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Thanksgiving is upon us, a time for gratitude, giving, and being with those we care for. This is a wonderful time to take a moment to consciously become aware of all we have received this year, what specifically we have given, and what it is we need to correct or uplift in our lives. A call, note, gift or word of acknowledgment to another can mean a great deal, much more than you can ever imagine. Take the time to do this, and give that which truly matters to both of you.

This newsletter is dedicated to creating optimal balance, well being and inspiration in our relationships and in all areas of our lives.

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Right from the moment we are born, we connect being fed with being loved. When we cry, mother comes and feeds us and we feel safe and cared for. If the food we need is withheld for too long, we believe she doesn’t love us, or is withholding food to punish.

This pattern can continue throughout an entire life. In some cases one person consistently plays the role of the feeder and other the role of the one being fed. Some withhold love so their partner will do what they want of them. Others feed their partners on demand. Sex is often used in this fashion, providing a sense of being loved, wanted, cared for and nourished. When it is withheld or rationed out, the hungry partner feels devastated.

Most are not aware of the many kinds of food the universe abundantly provides. As in childhood, they become fixated on one person, who they see as their sole source of well being.The first thing to notice is the intense orientation towards receiving. The feeling is that in order to feel full and nourished we must be fed. This is the idea of the infant - feed me and all will be well. We must be aware of all kinds of food, emotional,mental and spiritual that are needed in a complete relationship.

It is necessary to stop a moment and recognize exactly what kind of food we are consuming in the relationship, is it healthy, is it food our system can digest? Although fast food may taste good and initially fill us up, it can have bad side effects. The same is true in relationships. Although what we get from our partner is initially hot and spicy it can cause heartburn later on. We can eat all day, but if we do not taste and digest what we are eating, we will never receive the nourishment we need.

Clea spent all her time wanting to change Arnold. “There’s so much that’s wonderful about him,” she said, “but what I’m hungering for, I don’t get. ” Rather than go to another relationship, where she could get what she thought she wanted, she stayed with Arnold, feeling dissatisfied. It was as though Arnold were an apple tree who was giving her fabulous apples, while she was all the time longing for pears. Rather than walk down the street to the pear tree and take one, she railed against this fine apple tree, which could not produce a pear, no matter how hard it tried. But remember, you will never turn an apple tree into a pear tree.

Some of us are simply addicted to being dissatisfied. But in order to live a life of being in love, we must learn to take what is given and offer thanks in return. If we spend all our time wanting to change the person, rejecting their essential qualities, not wanting or valuing what they basically give, this is a sure fire recipe for nausea.

Are we able to absorb what is useful and discard the rest? Can we take in the beauty and value offered, and by-pass that which is not valuable? It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don’t become bitter and spend all your time focussing on that which the person is not able to provide.

Feeding Others We Are Fed

Being loving in relationships means learning how to appreciate the needs of others, and being willing to fill them as much as we can, rather than compulsively focus on our own hunger. As we do this,a strange thing happens, our own hunger fades away. Feeding others, we are fed ourselves. We are able to taste life (and people) as they are given. Our relationships turn around 180 degrees. It no longer becomes a question of what the other is or isn’t giving. It’s a question of what can be offered to him or to her.

As we place our attention upon the needs of others and find ways of giving to them, not only does our hunger subside, but we begin to feel full. As this process continues, there is a deeper lesson to learn, that a never ending source of all kinds nourishment exists within us. We need never feel empty or hungry again.

Parental Mind

Parental mind is the state of mind that wants to care for and nourish others. It is the mind of the mother with a newborn child. A state of unconditional regard for the world we live in. It is not a mind which keeps accounts or continually needs to be filled up and attended to. That flow of nourishment can also be called the action of being in love.

Steppingstones To Love -(Exercises for Everyday Life)

Nourishing Self And Others

1)Favorite Food

What is your favorite food in relationships? What is it you hunger for daily? How do you get fed? Does someone else feed you? Do you feed yourself? Is there some other way you could get this particular nourishment? Take a little while and find out.

2)Emotional Indigestion

What kind of food are you now absorbing in your relationships that you cannot digest? Why do you keep eating it? What do you want from it? Is there some other food that could substitute?

3)Offerings

What are the offerings you bring to life? What are you willing to give unconditionally? Are you receiving joy for doing this? If not, it is not your true offering. Spend time considering what it is that you can truly offer that will nourish and gladden others and you as well. When a large part of our lives consist in making these kind of offerings, we fall in love with life itself.

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The love didn't go anywhere. The love you shared is always with you and a part of you now. You came together at a certain point in your life when you had much in common. At that time you gave to one another and also received a great deal. Over time, people do change. In some relationships it is possible to maintain the bond even when partners grow in different ways. When each gives the other room to be who they are, and does not feel they have to share every activity, it is possible to still maintain enough between you to keep the relationship alive and healthy. In other cases, having nothing to talk about comes from problems and issues in the relationship that have not been explored or worked out. It represents a withdrawal from one another, often fuelled by resentment. And, of course, there are situations where two people do change so much that a relationship is simply hard to maintain as little is left that is mutual. Take some time to truthfully explore which situation you are in.

Find Out The Reasons Men Leave Relationships - You'll Be Surprised

Some of us in the role of authority feel we need to direct and take charge of each person's actions and responses. This leaves little breathing room for others and can make them feel stifled and resentful. True leadership and friendship brings out the best in others.

Today, at work or at home, realize that each person you interact with has wonderful resources of their own. Give them breathing room. Let them be who they are. Allow each person to express themselves as they see fit and find solutions of their own. As you do this, all will thrive in the relationship.

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

After a relationship ends, whether it's a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn't have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don't really understand what happened, what caused the man to go.

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you.

Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

Why keep going without understanding?Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and findthe courage to love again.

Why Men Leave

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e-book.

Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work.

Here are a few examples: Do you do these?

a.Constantly build strategies that do not work.

b.Try to change and manage everyone in sight.

c.Seek relationships for comfort and peace.

d.Get addicted to what makes you feel good.

e.Live in hopes, dreams and fantasies of the future.

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