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The Fourth of July is upon, a time when we celebrate the birth and independence of our nation. This is also a time of fireworks, gatherings, celebrations of all kinds. Summer is now rolling and there are so many more opportunities to be with those we care about, relax, enjoy and meet others. This week-end can also be a time to celebrate both our own independence, and also committment to others. This is a good time to look at what he give in our relationships, and what we need as well. Have a wonderful, holiday week-end and make it one that is truly memorable.

This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn he simple laws of love and how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining eastern and western wisdom, we discover easy, enjoyable steps to take which help make our relationships all we want them to be and allow us to live life to the brim.

Our need for real contact with each other is so strong, that when it is not there, our partner can easily feel lonely, rejected or as though they don't matter much to us. We need the real contact as well - and yet most of us draw back and play games.

This kind of behavior goes on in the dating world as well. Instead of finding out who someone truly is, we meet a person and immediately label them. Instead of looking at them as person, they become an object, a stranger, or opponent in some way. We very quickly decide whether or not they are worth knowing, and so often, before we give a person a chance, throw them away. In this way we constantly separate ourselves from others and then wonder why we feel so alone. We need to build bridges between ourselves and others; stop our games, trust who we are, take a deep breath, realize that each person we meet contains a whole world of wonders. We must decide to allow true communication between to take place. So often we come away from each another filled with misunderstanding and confusion. Although we may not realize it, this is often simply a defense against being known.

Games We Play

In order to give and receive the greatest gift in our relationships, to become real, we cans start by looking closely at the roles we play-at the identities we so cherish. These roles, dreams and images are often exactly what get in our way. Roles can be hypnotic. We can fall in love with a role or fantasy and begin to believe it is whom we truly are. Or, more commonly, we can fall in love with the role someone else is playing, become hypnotized by it. When that happens, then we are not falling in love with the person, but with the fantasy they create for us. It can then come as quite a shock when the person drops his role and we are face to face with who they truly are. Many relationships get into real trouble at this point.

The biggest danger of being lost in a role is that we can lose touch with the reality of what's happening, both for ourselves and others. An incredible amount of misunderstanding and lack of communication comes about through this kind of game playing, through being glued to a particular fantasy or role. Unglue yourself a little.

There are other reasons as well that it may feel dangerous to let go of a role or image we present. For many of us the idea of being true has become confused with the idea of being selfish, not caring about the feelings of others. Oddly enough, just the opposite is so. When we are able to respond truthfully, real caring can begin to arise. On the other hand, when we act from our roles and games, we are implicitly demanding this kind of false response from others as well. This way of relating can be deadening; take our enthusiasm, fun and aliveness away.

Another way to let go of role playing is to experiment with some roles that are opposite to the ones you usually play. There is no better way of bridging gaps, acquiring understanding and relieving tension than by stepping into another's shoes. As we do this, our understanding of others increases and stereotyped reactions cannot help but melt away.

We constantly need to broaden our horizons and see our behavior in new ways. Sometimes the things we are most afraid of saying or doing are the things which will bring the greatest help and clarity. If we do not experiment, we can never be sure. If we do not expand and grow, we begin to atrophy. As we become real, respond from the truth of who we are, we begin to have a fresh sense of increased possibilities, flexibility and aliveness. This a sure fire way to bring the greatest gift both to others and to ourselves.

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Anger Busters For Everyday Life

Speak kindly to someone who's angry with you.

If someone has a complaint against you, really stop and listen.

Find 3 things you really like and respect about your opponent.

Give someone you are upset with the benefit of the doubt.

) Stop trying to control the person you are angry with. Let them be who they are.

If you are right in a dispute, give up being right (for that moment, or day). Let the other person keep his/her pride.

If two people you know are in a fight, speak well of each one of them to the other.

Put the other person ahead of yourself. (You do not to always be "first")

Do a forgiveness workout:

Make a point of forgiving at least one person you haven't yet forgiven everyday.

Ask yourself, "How much suffering is enough?" Am I willing to feel good today?

Remember:We Are Not Hurt By What People Say and Do. (It's our reactions that hurt us)

Anger Tells Us Lies

Anger Can Become An Addiction

We Can Choose Our Responses

The Best Way to Defend Yourself Against Anger Is To Feel Good About Yourself

Think About What You Can Give, Not Get

What We See In Others, We Bring Out In Them

You Cannot Be Insulted, If You Do Not Take It As An Insult

Being Healthy and Loving is More Important Than Being Right

When We Identify Ourselves As Victims, We Attract Victimizers

When We Expect Something, We Draw It To Ourselves

We Can Change The Whole Course of Our Lives By Changing Our Attitude Towards It

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Summer flings and romances are common. It's easier to meet people in the summer when everyone is out and milling around. People are also usually more open to relaxing and having fun. However, in the summer, as in any time of the year, it's important to keep your eyes open and see who it is you have actually met. What are they wanting? Is it only some summer fun? If you are looking for more than this, take the time before you fall into romance and fantasy to find out who the person really is and what they are looking for. Most will let you know. Most tell you quite early. It's only that we don't want to listen and believe what they say. All relationships have consequences. When we allow our feelings to become involved, if the other person isn't thinking the same way, disappointment is bound to follow. Take the time up front to put the dreams on the back burner and discover who you've actually met.

Practice the 21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships

It's very easy to be critical and find something wrong with everyone we meet. This can simply be a distorted way of making ourselves look good. However, when we live this way, we take away our own joy (as well as the joy of others). We find ourselves living in a world of enemies instead of friends.

Find two good traits in someone you don't like. Dwell on them when you see the person. See how beautifully they respond, and how your own feelings about the person changes. The more people you are willing to feel good about, the better you will feel about yourself as well.

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21 Unfailing Laws of Successful Relationships

30 Days to Lasting Peace of Mind (The Anger Diet)

How To Become Your Own Best Friend (The Art of Building Real Self Worth)

How To Be Un-Defeatable (Finding The Courage To Move On)

Steppingstones to Love

Living and Loving Through Illness and Change

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