Greetings!

As the end of year holiday season and new year approaches, so many thoughts, feelings, wishes and memories arise. Along with the joy of being together, and celebrating a new year to come, we are often also filled with a sense of sadness or loss at what has gone on, or at the way our hopes may not have been met.

In addition, this is a time of vulnerability for many of neighbors and friends, who may not have the means or health to celebrate as others can. Take a moment to include others in your celebration. Reach out to those in need. A phone call, visit, or letter can make the difference in someone's holiday and list a sense of sadness.

The best way to approach this holiday season and to make it all it can be, is to think of what you can give to others, rather than what you wish to receive. As we give whole-heartedly, we easily see that giving and receiving are indeed one.

This newsletter is dedicated to becoming all we are meant to be, and expressing it in our lives, relationships and understanding - in bringing joy to the world.

Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don't know the basic laws of love and how to apply them in our everyday lives.

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Find out more at Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)

When we are in love.”

Bhagwan Osho

We are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they don’t feel it’s possible to have the same success in love. They tell themselves to “be realistic.” Being realistic about relationships” is considered natural as we “grow up” and give up the fantasies, foolishness and dreams of childhood. But nothing could be further from natural.

Being in love is the most mature and realistic thing you can do. It energizes your life, fills you with positivity, creates generosity and makes every moment beautiful. The body heals the heart is happy. The real question is, why aren’t we in love all the time?

How can we learn to fall in love with all of life?

Here are some ways to answer that question and turn your life upside down. You will learn how to clear away weeds in your garden and then realize “the entry point is right where you are.”

1)THE ONE RIGHT BESIDES YOU

Most of the time we are searching and searching for the right person. Now it is time to stop running around seeking what is right in front of our eyes.

Look at a person who is close to you right now – anyone it happens to be. Notice the ways in which you push him away. Stop doing that. Allow the two of you to be together in whatever way you are. Let all of it be fine just as it is. Do the same thing tomorrow with someone else. We dismiss so many people who are in our worlds, while waiting for the “right one” to appear.

The more we can be “right” with everyone, the more we can open up to what is being offered now, the fuller and more joyous our lives will be.

2)PLAYING AT LOVE

So many complain that they are not loved. The reason for this can be quite simple. They are so busy playing roles and games that the partner never gets to know who they really are. Notice what roles (or games) you play in relationships, and what roles you demand of others as well. See if you are in love with the person, or with the role he is playing right now. Why not let the roles go and simply be who you are. Who we are is always loveable and beautiful. It’s the roles that get in the way.

3)LETTING HIM COME AND LETTING HIM GO

One great obstacle in living a life of love is the tendency to hold on. We grasp and cling to each, preventing the freedom of love from arising on its own.

When someone comes into your life (or day) practice letting him come. Welcome the person – whoever he is. Enjoy what it is he brings. When it is time for a person to go away, practice letting him go. Do not turn the person’s leaving into an experience of rejection, loss or abandonment. Realize that his leaving has nothing to do with you. It is simply time for him to go.

Do this with yourself as well. Let yourself come and go freely in life, not tying yourself in unnecessary chains. The more we free others and ourselves, the more easily we fall in love.

4)PUTTING YOUR BAGGAGE DOWN

Many feel that love is not possible unless all their demands are met. They can be quite amazed to discover that these demands don’t lead to happiness. They just may be obstacles to falling in love.

Take a look at what you feel is absolutely necessary in relationships. Now look at it again. Realize this is baggage you are carrying that may be keeping all kinds of people and possibilities away. Not only that – this baggage can be making you fearful and rigid, not open to what is available for you.

Let one of these demands subside. At first let it go for just one day and see how it feels to be without it. (Remember you can always take it back again). Now try another day. As we do this many times, we may find that that which we thought was crucial for our lives was really getting in the way. The more we do this the more light and happy we will feel. Not only that, but all kinds of new people, possibilities and situations we never noticed will start coming onto our path. We have made room for them by putting our baggage down.

5)GIVING GIFTS

Giving and receiving are the essence of relationships. To open up to falling in love, it is important to start giving naturally. What gifts do you give others in relationships? Take a few moments and also see what you hope to receive in return. Now find something new you can give to somebody. Give it. Do this everyday. Do it with all kinds of different people, without great fanfare and without expecting something in return.

Then each day take a moment to find out what kind of gift you would like today. (Can be simple – a walk in the park, new lipstick, time with someone you care for.) Now give this to yourself each day. Although this exercise is simple, it is extremely powerful. When you give, remember not to look for anything in return By living with this open, generous mind, all kinds of other gifts come to you naturally.

6)MAKING FRIENDS WITH YOURSELF

Many say they are lonely, even with a partner at their side. This is simply because they have not yet made friends with themselves. Once they make friends with themselves and are able to be who they are, it is impossible to be lonely anymore. Make friends with yourself. Spend time noticing who you are. Accept all parts of yourself. Stop judging and rejecting what is going on inside. Be still and look within. Pay attention to your breath and just notice what is going on. Let it be. Accept it, and return to the breathing. Understand that breath by breath, you are perfect just as you are. Choose to have relationships with those who want and appreciate just what you are. Cc/author/2005 * * * * * *

"Caring for others,

makes the whole world come alive."

Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)

This is for individuals who know how to do zen meditation.

Regular introductory zen meditation workshops will also be available.

If you are interested in more information, please let me know.

Read More Timeless Truths For Everyday Life in Living By Zen, http://www.livingbyzen.com

It is easy to get discouraged or overwhelmed by a difficult person or situation. Many reach their breaking point and then just give up.

Don't give up on a person. It often looks the darkest just before a time of change. Stay with a difficult person or situation. Keep giving as much as you can. Provide words of encouragement. Try not to judge. Nothing stays the same forever. There is always a solution if we persevere long enough.

(This does not mean to accept abuse, or remain in an abusive relationship..it means to do what is healthy and still be there with good will and encouragement. There are many ways of reaching out).

Read more about a life gratitude in Living By Zen (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life)

Please let us know if you are interested in more information about this. Contact us at topspeaker@yahoo.com

More details are on the way.

Dr. Shoshanna, psychologist and relationship expert, is available for counselling and therapy both in person and on the phone. She is also available for talks and workshops based upon her books. For more information contact her at topspeaker@yahoo.com, or http://www.brendashoshanna.com

Learn more about Dr. Shoshanna at her website: http://www.brendashoshanna.com

I am pleased to let you know about my new book just published, The Anger Diet (Thirty Days to Stress- Free Living), Andrews McMeel. Especially at this time of loss,it is so important to know how to handle anger constructively and melt away toxic feelings. There is no end to the available diets and workouts. But the most important diet of all has been overlooked.

This is a diet that releases stress, lets you sleep soundly at night, reduces cravings and upset and makes you feel young again. This diet gets rid of the number one toxin that destroys your well-being - anger.

This is a wonderful book for the holiday season. for releasing stress and enjoying the true spirit of the season.

And it's a wonderful gift.

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