Greetings!

March winds blowing, days getting longer, spring not very far away. This is a good time for opening our hearts and minds to what's coming ahead. As we come out of the hibernation of cold witner days, how do we want to move forward and approach the spring blooming? It's fun to prepare out hearts and mind to open and soar.

This newsletter is dedicated to those who wish to learn he simple laws of love and how to practice them in all their relationships. Combining eastern and western wisdom, we discover easy, enjoyable steps to take which help make our relationships all we want them to be and allow us to live life to the brim.

Value Centered Relationships turns all this around. It focuses upon simple, eternal truths that become the pillar of our relationships. Value Centered Relationships by passes the illusions that grip us and cause our relationships to become a source of disappointment rather than delight.Like vitamins and minerals, these basic truths have the power to nourish our lives and make all things fulfilled. Some basic principles follow:

Stop Struggling To Get

Rather than struggle to “get what we want” from our partners, and then “get more of it”, we see what we can give. The question here is, what does my partner want and need of me? Can I give it to him/her? Why not? Rather than wait to be given to, we open our hands and fulfill their need.

When our thoughts are primarily absorbed with what we are needing, and what others are thinking of us, we live in a prison without bars. Any real or imagined insult can become the cause of great pain, causing us to withdraw. Any perceived failure invites underlying feelings of worthlessness to emerge, producing additional depression, hostility and stress

Let Go of Resentment

Rather than dwell upon all the wrongs that have taken place, hold grudges and withhold, we learn to let go. The question before us always is: What am I focusing on this moment? Where is my attention, right now? Is it upon what I lack, or the pains and wrongs others have done me, or is my attention upon what I have received? Can I choose to let go of anger and disappointment and work towards understanding?

Let The Past Be The Past

So many of us live in the past, remembering how things used to be, or repeating old scenarios. This keeps us out of touch with the ever expanding, amazing present, where everything is fresh and possible. The question to ask here is, where am I at this moment? What is happening right now? How I am called to respond?

Reality continually renews and confronts us with new tasks, relationships, challenges, and opportunities, day after day. Are we in touch with this ever-flowing reality?

By taking our attention off our toxic inner dialogue, and focusing upon what is before us, right now, we directly interfere with the habitual patterns that are the very cause of our disappointments and suffering.

Put Your Focus Upon Daily Actions

In Value Centered Relationships, we begin by putting our focus upon simple daily actions and do them whole-heartedly. We ask ourselves, what is needed in the relationship? What can I do to make it better? When I need something I am not receiving from my partner, can I give it to myself?

Don’t Give Passing Emotions Center Stage

Passing emotions do not take center stage. When our actions are guided by temporary reactions, our relationships fluctuate all over the place. When we are driven by self-centered concerns, we never find the fulfillment we crave. When we understand the larger purpose of our relationship, things become simple and clear.

As we learn to value each action (no matter how small or large) and to do it whole-heartedly with complete attention, things simplify. We do not dwell upon the outcome. Our joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences take care of themselves. When we are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can we ever have?

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Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don't know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives.

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Once you discover your Zen love quotient, by doing the exercises in Zen And The Art Of Falling In Love, you can easily raise it day by day.

(Score each question from 1-5. 5 is the highest, 1 the lowest. )

1.I usually see that which is wonderful about the person I am with.

2.I am open to and comfortable with many different kinds of people.

3.When I start a relationship, I do not have strong ideas about where it will go.

4.I find it easy to be pleased by the person I’m with.

5.When something starts going wrong in a relationship, I rarely start to blame.

6.When something starts going right in a relationship, I do not run away.

7. I do not escape into fantasy. The more the person seems to be the one of my dreams, the more mindful I become.

8.I require little to make me happy.

9.When a partner starts to leave, I am thankful for the time we’ve shared.

10.When a partner starts to leave, I do not do all I can to hold him there.

11.It is easy for me to give freely, and to receive.

12. I am not always checking on what I’m receiving, especially before I give in return.

13.It is easy for me to believe others. I am willing to give them a chance.

14. It does not take a long time for me to develop trust.

15. If I find my partner has been untruthful, I am not out of the relationship, fast, I am willing and able to stay and explore why.

16.I can allow each person to be who they are, and allow myself as well.

17.I do not believe each relationship must last forever, or else I’ve failed.

18.I know each relationship is a gift that is only given for a certain length time.

19.I do not require constant feedback about how wonderful I am.

20. I know the Source of all love, and that it never ends.

SCORES

100 - A Zen woman. Able to love freely and fully.>p>B. 70-90 - Riding on the wave of love. Keep going.

C. 50-70 - Moving in the right direction, can use more practice.

D. 30-50 Tend to hide and cling. Make steady use of the exercises.

E. 0-30 - Need guidance and direction. Time to discard negative fears.

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Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e-book.

Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work.

Here are a few examples: Do you do these?

a.Constantly build strategies that do not work.

b.Try to change and manage everyone in sight.

c.Seek relationships for comfort and peace.

d.Get addicted to what makes you feel good.

e.Live in hopes, dreams and fantasies of the future.

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One of the most important aspects of all relationships is mutual respect. If you are consistently feeling undermined by something your partner is doing, it is crucial to discuss it with them, and for them to fully listen and respect the way you feel. His behavior certainly seems inappropriate, and not something you would want to live with your entire life. But beyond that, what is also greatly troubling is the way he dismisses your concerns and calls you crazy. That is abusive behavior. It cannot be permitted to stand. Let him know that unless the two of you can work this through, talk it over and for him to hear and respect your wishes, your relationship is in danger. In your particular case, I think it would be wise to find an objective, well trained counselor and talk it over with them as well.

Learn why relationships don't last

It is easy to get discouraged or overwhelmed by a difficult person or situaiton. Many reach their breaking points and then just give up.

Don't give up on a person. It often looks the darkest just before a time of change. Stay with a difficult person or situation. Keep on giving as much as you can.Provide words of encouragement. Try not to judge. Nothing stays the same forever. There is always a solution if we persevere long enough.

(This does not mean to stay in an abusive relationship).

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

Give someone you care for a copy of one of Dr. Shoshanna's books such as Zen and The Art of Falling In Love, filled with delightful stories, guidelines and steppingstones to love, based on Zen practice.

Or, download a copy of Save Your Relationship, http://www.truthaboutlove.com, and give this. (Together they make a wonderful package).

Would forgiveness make a better gift? Get a copy of The Anger Diet, which leads us from upset and anger to forgiveness and love. (www.theangerdiet.com).Dr. Shoshanna, psychologist and relationship expert, is available for counseling and therapy both in person and on the phone. She is also available for talks and workshops based upon her books.

All of Dr. Shoshanna's workshops offer various ways of discovering optimal balance, fulfillment and well-being. During the interactive workshops, there is an opportunity to heal differences, refresh communication (both with others and with oneself), and become in touch with that which is most nourishing for your life.

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After a relationship ends, whether it's a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn't have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don't really understand what happened, what caused the man to go.

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you.

Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again.

Why Men Leave

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This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and brings new friends into your life. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys well-being - anger.

In Dr. Shoshanna book, The Anger Diet, you'll learn about the 24 forms of anger, the lies anger tells you, and how to stop it fast with the Emergency Technique. Each day you'll give up a different form of anger and replace it with a life changing antidote. The life changing effects of this diet will appear soon after starting.

There's no need to keep going the way you have been. Choose to feel good today. Get a copy of The Anger Diet and see how easy it is to say no to upset.

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