Greetings!

As the weather grows warmer, we naturally turn to spring cleaning. Not only do we pack away warm, winter clothes and prepare our homes for balmy days, but an inner house-cleaning is also needed.

This is a wonderful time to re-think the way we approach not only the change of seasons, but the changes and hopes in our lives as well. It is good to stop for a few moments, (or more), and try to make this next season different, to make it a time of true freshness and renewal in all respects.

This newsletter is dedicated to the simple laws of love which show us how to build healthy, satisfying, loving relationships and becoming all we are meant to be.

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to feel calm, balanced and positive no matter what is going on in our lives. This is exactly what you will feel when you begin to work with the unique program inside this e-book.

Living By Zen explores the things that steal your peace of mind, different ways you handle stress and why they do not work.

Here are a few examples: Do you do these?

a.Constantly build strategies that do not work.

b.Try to change and manage everyone in sight.

c.Seek relationships for comfort and peace.

d.Get addicted to what makes you feel good.

e.Live in hopes, dreams and fantasies of the future.

Check out the full story at http://www.livingbyzen.com

Discover The Myths About Stress And Why They Lead You Astray

Value Centered Living turns this all around. It focuses upon simple, eternal truths that we actualize in our daily lives, no matter what is going on. Like vitamins and minerals, these basic truths have the power to nourish ourselves and others, and make all things complete.

Value Centered Living bypasses the illusions that grip us and cause us to search everywhere and feel that we are destined for unhappiness, whatever we do. Rather than struggle to “get what we want” and then “get more of it”, we simply work directly with attention. The question before us always is: What am I focusing on this moment? Where is my attention, right now? Is it upon what I lack, or the pains and wrongs others have done me, or is my attention upon what is right in front of me right now?

Reality continually renews and confronts us with new tasks, relationships, challenges, and opportunities, day after day. Are we in touch with this ever-flowing reality? Are we asking ourselves what we can give to others, or dwelling upon how deprived we've always been?

By taking our attention off our toxic inner dialogue, and focusing upon what is before us, right now, we directly interfere with the habitual patterns that are the very cause of our disappointments and suffering.

When our thoughts are primarily absorbed with what we are needing, and what others are thinking of us, we live in a prison without bars. Any slight, real or imagined, can become the cause of great pain. It can cause withdrawal and retreat into fantasies. Any perceived failure often causes underlying feelings of worthlessness to emerge, producing additional depression, hostility and stress.

In Value Centered Living, we take charge of our focus. First we put our focus upon simple daily actions that are before us, and do them whole-heartedly. We keep in mind our larger life-purpose, and upon daily doing "deeds of worth". Passing emotions do not take center stage. We learn to discriminate between intuitive feelings, and those which are fleeting, and obstruct our growth.

As the Buddha said, we are what we think about. Morita, a Japanese psychiatrist, the founder of Morita Therapy, states that all neurosis comes from frozen attention. Attention that has gotten stuck and fixed upon recurring negative thoughts. In the West we call this obsession. In the world of Zen, this condition is described as being in the grip of one's ego, pre-occupied by self-centered thoughts.

In Value Centered Living, whether applied to our personal lives and relationships, or to the workplace, we learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. We do not dwell upon the outcome. Our joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When we are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can we ever have?

The medicine Value Centered Living offers is simple and direct. It has no negative side effects and the more you take it the sweeter it tastes. As we learn to do each task completely, we then focus upon doing "deeds of worth".

Deeds of worth are deeds that link you to your highest and best self. They are deeds that develop trust, respect and inspiration both in you and those you come in contact with. Each individual has their own particular deeds of worth, and there are specific ways of finding out which ones belong to you.

In order to discover our own deeds of worth, first we must become aware of what is truly meaningful to us. Most are unaware of what they truly value and respect. These values must be identified and manifested day by day. What brings deepest fulfillment, and connects us to all of life? Which deeds are a way of truly giving to others, as opposed to inadvertently causing trouble or pain? As we work in this process, we learn how to discover our own deeds of worth and to do them daily, no matter what is going on.

The most powerful antidote to unhappiness is a strong sense of self worth. This comes about naturally when we live a life worthy of respect. When an individual aligns their highest values and daily actions, they naturally discover their own "deeds of worth".

The next step takes place naturally. As we proceed in this manner we inevitably become conscious of all we are receiving daily and give thanks for it, promptly and completely. In times of trouble, rather than seek others to blame, we turn our attention to becoming aware of the ways in which we have contributed to the difficulty - how consciously or unconsciously, we may have breached a trust. When we realize our part in situations, we naturally make appropriate amends. As this process takes place, it is amazing how little time or room there is for depression, disappointment or feelings of failure. The individual is too busy, engaged in an active, daily practice of self- discovery, friendship, and constructive growth.

"Caring for others,

makes the whole world come alive."

These workshops will be on-going - half day (and then full day).There will be specific steps, exercises, guidelines and information presented.Please let us know if you are interested in more information about this, or to be on the notification list. Contact us at tospeaker@yahoo.com

Workshops and e-classes will also be available on Value Centered Living. Contact us for more information.

Read more about Dr. Shoshanna's work on her website

If someone speaks ill of another, find some good things to say about the person.

Often we hear someone speaking negatively about someone we know. Rather than join in the gossip, or ask for more details, why not turn the whole conversation around. Find some good things to say about the person. You will give a balanced picture and protect this person's reputation and you may stop more unkind comments from being made.

Some people live on hearing bad things about others. Not only is this destructive behavior for the person listening and telling, it can only have a hurtful effect upon those they are speaking of as well.

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

Or, download a copy of Save Your Relationship, http://www.truthaboutlove.com, and give this. (Together they make a wonderful ackage).

Would forgiveness make a better gift? Get a copy of The Anger Diet, which leads us from upset and anger to forgiveness and love. (www.theangerdiet.com).

Dr. Shoshanna, psychologist and relationship expert, is available for counselling and therapy both in person and on the phone. She is also available for talks and workshops based upon her books. For more information contact her at topspeaker@yahoo.com, or http://www.brendashoshanna.com

Learn more about Dr. Shoshanna at her website: http://www.brendashoshanna.com

Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don't know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives.

Probably the biggest need all of us have is to experience a wonderful, loving relationship where we can be ourselves, and share our lives with so meone meaningful. This is exactly what you will be able to create when you begin to work with the unique program inside my e-book, Save Your Relationship.

In the program you will discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to turn them around. You'll see why it's impossible to fail at love, once you understand how to build a foundation that can weather any storm.

Why not throw away old relationship habits and start new right now?

To find out more and order a copy, go to the website, http:.//www.truthaboutlove.com

I am pleased to let you know about my new book just published, The Anger Diet (Thirty Days to Stress- Free Living), Andrews McMeel. Especially at this time of loss,it is so important to know how to handle anger constructively and melt away toxic feelings. There is no end to the available diets and workouts. But the most important diet of all has been overlooked.

This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and upset and makes you feel young again. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys your well-being - anger.

This is a wonderful book for the holiday season. for releasing stress and enjoying the true spirit of the season.

And it's a wonderful gift.

Find out more at http://theangerdiet.com