Sharon R. Wells

Editor's Corner

Honoring Your Mind, Body & Spirit

Sharon R. Wells

Today, Creator, help me to see my physical body as a living temple where you live. Help me to respect my body, to love and honor my body.  I know that to treat my physical body with respect, love, and honor is to respect, love and honor your creation.  Help me, Creator, to give my physical body whatever it needs to live in perfect health, harmony, and  happiness with you. Amen.

~Don Miguel Ruiz, "Prayers - A  Communion with our Creator"

We are God's perfect creation and He has designed our bodies to signal us when we reach a physical, spiritual or mental overload. Life has conditioned us to keep pushing on even when our health is deteriorating. We ignore the signs due to fear of jeopardizing our means to survive. The fear is so paralyzing that we keep going, going and going like the energizer bunny. It is only when our bodies bring us to a complete halt, then do we listen. This includes our mental and spiritual health
as well.

Ann Thomas

Radical Self-Love Requires Radical Self-Acceptance

Author, Ann Thomas, Esq., CPCC

To radically accept yourself, you must embrace and come to peace with all parts of you: the beautiful, the damaged, the powerful, the remorseful, and the divine.  Radical self-acceptance means seeing yourself for all that you truly are - neither with rose-colored glasses nor with muddied glasses, but with a clean, clear accurate lens. There are 5 components to radical self-acceptance:  physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and sexual.
 

Radical self-acceptance of your physical form. This means to see your body from a loving point of view.  This is the place where you get to notice how beautiful and amazing your body is.  Notice where your body curves and where it angles.  Pay attention to the parts of your body that you normally neglect.  Be mindful of your organs and how they serve you.  And notice from a place of compassion what you don't like about your body.  If it is something you can change, begin to visualize how you want it to look and feel.  If it is not something you can change, send that part of your body love, and ask the Divine to help you embrace that part of you.   

Radical self-acceptance of your mind.  Your mind is both the holder of infinite possibility and infinite doubt.  The same mind that can visualize a goal is the same mind that can derail that goal by producing a fear-based thought.  Mental self-acceptance requires you to become aware of the full spectrum of your mind.  Once you are aware, you can cultivate a healthier mind by choosing healthier thoughts and eliminating negative ones.

Radical self-acceptance of your emotional being.  Part of accepting our emotional being is recognizing that we experience a painful emotion (anger, sadness, shame, etc.) so that we can fully appreciate its opposite.  You would not really know joy if you haven't experienced pain.  You cannot fully cultivate compassion, if you have never experienced shame.  No, you cannot rid yourself of pain.  But, you can work to reduce the intensity with which you feel it. One way to reduce the intensity is to accept and pay attention to the wounded parts of us (whether it's a wounded child, teenager, or adult).  By doing so, we decrease the chance that those parts of us will create unpleasant situations that force us to pay attention to it.

Radical self-acceptance of your spirit.  This means honoring the divine within you.  All that is good and divine is not outside of you.  The Divine flows within and through you!  But, we tend to forget that.  We think we are separate from the Divine.  We believe heinous things about our worth - thinking that, essentially, we are not good enough.  Radical self-acceptance of your spirit is KNOWING that your true essence is divine.    

Radical self-acceptance of your sexuality.  This means fully embracing your sexuality.  I am not just talking about your sexual orientation - I am talking about fully allowing yourself to have intimacy with your sexuality.  To stay connected to your body and spirit.  Many women I know (especially survivors of sexual assault, molestation, or incest) either underplay or overemphasize their sexuality.  This is in part because of the messages and stereotypes we receive about our sexuality as women.  The same is true of the stereotypes of men, where men are encouraged to be hypersexual to "prove" their masculinity.  But, neither extreme is loving.  What is loving is to embrace the fact that our sexuality is an expression of and a portal for our divine energy.  As a result, we must act on our sexuality from a place of integrity.

As you can see, the common thread to radical self-acceptance is to see yourself holistically, from a place of love and compassion, and most importantly without judgment.  

Ann Thomas, Esq., CPCC, is the author of 101 Affirmations for Radical Self-Love (available on Amazon.com), a certified life coach, and the founder of Evolving Goddess, a company devoted to empowering women to fall in love with themselves so that their lives fall into place.  Visit www.evolvinggoddess.com to get a complimentary copy of the special report, Surviving Rejection: A Step Toward Radical Self-Love, and learn more about Ann's retreats, workshops, and private sessions.  

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The Bank of Self-Worth

Ki Mani Divine

 

Self devaluation comes from the deposit of shame, guilt and compromising personal integrity into the bank of self-worth.
 

Ki Mani Divine

Whenever I have made a decision that went against my gut instinct or core value I devalued my self-worth. Each time I do this I withdraw from the bank of self and became decreased in my self-value until my bank became deficient. This deficiency shows up in my life as lack of funds, not enough-ness in love and affection and self imposed starvation. I of course know my worth is more than I have been accepting so then I deposit the false currency of shame into the bank of self-worth because when I feel worthless shame is an acceptable substitute to love. Accepting the valueless currency of shame in to my bank of self-worth lets me write the checks of guilt to the world because I know what I am giving is a valueless currency of non self-worth. When I use this currency in my interaction with the world I am compromising my personal integrity which in turn continues to deposit shame into my bank of self worth to write the checks of guilt and the compromise of my integrity. This is a viscous cycle.

In order to break the cycle I must first stop writing bad checks. When I am writing a check it is to get something which I desire, love, respect, attention, sex, etc...... First order of business is to stop all action and sit down and create a budget. This means that I will have to live off of whatever deposits of love I have inside. If I am emotionally bankrupt then I will stop the spending of emotional funds that I do not have until I have sufficient funds to withdraw from. It may appear to others that I no longer give and am only taking, taking, taking but I will instill trust into my bank of self-worth by being honest with myself about what I can spend right now. Once I see what I am bringing in I can look clearly at the currency and see it clearly says "In God I TRUST." I realize that, that is the currency I can bank on and deposit. I can make that a daily deposit into my account of self-worth. Through acceptance and work that instills value and self-worth I can budget what I can expend and value my "self" enough not to go beyond my budget. I will reinvest my dividends into more self-worth and value and before you know it I will have a bank account that is worth billions. I live from the overflow of love that is inside and invaluable.

Thought For Today:
When I compromise my integrity I make my-self valueless. When I feel valueless I deposit shame and withdraw guilt. When I spend from guilt I reinvest worthlessness.

Today's Affirmation:
I recognize behaviors, thought patterns and beliefs that support self-worth and self-love. I deposit only the emotional, physical and spiritual currency that is "In God I Trust" and accept no counterfeits. 

 

To become a follower of Ki Mani's spiritual articles, affirmations and prayers, please visit her Blog Spot: http://kimanidivine.blogspot.com.

Ki Mani Prays 
 

Angel Wings Bridge Foundation

If you are a woman who has ever been victimized by sexual/domestic abuse or suffer from substance abuse, AWBF can help you. AWBF offers three individual support group programs that are absolutely free and no cost to you. We are a non-profit organization that empowers you to move beyond victim to survivor. We also assist in creating individual goals to get you started in your healing journey. You gain powerful tools that will help get you in touch with your higher self. All of our sessions are in a group setting and we provide each client with professional resource information and referrals.

Our programs start in October and each group runs for 6 weeks.  The groups will take place at the AWBF office located at: 1235 Morris Avenue, Union, NJ 07083, Lower Level.

There is no fee to join and your participation will be confidential.  We are here to help anyone who has the desire to begin healing.  Please give us a call at, 877.713.8298 for more information. You may also visit our website: www.angelwingsbridge.org or send an email to swells@angelwingsbridge.org or lfarid@angelwingsbridge.org.

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