Sri Bhagavan Teaching - Role of the Father While the Child is  in the Womb

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Question: What is the role of the father while the child is still in the womb?

Answer:  The basic role fo the father is he must make his wife very, very happy and the wife must have very good thoughts about the husband.

Like for example we know of a person who has a very sacastic laughter.  Suppose she were to talk to you, she would laugh at you very sacastically.  So the other person would feel very bad. Now later on we discovered this is so because while this person was in the womb, her mother had a bad relationship with her father. So she was thinking I must get a child who will hurt this man because I'm not able to hurt him.

So this child was born and the father as usual being the violent person that he was--he was violent verbally and otherwise with the child.  And the child used to laugh sarcastically with the father and the father was crushed.

So you see how the relationship which the father had with the wife affected the child in the womb and that child now a grown up child, a big lady who laughs sarcastically and gets into trouble with others.  She doesn not have a good relationship with others because she is laughing--very good person, very intelligent, but the laugh, sarcastically.

How will people tolerate?  So her life is ruined, in some ways it is ruined. So that's why the husband, the father of the boy or the girl, whatever it is, must first of all make his wife happy. An unhappy wife is going to produce a problematic child, if she's going to be unhappy with you.

Especially with the husband, it's very, very crucial. And it's also important that she has good relationships with others too.  The other thing is even though the child is in the womb the father can talk to the child. Daily he can sit and talk saying, "What a wonderful child you are. You are going to be big and great."  Nice positive things: "I'm waiting for you. Welcome to the world." 

All these good things they can talk. They will be registered by the child. The child may not remember it but there are ways in which we can make the child remember also. There are procedures for that. But from there, that will shape up the child's life. 

 What the child is going to do in the future can be determined in the womb itself if the father--the father is more important here. If you want to determine the actual future for the child he must sit with his wife and talk to the child.

Parenting is a very difficult and demanding task.  That is why only those who are really qualified physically, mentally, emothionally, spiritually should have children.  The others, the greatest seva (service) you can do to mankind is not to have children. That can be a big gift or contribution because you are bringing forth into the world a life which is going to suffer like hell, a miserable person who is not only going to suffer, make others suffer and create a miserable planet. 

But today we find that people who are totally unqualified want to have children and they in turn produce, murderers, crooks, rapists, criminals, sadists, failures in life.  So it's a very serious thing and people must know what it is to be a parent. It's very significant and very important for society.

 

 

Sri Bhagavan Teaching - Role of a Mother

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Question:  Bhagavan, today's youth have lost respect for elders and have lost moral values. What is my role as a mother to help these children?

Answer:  See parenting is a very difficult art. That is why I said unless you are really qualified to be a parent please do not become a parent.  That could be your greatest contribution to this planet. Instead of bringing forth life which would not only be suffering, but which would contribute to world suffering. 

So this whole art of bringing up a child starts before conception.

You have to be very clear yourself and your spouse as to what kind of child you want, how should the child be.  You must be very clear about it and you must take sankalpas [intents] that the child must be like this, that is must be like this great soul or that great soul, whatever you want depending on your conditioning, your culture and your belief systems.  You have complete freedom.

Now depending on that you have got to take sankalpas before conception. The moment of conception is very, very important. That art you must learn, and then what happens in the womb is extremely important, what kind of thoughts you have, your husband has got, and at what stage of the pregnancy, what you are are doing.  All these things are very, very important, because your whole life has been controlled by a program.

You're only computers. You don't realize that. You are computers.  The normal computers do linear processing and your brains do parallel processing with a much slower speed. The computers are much faster and you are slower but you have advantages, you do parallel processing, and the day computers would do parallel processing they would become conscious like human beings.

So you are nothing but a computer who is being programmed and your program actually starts before birth, in the moment of conception and what happens in the womb.  That, we basically classify into what are called "four baskets."  Depending on that, it depends upon whether you are going to be successful  or a failure in life,  whether you are going to be prosperous or poor, whether you are going to be healthy or sick. Everything is more or less determined within those nine months.

Then the moment of delivery is very, very important. As the child is being delivered who is watching the child, what comments they are making.  Suppose in a hospital a child is being delivered. The child happens to be very dark and a particular doctor there he does not like dark people and he would think inside, "oh what a dark child this is."  The child would register that.

Remember, until the first six hours it is not a child, it's a full grown adult in a child's body.  It thinks and feels like an adult and records like an adult.  It is recorded and that stays put until the child grows up and dies. The child could be 120 years, until then it is there.

So how the child is being received is very important and the first six hours.  In the first six hours has the child been touched or not?  Have nice things been spoken to the child or not?  All this matters.  So we have separate processes for that. Those of you who are interested, we will help you with that.

So the first six hours, then the first six weeks, six months, six years the program closes. This is called primary programming or the most fundamental programming.  Herein lies the secret of your life, your longevity, whom you are going to marry, what kind of life you are going to have: a mediocre life or an adventurous life, a great life or a normal life.  Everything is determined here.

Then between six and twelve or fourteen is the secondary programming wherein you put some values into the child, you condition the child.  And then between fourteen and the rest of you life it's only what you are learning and you are picking up. The primary programming is the most powerful on which stands the secondary programming which is not so powerful, and on which stand the tertiary programming which is not so powerful.

These three together are what are controlling your life. Now if you want to have a real change in your life you must tamper with the primary programming. The secondary and tertiary are quite easy to handle.

Now, to set right your own programming the best tool you have is inner integrity. If you use that you will set right your own programming. 

So before you talk about your child, you must set right your own programming as a very loving mother, as a very kind mother, as the right kind of mother. How?  By using the tool of inner integrity.

Once you use it you will know who you are. Then you'll know who your child is. Unless you know who you are, you will not know your child. Unless you know who you are, you will not be able to accept yourself. If you cannot accept yourself, you cannot accept your child.

You think you accept, you really do not accept. That's the problem between you and the child.  If you accept yourself, you'll love yourself. If you love yourself, you'll love your child.

Once you have discovered love for your child and start giving [to] that child, whatever be the child's program that program would get rectified. The child would change. You'd have a wonderful child.

Words of Sri Amma on Strength and Courage

There is always a special place in my heart for those who are dedicated to the cause of liberation of humanity. Remember, your thoughts are known to you alone. Your words are known to you and the listener    which nonetheless are forgotten with the passage of time. While the service you render alone shall stay for eternity. It will benefit all life.

 

The highest of states is the state of seva (service). The spirit of seva is inbuilt into every insight, realization, mystical experience, and mukthi (liberation). It is this spirit that drives you to share with the world what has been given to you.

 

The Divine is like the body and humans the cells. Whenever these cells turn cancerous the body desperately tries to heal itself. Body is infinitely more powerful than any individual cell. But the individual cell, too, has power which it acquires from the body. It uses this power to either cooperate or defy the body. So it is with man and God. Man, too being powerful, is defying the Divine.

 

 It is not possible to transform the world without his cooperation. However, the present state of affairs cannot go on for long. Ultimately it is the will of the Divine that will come to pass.

 

Transforming the world is not just the responsibility of a few sages and seers. To create a better world is the responsibility of every one of you. In this struggle for survival, innocence, love, and values are being lost. It is you who have to uphold these values.

 

Do not consider yourself to be ordinary beings. Each one of you has the infinite powers of the Divine within you. You have the power to see God in the heart of every human being, and once you begin to see the Divine in every man you will be able to love every living being, every individual. Through you God's power would flow into the world.

 

Do not get habituated to lovelessness through your words, through your loving actions, and through your service. You could awaken every human being from his stooper of sufferings, self-created misery, and ignorance.

 

It is because of you the whole world could be awakened. Your taking up this responsibility is the beginning of the Golden Age.

 

There are thousands whose lives need to be affected by you. It is my will that this work shall happen through you. No matter how many may emerge, fulfill your part yourself.

 

 When the time for transition arrives the Presence would engulf humanity like a tidal wave and alter its consciousness. Be not perturbed. Do what is expected of you. Share your wisdom and the power of Oneness Blessing with others. The rest will be taken care.

 

Get going with your work and help your fellow humans. All things will fall into place. No matter what your thoughts are, I will liberate you.

  

The nature of mind is to find fault with others, judge, blame, and label others due to preconditioned perception. If the perception is negative then the mind keeps on commenting, 'He is bad, she nags, he does not understand me, she is too suspicious, they do not love me, I have no respect in the family, everybody uses me', and so on.

 

Everything would be colored, hence you would continue to blame others and hence we develop dislike. Dislike slowly turns into hatred which spoils relationship. Because of this broken relationship, however good the others are we are not able to 'see' the truth.

 

Mind generates logic due to fear but heart emanates truth. Fear is manifesting as hatred, jealousy, anger, and violence in families and society. Stress comes not because of physical work but from negative approach. We can see truth only when we love others. Logic destroys love. It is not possible to love after you have judged. Hence we suffer.

 

 Unless we learn the art of 'seeing' with inner integrity, we will not be able to see the truth and discover love. If we can love only then we can forgive and seek forgiveness. One should develop extreme patience to maintain love and peace in the relationship.

 

God's grace flows naturally to those whose relations are set right, particularly with the parents.

 

Awaken to your destiny. That is what you are here for.

 

It is the nature of creation to hold future a mystery. However, what you should do in your future is up to you to decide. Surrender does not imply laziness. You have the power and the ability to make your choices.

 

Make use of all the opportunities that come your way. I will help you reach your desired goal.

 

For a glorious future to be, desire must flower into passion and manifest as action. Your attention must be focused on your goal. Giving up to the Divine does not mean non-action. This is karma bhoomi, the plane of action. Hence effort in the external world is inevitable.

 

My grace will go along with you in your efforts.

 

Whatever be your nature since you have asked me, you will have an experience of my power. Go home and chant the Moola Mantra. You will see my grace for yourself.

 

Security is possible only when it is shifted to God.

 

Faith or no faith, I am in you and with you at all times.

 

 "How long?" is the wrong question. Pray until grace floods.