Greetings!

Here we are in the midst of summer, beautiful days, also filled with unrest. So many feel helpless to stop the difficulties going on in the world. Just as in our private lives, our personal reactions and responses do make a difference though. The more we send thoughts of love, good-will, balance and service the more we calm the general unrest. Then our lives and the lives of our neighbors are soothed and eased. Whatever we personally put into consciousness is felt by all. Although we may not be able to go to a troubled area, our on-going thoughts, prayers and meditations for peace can be felt.

This newsletter is dedicated to creating optimal balance, well being and inspiration in our relationships and in all areas of our lives.

After a relationship ends, whether it's a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn't have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don't really understand what happened, what caused the man to go.

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you.

Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

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Caught in the patterns of our lives,each of us has an intuition of something beyond the way we are now living. This something has the power to dispel sorrow and transform our lives into one of wholeness and joy. It has the power to heal division and offer the strength, compassion and refreshment we all desire.

This is what happens as we live from the wisdom within, our true nature, the essence of who we are. Rather than seek to fulfill everyone else’s beliefs and expectations, when we turn within for wisdom and guidance we have a way of seeing things differently. Rather than respond automatically, we are true to ourselves, to our own perception andvision and then have the opportunity arises to look at the world through fresh eyes. As we do this, we can often grow like flowers, planted in the soil of our daily concerns.

This may also be called, living our lives from the inside out, trusting ourselves and our own intuition. As we begin to do this, we develop a new way of knowing and of being in the world. We do not analyze, explain or justify what happens. Rather than try to mold or control our experience, we simply make friends with it, become acquainted, let it instruct us and be our guide.

First Steps

As we embark upon this pathway, there are certain pointers and warnings which are helpful. Some are listed below: As they become part of your daily lives, you will easily and naturally see how your relationships benefit as well.

Pointers and Warnings

Take a deep breath. We are not going anywhere fast. In fact, we are returning – back to our original home. Put down fantasies, hopes, expectations for a moment. Just simply learn to be where you are. Sit still without moving, and take in all that is going on now. Don’t judge it, hate it, push it away. Be with everything, just as it is. Including yourself.

<Pointer One - Stop Looking For A Quick Fix

A great danger in our lives is looking for a quick fix, believing there are all kinds of wise ones around who have the answers for our lives. That is not the point here. As they say, “Don’t put a head on your head. What’s wrong with your own, anyway?”

Pointer 2 - Give Up Unnecessary Pressure

Most of the time we create all kinds of goals and drive ourselves crazy to reach them. We measure our progress, compare ourselves to others, judge ourselves relentlessly. This is not our way. Here we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally.

One complete breath brings the next. This path is made by walking.

Pointer 3 - Go Back To The Beginning

Many are constantly seeking more and more, exploring new territories, ideas, relationships. They then feel they are advancing and gaining ground. However, many rush forward without really knowing where they are going. Once they arrive, they quickly set a new destination and start rushing to it again. Our way is to return to the beginning. We stop, sit down, look within. We remember where we came from, who we are and where weare headed. We also remember to take care of our simple lives as well as the lives of others along the way.

By returning to our original nature, we remember how to sit,breathe, eat, play and re-claim the excitement, joy and adventure we felt as children, but lost along the way. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

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Certainly, forgiveness is always possible, but it does not mean to simply overlook what happened or push it under the rug. The fact that this affair went on in secret for a year is quite something. You have to sit down with him (probably with a counsellor) and really get to the bottom of why this happened in the first place, and work on issues that may have caused it.

But, beyond that, both of you must realize that trust must be re-established here. This takes time, dedication, patience and the true willingness to go through many feelings which can become uncomfortable. It will be hard for you to trust him now that you know he kept this secret for a year. On the other hand, he did come clean and tell you about it. So, clearly, he wants to get the truth about and hopefully start a course of honest communcation.

Go slowly with this. Get the help you both need and don't make any quick decisions. Time will show you what is best.

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At the end of every day, take a few minutes and write down everything that has happened to you that you feel good about. Call this your book of wins.

Our minds can become like dumpsters, filled only with that which has not worked out. It is crucial to consciously reverse this focus, as whatever we think of, we get more of.

Review the wins of each day for you whenever you get a chance. You can also look back over the past days and be amazed at how much has happened that you're pleased about. When your consciousness is filled with success, that will produce more success for you. It will also make you a happier person and increase your chances of well being.

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

Or, download a copy of Save Your Relationship, http://www.truthaboutlove.com, and give this. (Together they make a wonderful ackage).

Would forgiveness make a better gift? Get a copy of The Anger Diet, which leads us from upset and anger to forgiveness and love. (www.theangerdiet.com).

Dr. Shoshanna, psychologist and relationship expert, is available for counselling and therapy both in person and on the phone. She is also available for talks and workshops based upon her books.

All of Dr. Shoshanna's workshops offer various ways of discovering optimal balance, fulfillment and well- being. During the interactive workshops, there is an opportunity to heal differences, refresh communication (both with others and with oneself), and become in touch with that which is most nourishing for your life.

These programs are available on-going -basis, as talks, half day workshops, full day workshops and on-going seminars. Contact us for more information. tospeaker@yahoo.com

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Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don't know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives.

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with so meone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship.

In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You'll see why it's impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm.

Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now?

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Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e-book.

Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work.

Here are a few examples: Do you do these?

a.Constantly build strategies that do not work.

b.Try to change and manage everyone in sight.

c.Seek relationships for comfort and peace.

d.Get addicted to what makes you feel good.

e.Live in hopes, dreams and fantasies of the future.

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