Greetings!

As we approach summer and the fourth of July, not only do we celebrate the birth of our country, but begin our vacation season, where we allow ourselves to unwind, loosen our schedules, relax, and play. This is a time for adventure, enjoyment, and being freer with ourselves and others. It is a wonderful time to allow ourselves to explore new possibilities not only in our lives, but in our relationships.

Many long for summer romance, and then hope that the love they find will last into the fall. This is an excellent time to discover more about what it means to truly love, and to understand what it is that makes relationships last from one season to the next.

I wish all of you a beautiful summer season, and hope it will be a time of opening, happiness and discovery.

This newsletter is dedicated to creating optimal balance, well being and inspiration in our relationships and in all areas of our lives.

After a relationship ends, whether it's a twenty-year marriage, or a promising romance that becomes disappointing, women ask what went wrong over and over again. Usually they blame themselves, feeling that it they had done something different things wouldn't have turned out as they did. A great deal of the pain and upset is due to the fact that they don't really understand what happened, what caused the man to go.

In this revealing, intimate book, I ask the men themselves and they provide some startling and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, I present men's own words and perspectives about the various reasons their relationships fell apart. You'll be surprised and relieved to hear what they have to say. Usually the reason men leave, has nothing to do with you.

Some of the topics covered in the book include, The Fear of Committment, Ghosts of Past Relationships, The Mid-Life Crisis, The Repetition Compulsion, Competition With In-Laws, The Fantasy Woman, and many others.

Why keep going without understanding? Take new steps today to learn more about men and relationships, feel better about yourselves and find the courage to love again.

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Despite this fact, most women do not feel happy unless they hear those golden words, I love you. Men need to hear them as well. And yet, as much as men want love, many fight it to the last minute. Love can make men feel vulnerable, childlike, and unable to do what’s expected of them. Yet, naturally, men do love and different types of men express their love differently. A woman needs to be alert to who the man she is with is, and what love means to him. Here are five different ways that men express what they are feeling.

The first way is simply by saying “I Love You.” Actually, saying these words is a huge step for some men. It means a lot more than simply expressing a feeling. For some it feels like a life commitment, for others it is fraught with danger. “When I say I love you,” said Steve, “I feel like I’m taking my life in my hands and giving it to her. It’s scary. I’ve got to really trust her and know she won’t throw my love away in order to actually say the words to her.” In this case the fear of rejection comes up strongly. Rejection is enormously painful for most men, and saying "I Love You”, can be an invitation to be hurt. Most men must feel very secure in the relationship and in the woman’s feelings for him, before he’ll dare say those words.

For others, saying “I love you,” means, I’m offering a commitment. I’m going to be here to do things for you. For many men, love is expressed through action, so these words are a promise of what is to follow. Simply by saying these words they feel they are agreeing to be there to give to her and support her. If they don’t do it, they’ll feel like a heel.

For others, the words means, I’m not leaving, or I’ll always be faithful. This can be very scary for some men. They feel the words themselves are a promise, and if the promise is broken, they will suffer as well.

However, there is another type of man, who enjoys falling in love and letting the world know it. These men will say “I Love You” easily. There are many different motives behind their words though. Some say it to get a woman to make love with him, others to enter into a romantic fantasy, some to feel as though they are a great lover. By saying these words, some seem to be offering the woman the world, (that they have no intention of giving). Others say it just for the sheer pleasure of seeing how good it makes the woman feel, and how effective he feels as well.

When a woman hears those precious words, she should step back a moment and put them in context. What do they mean to this particular man, and are there other ways she might also realize that he is expressing his love for her? Another way men express their love is through bringing gifts to the woman. There are many different kinds of gifts a man can give. The obvious ones include those wrapped in packages, candy, flowers, special notes. But there are others that a woman may or may not be aware of. For example, for some men, giving their time to you, is a gift. When they spend more time with you, and less with family and friends, this is their way of saying they love you.

A different way some men express their love is by standing up for you during a difficult time, attending important functions with you, going with you to your family, planning trips, dates or outings, and putting you first in their thoughts. These behaviors are often indicators that the man cares a great deal.

Believe it or not, some men express their love through being jealous, or possessive. They do not want to share your attention. It is especially upsetting to these men if you speak of or look at other guys. Although being controlled is not being loved, to many men and women, the two overlap. Many women feel cared for when the man wants is possessive of her. “It’s a sign that he cares a great deal,” said Renee. “Sure, it can be annoying that he’s so controlling, but if he wasn’t, truthfully, I don’t think I’d feel loved or cared about.” For Renee this kind of behavior produces a sense of security. It lets her know she’s on his mind and translates this to mean that he cares.

Although this trait can get out of hand, when it is just part of the overall equation, it often is the way a man expresses his involvement and love. He doesn’t want to lose you. He wants to be the most important person in your life and to be on your mind all the time. If he is, he feels loved as well.

Other men say “I love you” by being affectionate and making love to you. After being intimate they feel as though they’ve loved you, and often feel loved as well. The physical contact breaks down barriers and provides a feeling of closeness that they do not feel otherwise. Some women require hearing words of love spoken when they are being intimate. This is a complex area, because sex can mean so many different things to different individuals. But for many men love means meeting her needs and having his needs met as well. They feel that if the sex is good, everything else will fall into place. Sex can be a sensitive barometer to what’s going on in all aspects of the relationship.

Another way of saying “I Love You” is taking you home to meet the family, (and/or close, meaningful friends). Not only does it say that he’s proud of you, but he wants to connect you with the people who mean the most to him. This is often a sign that you are becoming a significant part of his life.

Other men compartmentalize relationships, they have someone for dating, someone for sex, someone else for the kind of love that leads to marriage. By being aware of the people in his life that he introduces you to, and includes you with, you can get a good idea of how he operates in this area. Does he want you in all parts of his life, or is this a limited relationship? Love, in the deepest sense, includes sharing all parts of ourselves with another. It is helpful to keep a little journal of your relationship. So many acts and expressions of love go unnoticed and unfelt, because we simply get used to them, or are too busy to stop and take note – or to stop and say thank you. In the journal of your relationship, take a few minutes to note, what you received that day, and also what you gave. Write it down. Be specific. List everything, like phone calls, kind words, a surprise visit, etc. It will be amazing to you to realize all the ways your partner is giving to you, and it will be wonderful to find new ways to give back to him. Cc/2006/author -----------------------------------------------------

"Caring for others,

makes the whole world come alive."

Find out more in: Why Men Leave

It's very easy to get caught up in a fantasy trap, hoping, waiting, believing and dreaming that what we wish will one day come to pass. Sometimes, people fuel our fantasies as this person is doing to you. He gives you some hope, comes close for a little while, even says things which keep you going.

But, the real question is, does his behavior match his words? Is there true reason for hope in what he is doing, or are you involved in dreams and fantasies? These dreams and fantasies can take our lives and years away from us.They are dangerous. They can cause us to live in a make believe world and never find the closeness and love we desire.

Don't pay attention to his words, or to your own hopes and dreams. Simple pay attention to the reality of his behavior.. What is his behavior saying? How long is it going on? What are the facts of the situation? Although this may be painful to face at first,when you are able to do so, you will gain clarity and freedom from this bind you are in.

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If you're at a party, bar or club and someone approaches you, even if he or she isn't your type, spend some time talking with them. Do not blow them off.

It doesn't take much to be thoughtful and kind to an individual who approaches you, even if he or she is not your type. A few moments spent in pleasant conversation can do a great deal to make the person feel good about themselves and better able to approach someone else later.

If you don't care to talk for a long while, just thank them for talking with you and tell them you enjoyed speaking with them and that there is someone else you have promised to spend some time with. This will leave everyone feeling good.

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

Or, download a copy of Save Your Relationship, http://www.truthaboutlove.com, and give this. (Together they make a wonderful ackage).

Would forgiveness make a better gift? Get a copy of The Anger Diet, which leads us from upset and anger to forgiveness and love. (www.theangerdiet.com).

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Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don't know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives.

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Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e-book.

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Here are a few examples: Do you do these?

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c.Seek relationships for comfort and peace.

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e.Live in hopes, dreams and fantasies of the future.

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