potential, and caring for those in need. She has spoken, taught and presented at universities, associations, hospitals, religious institutions and in the community at large.

Give a session with Dr. Shoshanna in person or on the phone, or invite Dr. Shoshanna to talk or offer a workshop in your community.

Some Topics She Speaks On Include:

The Secrets of Bringing Heaven to Earth In Your Relationships

The Anger Diet, (30 Days To Stress Free Living)

How To Become Your Own Best Friend (The Art of Building Real Self Worth)

Zen and the Art of Falling in Love

Living by Zen, (Zen and Everyday Life)

Journey Through Illness and Beyond, (Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Care During Illness and Change). Dr. Shoshanna's programs are available as talks, half day workshops, full day , or week-end workshops.Contact us for more information. topspeaker@yahoo.com.

Or, perhaps you'd like to give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna's books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories,guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice.

Dr. Shoshanna appears regularly on Hallmark TV, New Morning Show. For more information about the show go to: http://www.newmorningtv.tv

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After a relationship ends, whether it's a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn't have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don't really understand what happened, what caused the man to go.

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you.

Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

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Why Men Leave

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In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You'll see why it's impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm.

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Anger Busters For Everyday Life

Speak kindly to someone who's angry with you.

If someone has a complaint against you, really stop and listen.

Find 3 things you really like and respect about your opponent.

Give someone you are upset with the benefit of the doubt.

) Stop trying to control the person you are angry with. Let them be who they are.

If you are right in a dispute, give up being right (for that moment, or day). Let the other person keep his/her pride.

If two people you know are in a fight, speak well of each one of them to the other.

Put the other person ahead of yourself. (You do not to always be "first")

Do a forgiveness workout:

Make a point of forgiving at least one person you haven't yet forgiven everyday.

Ask yourself, "How much suffering is enough?" Am I willing to feel good today?

Remember:We Are Not Hurt By What People Say and Do. (It's our reactions that hurt us)

Anger Tells Us Lies

Anger Can Become An Addiction

We Can Choose Our Responses

The Best Way to Defend Yourself Against Anger Is To Feel Good About Yourself

Think About What You Can Give, Not Get

What We See In Others, We Bring Out In Them

You Cannot Be Insulted, If You Do Not Take It As An Insult

Being Healthy and Loving is More Important Than Being Right

When We Identify Ourselves As Victims, We Attract Victimizers

When We Expect Something, We Draw It To Ourselves

We Can Change The Whole Course of Our Lives By Changing Our Attitude Towards It

"May all beings have happiness and the courses of happiness"

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This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being - anger.

In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you'll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you'll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting.

There's no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset.

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